Finding it hard

abidabi

Bit of a depressing one but feel like I'm really finding this pregnancy very hard, with constant fatigue, nausea,bloating and hormones it's starting to get me down, I'm 9 + 5 so hoping it won't last much longer, this is also my first baby, had a blighted ovum back in February so I am grateful that I'm pregnant again just letting off some steam I guess

BostonBaby1

I'm so sorry that you're feeling awful! I know that it's hard to be PGAL and complain, I think most of us feel guilty about that, but it's okay not to love being pregnant… Especially in the first trimester! Hope you feel better mama!

adecembermom2015

That is around the time I started feeling relief. Hope it is right around the corner for you. Hang in there.

flyingmombula

I've heard a really good book is Pregnancy Sucks. Been meaning to pick that one up. 

abidabi

I love being pregnant, just hate feeling pregnant, just seem to be getting every symptom going ATM! Had a scan at 8 weeks and everything looks perfect and I look at the picture and know it will be worth it, just feeling like poop!

flyingmombula

I feel ya on that. My nausea has been very mild to non-existent, so I'm lucky (my mom was the same way). Only threw up once and was ravenous right after. My fatigue and bloating are extra bad though. Only thing is I'm kind of prone to UTI's and I hate-hate-hate them, they hurt so bad (last one turned into a kidney infection) and am really not looking forward to not being able to take meds if I get sick. 

BostonBaby1

Absolutely! That's exactly what I mean. It can leave you feeling physically awful, but it will be well worth it in the end! And, the second trimester will be here sooner than you know it.

ammnam14

I hear you girl. I'm not enjoying this pregnancy at all. I have a lot of friends that are just enjoying every healthy second, and I can barely get out of bed by noon. It's to the point where I honestly do not want anymore kids after this baby, and this is my first. It's so hard to enjoy anything right now

grkgdss00

Hey due date buddy! hoping things start to ease up for you, I'm just now starting to feel some lessening symptoms with the fatigue and nausea.

abidabi

Never like to wish time away but in this case 2nd trimester can't come quick enough lol! Thank you lovely ladies for listening I don't like to complain about this kind of thing but I needed
A good moan

abidabi

grkgdss00 said:

Hey due date buddy! hoping things start to ease up for you, I'm just now starting to feel some lessening symptoms with the fatigue and nausea.

My dates the 28th of dec? Hope mine eases up soon!

dp1320

Girl, I feel ya. I hate being pregnant - I hate everything about it (besides the baby that you get at the end, which is the point of all of this, isn't it?) ... but don't feel guilty for not enjoying it. I felt so guilty for not enjoying my first pregnancy... but not everyone has to think pregnancy is magical and beautiful... some people just don't like it, and that's ok! What's there to love about extreme fatigue, nausea, hot flashes, food aversions, rapid weight gain... um not a lot. But just keep your eye on the prize and while it sucks in the moment, it does go by fast ... and you may even be crazy enough to do it again.

mfarglio

I am right there will you (10 weeks 1 day) and I've been getting really discouraged. It's to the point that I don't even like leaving the house unless I absolutely have to because I've thrown up so many times in public that I just want to spare myself some embarrassment at this point.

But I've been thinking of it this way- when I was in high school I hated running, but I ran track. I dreaded every practice because they were painful and quite frankly awful but after every single track meet I would look at the medals I won, or my personal records I beat and every injury tear and time I wished I was dead during sprints felt totally worth it. I'm thinking this will feel the same when I'm holding my little babe, and I'm sure it will be for you as well.

When it gets REALLY bad and I find myself feeling guilty for hating my pregnancy so much I lay a onesie on my chest and imagine what it will feel like to have my baby there. Sometimes I sing to the baby too, even though it can't hear me yet.

It sucks feeling like crap about something that should be a magical time, especially since you're PGAL, but for some people it really is miserable and it's completely natural to not feel like shitting rainbows and unicorns when you feel this way.

Hope you feel better soon.

LMJL

Was just talking to a girlfriend who told me she really didn't like being pregnant, but she loved breastfeeding & had easy labor. And she is a fabulous mom! So it's alright to not to enjoy this at all. Maybe you'll be like her! Also, Ive been lucky this time & just have nausea & no vomiting, but when I can, some exercise really helps my state of mind, even just a slow walk. Hope you feel better soon!

slabancz

Yeah I hate to say it but I absolutely hate being pregnant. I feel so useless and just horrible all the time from the nausea and vomiting. I keep telling my husband that at this rate I don't think I could handle being pregnant again.

BabyVAZ

Bring pregnant is a mirical. A true blessing. Just enjoy it as much as you can. It's all worth it. Bad days happen don't best yourself up xo

nellybellycat

Im right there with ya! Im 11 weeks and still sick. I told my husband this is it, only child. I had a loss as well. Just bc we hate being pregnant in no way does that mean we'll hate being mothers or that we are bad people. I get a lot of slack from my MIL but she never had ms and claims she loved being pregnant and never had more energy blah blah. Not everyone is that lucky

abidabi

Thank you ladies, nice to know I'm not the only one! Like I said I just keep looking at my scan picture and I know it will be worth it! Roll on 2nd trimester!

motherof2monkeys

Hang on in there! So many of us know exactly what you're going through. This is my second pregnancy and as soon as I started feeling all the horrid symptoms again I was like "err how did I forget it was this bad?!?". I'm miserable and sadly I can't hide it. Just remember it's not forever and it's all for an amazing cause (frankly I find it hard to remember that and feel like telling those who tell me that to b***er off and just lie somewhere in my own nauseous/exhausted/sciatic misery!!!). As soon as you start feeling better though you feel AMAZING as it's such a contrast. Xxx

motherof2monkeys

Was that even helpful?! I'm not sure! Sorry. I may have used the opportunity to vent myself...☺️

abidabi

Haha feel free to vent! I know what u mean, my friend is also pregnant and she's having a lovely time! Bitch! (Just kidding) I just love those occasional couple of minutes in a day where I feel like my old self! Bliss

mollyjeanh

It will get better, I promise!

fiorip

Yes pregnancy is a miracle, but it's still a bitch. I'm 11 weeks today and I can tell you it will get better, from week 4-10 I was miserable. Since last week it's been better, I don't feel sick and exhausted everyday, I had three days last week that I felt energetic and had barely any nausea. Hang in there! Hope you start feeling better sooner rather than later!

Taylovesbrad

Literally am so glad I'm not al9ne. I'm 13 and 5 and this is getting so old! Hope and pray we all feel better soon.

abidabi

We can be poorly girlies together, hope we all feel better soon [-O<

hcdmdf

I'm 13w5d and I was just thinking today that if my first pregnancy had been like this one, I might have chosen one and done. Though my nausea isn't severe is is constant and grinds me down. I am having a hard time dealing with it and the bloating and fatigue and on top of it all, breaking out like a goddamn teenager. Sigh. Waiting for it to just start settling down

susiaustin

Can it be December already?? My mom keeps telling me that baby doesn't have a calendar so it doesn't know it suppose to be behaving because I'm in my 2nd trimester... Time for a nap for me...

4puddleducks

I felt so nauseous, tired and sore until the day I hit week 12. I have felt so much better since then. I am excited for the second trimester! I agree that had I felt this way during my first pregnancy combined with the complications I experienced with DS, I may not have wanted to do it again. With that being said, DH and I had agreed on two kids from the beginning so I am glad that this is our last pregnancy. It is ok to be excited about being pregnant and not love the pregnancy symptoms. 

vintner77

Left work at noon today and as soon as I walked in the front door I threw up 3 times. Yay...sarcasm. This has not been a fun process. Yes this is a miracle and I couldn't feel more blessed but so far pregnancy is simply a means to an end. Feeling awful. 9 wks 5 days.