We have a daughter who just turned 3 last month and I am currently 28 weeks pregnant. My husband and I both work 40 or more hours a week. We do what I call split shifts, I work 5:30-3 and he works 9:30-7:30 so our daughter has less time in school (daycare), so he does mornings and I do evenings. This schedule works out great for us...well normally, lol, me bein pregnant has made it harder but we manage So now I am stressing about how this is all going to work with 2. I am scared of the dynamic change, how it will affect our daughter, scared that I wont be able to give enough love and attention to both. I talked to a freind this weekend who had to quit her job because her son was only sleeping a few hours at night and it was wearing on her and her husband so she had to quit.
I would love to hear from you all. Good or not so good experiences.
Thank you
Re: For Working Moms with 2+ kids...
As a note, my littlest never slept either, but I never felt like I had to quit my job. It's a temporary deal. Drink coffee and get over it. We ended up bed sharing which is not for everyone, but it worked for us.
When I was out for maternity leave with this last one, I spent a lot of time with SAHM friends. I learned something from them. They were also frazzled and busy. I asked myself how that could be? Because, KIDS. If kids had it their way, they'd be by our sides all the time. They can't get enough of us. Whether we work away from home, in the home, or don't work, the kids want to spend all of their time with us. And no matter what we do, we have responsibilities which take us away from our kids. And we get mom-guilt about it.
I also learned that the ages where they want to spend with us will go by quickly. Soon they'll be teenagers who are embarrassed by us. So I'm giving up on things which aren't important, like getting a stain out of the shirt DS will probably outgrow next month anyway. Or having a perfect beach body. DH is cutting back on work hours. I'm not taking on extra work duties which could boost my career. We're investing money into hiring people to do stuff (like mow the grass) so that we have more time together. That means we have less discretionary spending, but oh well. It's about priorities for us
Soapbox done. Also, I jsut went back to work after maternity leave a week ago. I'll probably laugh at this post in another month, when everything falls apart.
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Current Age 35, DH 33
Married 9/2011
BFP 8/2012, Miscarried 9/2012
BFP 9/2012, DS 6/2013
BFP 6/2014, Miscarried 7/2014
BFP 7/2014, DD 4/2015
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TTC#1 2003 BFNs, 2004-2009 5 angels above
2010 IVF-PGS-FET#1, DD b. Aug-2011
TTC#2 2012 BFNs, 2013 FET#2, DS b. Nov-2013
TTC#3 2015 BFNs, FET#3 (my 6th and last angel above)
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