This isn't real, it just isn't. There's 3 or 4 users on here I've suspected is one person trolling for a few days now. And if this is real then I quit the human race.
When did becoming a parent under 21 become trendy? In my day (because I'm old) getting pregnant before college was literally a nightmare.
When one person decided to do it and then created 5 different user names to talk about it on here.
I'm sorry, but I am seriously side-eyeing these posts as of late.
How many young-mothers-to-be suddenly popped up over night after the shit storm that happened yesterday (or was it the day before, whichever).
On the off chance that this is all just a weird coincidence, I agree with PPs. You're too young to be making this decision, and you're being extremely irresponsible. I teach high school, so I witness teen pregnancy a lot. I can't get behind it. It is a choice you have complete control over, and you are making the wrong choice.
This isn't real, it just isn't. There's 3 or 4 users on here I've suspected is one person trolling for a few days now. And if this is real then I quit the human race.
When did becoming a parent under 21 become trendy? In my day (because I'm old) getting pregnant before college was literally a nightmare.
Unless your day was in the 1950's there is actually a lower rate of teen pregnancy now.
OP, I really hope you take some time and really, truly, deeply, consider this permanent situation you will put yourself, your boyfriend, and a potential human being in. You want to give your sweet future child the very best shot in life you can possibly provide. I know that you do. You need to figure out what that means. Perhaps you can put your energy into getting your life into that place. Make a list of things you want to accomplish or do before you have a baby. Things like: Finish school, get a great job, health insurance, marriage, travel, mend relationships with your family (if possible), set up and maintain a savings account... etc.
Give your future baby the best future. Don't give your child anything less simply because you are in a rush and feel like you need to fill a hole - your future baby deserves so much better than that.
When did becoming a parent under 21 become trendy? In my day (because I'm old) getting pregnant before college was literally a nightmare.
Since MTV started paying pregnant teens to star in their very... own.. TV episode!! Woot woot!!
Actually there is quite a lot of data which suggest these shows caused or contributed to what is currently the lowest rate of teen pregnancy we have seen since the 1950s.
Yes I know how to do all of that. I'm not a stupid young minded girl. You guys fail to realize that sometimes young couples could be just as successful as older couples. Just because you are 26 and married do you think there's no chance you and your husband can split up? I have had a lot of time to think about my decision. As for he "support system" I don't have one besides my boyfriends family. I do not speak with my family. You ladies can judge me all you would like, but I'm smarter than average. I'm not a young girl who runs around sleeping with everyone and just gets pregnant and has no back up plans, or goals for myself. I have all my cracks covered.
If my husband dies, or we get divorced, I am able to support myself and my two sons with my salary alone.
Yes I know how to do all of that. I'm not a stupid young minded girl. You guys fail to realize that sometimes young couples could be just as successful as older couples. Just because you are 26 and married do you think there's no chance you and your husband can split up? I have had a lot of time to think about my decision. As for he "support system" I don't have one besides my boyfriends family. I do not speak with my family. You ladies can judge me all you would like, but I'm smarter than average. I'm not a young girl who runs around sleeping with everyone and just gets pregnant and has no back up plans, or goals for myself. I have all my cracks covered.
If my husband dies, or we get divorced, I am able to support myself and my two sons with my salary alone.
I'm curious now. What is your back-up plan, OP, if life doesn't go as planned?
When did becoming a parent under 21 become trendy? In my day (because I'm old) getting pregnant before college was literally a nightmare.
Since MTV started paying pregnant teens to star in their very... own.. TV episode!! Woot woot!!
Actually there is quite a lot of data which suggest these shows caused or contributed to what is currently the lowest rate of teen pregnancy we have seen since the 1950s.
When did becoming a parent under 21 become trendy? In my day (because I'm old) getting pregnant before college was literally a nightmare.
Since MTV started paying pregnant teens to star in their very... own.. TV episode!! Woot woot!!
Actually there is quite a lot of data which suggest these shows caused or contributed to what is currently the lowest rate of teen pregnancy we have seen since the 1950s.
Oh, good to know! Well, in this case, perhaps OP would benefit from watching a few episodes...
Yeah, it definitely made me feel better about watching it. I can't for the life of me imagine how someone could watch that show and think being a teen mom would be a good life decision. And guessing OP has seen this show due to her age - so how can she not see that it's a bad move? One of the only mothers who actually stayed with the baby daddy is the one who gave her child up for adoption. I think there may have been one or two more, but they are just VERY much the exception to the rule. They had tons of family support - which OP definitely does not.
I watch two episodes of True Detective with DH and things get crazy!
OK, I agree with all prior points, so the only thing I want to add is that I'm concerned a lot of this is related to your MC. Finding out you were pregnant made you have to look at life and figure out a plan, and once things were lined up, you had a horrible loss. It makes sense to want to continue with what you had planned and to find comfort in becoming pregnant again. But just because it makes sense doesn't mean it's the right decision. Ask yourself if this is what you would want if you were never pregnant before. I mean really ask yourself that. Because it won't be helpful to anyone in this situation if you move forward with your plan based on a horrible loss.
Me: 28, DH: 28 Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007 Married: July 2013 Began TTC: June 2015
hi everyone. Just wondering does age really affect your fertility? I am young, some of you might say to young to even be on this board but here I am this is the right step for me and I just want to know if age really does affect your fertility when your young
Infertility can affect anyone of reproductive age.
I am almost 32 with two kids. So, in my case age was not a factor. I'll have to see how long it takes me when we go from "just having sex whenever" to timed sex.
Now I must know how old you are? It's like a theme these days with the kids fresh out of high school wanting to get KTFU.
Ok, I will be the bad guy, here. You're not going to like me, but that's ok because I do not support teen pregnancy.
There is a very big difference between being physically capable and emotionally/mentally capable in having a baby. In this case, you may be physically able to conceive and carry a child, but at 18, it is nearly impossible to be emotionally and mentally capable for pregnancy and childbirth.
Parenthood is not high school and it is not a game. It is a huge responsibility that should not be taken lightly. I know that at 18, you may think you're ready to bring a baby into this world, but I am most certain that there are things you are missing out on. Have you analyzed the financial aspect of parenthood? How much it costs to clothe, feed, and diaper an infant? How much daycare costs are? How you will complete school with an infant? I watched an episode of 16 and Pregnant the other day (forgive me- there was nothing else on!) and the father of the baby thought they were going to be "ok" because his paychecks were bringing in at least $900 a month. A MONTH! That will not even cover rent.
Have you considered the toll parenthood will take on your relationship? Of course, there are some (few) young couples who "make it", but that is NOT the norm. There is a very small chance that your relationship will survive parenthood, if it even survives the pregnancy! I believe most people would agree in that they would prefer to have both parents raising the child together.
You are likely headed for a very, very hard life. I'm sure you've thought about it, talked about it with your partner, talked about marriage maybe... But unfortunately, the media makes teen pregnancy seem glamorous, when in fact, it's ugly.
You have your whole life ahead of you! You have choices and options in life! Being a parent is definitely one of them, but you have that option today at 18 and ten years from now at 28, after you've lived a little more! Give yourself the option to go to college. Make new friends. Grow up. Get drunk on your 21st birthday. Travel to FL on spring break in college. Find a fulfilling career. Maybe even get a promotion at work! No need to rush! Obviously, all these things are possible even with a child, but the stats are so very slim. And, give your future child/children the life they deserve, too.
I know I'm the bad guy, here. I'm cool with that! You may not have even gotten to the end of this post before checking out, but I had to get this out for my own sanity... There have been FAR too many posts from very young potential mothers lately and I needed to get it out there that I CANNOT support teen pregnancy. I'm sure there will be others on this board who agree.
So I know that OP will probably never read this/return... but I wanted to share this for anyone else who might be interested. Being young does not mean you will automatically have an easy great pregnancy and birth. In fact, studies have shown that teenage mothers are more likely to have babies with a low birth weight, get pre-eclampsia, and are even more likely to give birth to babies with genetic abnormalities, when compared with women in their 20s and even 30s.
Did anyone else feel 50 at the point she said she liked getting advice from older women? It was almost as bad as the teenager that quoted lyrics to me a few weeks ago that were written by "Jayden Smith's dad." I feel so old...
Me: 28, DH: 28 Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007 Married: July 2013 Began TTC: June 2015
hi everyone. Just wondering does age really affect your fertility? I am young, some of you might say to young to even be on this board but here I am this is the right step for me and I just want to know if age really does affect your fertility when your young
Infertility can affect anyone of reproductive age.
I am almost 32 with two kids. So, in my case age was not a factor. I'll have to see how long it takes me when we go from "just having sex whenever" to timed sex.
Now I must know how old you are? It's like a theme these days with the kids fresh out of high school wanting to get KTFU.
She's 18
Sorry but I can't support someone willingly bringing their kid into a life of hardship. Accident? Ok shit happens. TTC when your brain isn't even done developing impulse control? Nope nope nope.
It's the overt, deliberate act of "don't care what anyone says, I want it now!" Type thinking that drives me batty.
Children are not playthings, accessories or things that you can give back once you are done playing with them. You can be academically gifted but with the common sense God gave a goat. Your book smarts are not putting diapers on the kid's butt or formula in their mouth. You can't just quit on them because you are done playing.
I support informed, prepared adults having babies. I can't support children playing house & bringing in kids to deliberately have the deck stacked against them.
I cannot. I refuse. It makes me ragey to see this.
Did anyone else feel 50 at the point she said she liked getting advice from older women? It was almost as bad as the teenager that quoted lyrics to me a few weeks ago that were written by "Jayden Smith's dad." I feel so old...
I feel old all the time lately. My younger cousin (my 1st cousin's child) had a 90's themed sweet 16. I cried. I also had another cousin say how she wished she grew up on the early 00's because we had the best music. I was like NO you cannot covet my teenaged years, I'm too young!
Dashboard Confessional is the shit, though, lol
Me: 28, DH: 28 Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007 Married: July 2013 Began TTC: June 2015
Did anyone else feel 50 at the point she said she liked getting advice from older women? It was almost as bad as the teenager that quoted lyrics to me a few weeks ago that were written by "Jayden Smith's dad." I feel so old...
I feel old all the time lately. My younger cousin (my 1st cousin's child) had a 90's themed sweet 16. I cried. I also had another cousin say how she wished she grew up on the early 00's because we had the best music. I was like NO you cannot covet my teenaged years, I'm too young!
Dashboard Confessional is the shit, though, lol
I legitimately love Screaming Infidelities. No lie, that was break up song when I kept breaking up and getting back together with my high school BF.
I saw Chris Carrabba has a new band, but I've never listened to anything. Twin Forks, either of you listened to anything?
Thank you ladies for all your advice. I simply came here like every one of you. To ask questions, lurk, & learn. Not to be judged based of my decisions in my life. I respect all of your opinions, as everyone is entitled to. But can we move off the subject. My stability and financial stability is not a concern to anyone but my boyfriend and I.
@SophiaDiaz I know that you probably came here looking for affirmation on what sounds like a decision you have already made for yourself. The women on this board are motivated by proactive attitudes and a genuine concern for other women who are making healthy decisions for themselves. In the same vein, women on this board are honest. It's not productive for us to lie to each other. This is one of those times where the hard truth is necessary, because we are talking about the highest possible stakes. Being a parent is one of the most important things any of us will do in our entire lives. What that means is that before our children are even born, we have a responsibility to make decisions that are in their best interests. Being a teen mom with no post-high school education, no familial support, limited finances and a boyfriend you've been with since before puberty is far from the best interest of a child in my opinion. Intelligence is an asset, but it doesn't equate to life experience, financial wherewithal or self-sufficiency.
Trust me, I remember being 18 and feeling the first swells of baby fever hit. It's hard! No one is disputing that. But the responsible, maternal thing to do here is wait until you're in a position where you are the best you can possibly be for your child, mentally, emotionally, and professionally. You're not there because you just haven't had time yet.
Have you ever heard the expression about ducks? If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck...it's probably a duck? Same thing here. You are getting the same response across the board for a reason...
I did read through all these comments, and I don't think anyone is being judged and nobody is hurting my feelings. I didn't come here for affirmation. I had questions just like all the other bumpies on here. I already had my questions answered on a different board. That was all I needed.
Ooff this thread hurts my brain! I was with my current DH at 18 but even knowing where we ended up now ten years later, getting pregnant at 18 would have been a tragedy and ruined my life. We weren't mature enough to handle it and probably would have killed each other and/or broken up, whichever came first. Neither of us would have finished college, we wouldn't have careers, a house, etc.
Not being able to see the consequences of that decision further proves OP doesn't fully grasp the gravity of how a child changes your life. I am now 28 and I have days I question whether we are ready! Even if you are the most mature 18 year old ever, I truly believe it is not possible to be mentally or emotionally prepared for a baby at that age. Yes, it happens and people survive, but most would tell you it would have been easier if they waited until they had lived life and become "old person stable", not 18 yo stable.
I did read through all these comments, and I don't think anyone is being judged and nobody is hurting my feelings. I didn't come here for affirmation. I had questions just like all the other bumpies on here. I already had my questions answered on a different board. That was all I needed.
So our concerns about teen pregnancies and the well-being of your future baby are of no importance to you? Okay.
Thank you ladies for all your thoughts and opinions. At the end of the day I do not need to sit here and explain my life, decisions, or way of thinking to anyone. You guys are basing that my kid will have a tragic life of my age. None of you know me or my life standards and how I am living. Definetly do not know my financial stability. I to can afford to raise my child by myself if my BF decided to leave. You also don't know my relationship with my BF and I don't need to explain anything to anyone. Yes the simple fact of me wanting a baby is because I want one, I want a family. Just like the rest of everyone on here, you all WANT to start a family.
Thank you ladies for all your thoughts and opinions. At the end of the day I do not need to sit here and explain my life, decisions, or way of thinking to anyone. You guys are basing that my kid will have a tragic life of my age. None of you know me or my life standards and how I am living. Definetly do not know my financial stability. I to can afford to raise my child by myself if my BF decided to leave. You also don't know my relationship with my BF and I don't need to explain anything to anyone. Yes the simple fact of me wanting a baby is because I want one, I want a family. Just like the rest of everyone on here, you all WANT to start a family.
No. We know that you're 18, areas of your brain are not done growing, and honestly this is not a smart, mature decision.
Thank you ladies for all your thoughts and opinions. At the end of the day I do not need to sit here and explain my life, decisions, or way of thinking to anyone. You guys are basing that my kid will have a tragic life of my age. None of you know me or my life standards and how I am living. Definetly do not know my financial stability. I to can afford to raise my child by myself if my BF decided to leave. You also don't know my relationship with my BF and I don't need to explain anything to anyone. Yes the simple fact of me wanting a baby is because I want one, I want a family. Just like the rest of everyone on here, you all WANT to start a family.
I completely understand wanting a family. What I do not understand is this cart before the horse mentality. You do realize that having a child with your bf will link the two of you together for the rest of your lives, right? Aside from your age, it's concerning to me that you are planning to bring a child into the world with someone when you two don't even seem to have any long-term plans set. I grew up in a small town. I have some friends who got married young (not because they were pregnant, btw) and then ended up having kids right away. But the idea of an 18-year-old intentionally trying to get pregnant with her bf is a totally new concept to me. (Hope I'm not opening up a can of worms here, but this has really been bothering me).
Me: 30 DH: 35
TTC #1 - Jan 2015
BFP on 5/13/15 DD born 1/24/16 TTC #2 - Jun 2017 BFP on 8/24/17
Thank you ladies for all your thoughts and opinions. At the end of the day I do not need to sit here and explain my life, decisions, or way of thinking to anyone. You guys are basing that my kid will have a tragic life of my age. None of you know me or my life standards and how I am living. Definetly do not know my financial stability. I to can afford to raise my child by myself if my BF decided to leave. You also don't know my relationship with my BF and I don't need to explain anything to anyone. Yes the simple fact of me wanting a baby is because I want one, I want a family. Just like the rest of everyone on here, you all WANT to start a family.
True, but I put my WANTS on hold until I had a degree, a house, a professional career and savings. We started a college fund for our kids before they were even conceived. (You can get a 529 Virginia plan in your own name and use it for your kids later.). There is no reason to have a baby now, when instead you could wait a few years until you are self sufficient and educated.
But here's a tip for the future, if you don't want people to focus on your age, don't tell them how old you are.
I haven't read every post so I may be saying something that has already been said. You are right we don't know you financial situation, perhaps your parent were wealthy and you have a nice trust fund to live of off, we don't know. I also just want to say I am sorry for your loss, at any age a miscarriage is miscarriage. However getting pregnant again will not replace that pregnancy or prove to anyone that you really did want that baby.
I feel like that sounds a little harsh, but I just had to say it. I am a child of teen parents and I loved childhood but there were issues that we most likely wouldn't have had if they waited to have us.
Hey OP, I'm glad to see you did not disappear. I hear and completely understand that you simply want to have a family - just like the rest of us. The problem is that... well... you're not like the rest of us - YET. I have a story I want to share with you, if you'll hear it. When I was nineteen my long time boyfriend proposed to me. It was something I wanted and I said yes. I truly loved him. Even all these years later I know for a fact that I truly loved him. When I told my mother she broke down into tears. She kept asking me why I was in such a rush. My only response was exactly what yours was - because I wanted it right then. I knew in my heart that when I got married I wanted to do it the right way - where everyone was happy for me. If I had bothered to look at the statistics for young marriages I would have found further confirmation that it was not a wise idea.
I am so happy that I gave that man back his ring. Years later we parted ways. Nothing happened - we didn't have a huge fight, no one cheated we just got older and changed. I changed into a different woman who married a different man. And my ex is happily married to someone else as well. Nineteen is simply too young to make this permanent life choices. And even if I had married him I guess I technically could have divorced him, but you never get to divorce children.
Many years later after I graduated, got a job, got a place of my own, and really had time to discover who I was and what I wanted I met the man I am married to now. When he proposed my mother whooped with happiness. It was right.
I think that situation I went through was quite similar to how you are feeling right now. You are in the throws of your own emotions - and emotions can be enormously short sighted.
I hope that you ask yourself "what if". What if you waited? A year? Two years? And then analyze your emotions. Be honest with yourself. Sometimes we MUST deny ourselves our desires in order to have those desires become an even more glorious reality when the time is right.
Yes the simple fact of me wanting a baby is because I want one, I want a family. Just like the rest of everyone on here, you all WANT to start a family.
You know what I also WANT? I want a brand spankin new car, preferably a GMC Acadia in charcoal color. But you know what I have decided NOT to do? Buy a brand spankin new GMC Acadia because they're expensive and I cannot afford it at this time. It would require my children to have to suffer as a result of my selfish wants. I believe this is the concept you are not understanding. Not cool.
OP, you don't realize just how many things are stacked against you. Your kid is more likely to live in poverty, get pregnant as a teen etc. You don't even seem to grasp how scary it is that your entire support system stems from your boyfriend. If things go bad with him, who will you turn to? His mom? When it comes down to it, HE will most always be #1.
I live in Boston. Infant daycare here runs $2,000/month or higher. Am I the only person who wonders how the actual hell OP can afford daycare for her child while she finishes school/runs her business/works a full-time job? OP, you only just moved out on your own-seriously, how in the world can you do this?
I live in Boston. Infant daycare here runs $2,000/month or higher. Am I the only person who wonders how the actual hell OP can afford daycare for her child while she finishes school/runs her business/works a full-time job? OP, you only just moved out on your own-seriously, how in the world can you do this?
Yeah, I am a high school teacher and since there is a day care at my school (pretty much put in place to help keep teen parents in school, since teens are significantly less likely to finish school when they get pregnant/have a child) I get a SUPER reduced rate of 1k a month. It's such a good deal. Although the students get to use it for like $20 a month. They definitely don't have any sort of program like that at college.
I live in Boston. Infant daycare here runs $2,000/month or higher. Am I the only person who wonders how the actual hell OP can afford daycare for her child while she finishes school/runs her business/works a full-time job? OP, you only just moved out on your own-seriously, how in the world can you do this?
Yeah, I am a high school teacher and since there is a day care at my school (pretty much put in place to help keep teen parents in school, since teens are significantly less likely to finish school when they get pregnant/have a child) I get a SUPER reduced rate of 1k a month. It's such a good deal. Although the students get to use it for like $20 a month. They definitely don't have any sort of program like that at college.
I use to work for my uni daycare/preschool center and its like $1000 for 3X a week for half day(4 hours)....
I live in Boston. Infant daycare here runs $2,000/month or higher. Am I the only person who wonders how the actual hell OP can afford daycare for her child while she finishes school/runs her business/works a full-time job? OP, you only just moved out on your own-seriously, how in the world can you do this?
You know, I was going to leave this part out of the conversation, but I work for state government, specifically in Human Services. I can provide you with all sorts of statistics of the customer base for use of government-assisted services. I will also say that OP is about to fall into that category...
Disclaimer!! Disclaimer!! Disclaimer!!!!!!!
Before OP (or others) eagerly jump on me for that comment, please read this: I have gone four pages' worth of comments without mentioning the whole "government assistance" thing-a-ma-jig-er because I understand the controversy of the topic. But since we were talking statistics, this is an important one to mention.
ALSO, I am absolutely, positively NOT against government help. If you are taking my comment to mean that, please do not. In fact, I am a huge supporter. I am in favor of help for people who NEED it. I am not a fan of people who abuse it. However, I firmly believe that if you intend on bringing a child into this world at a young age with the INTENT on relying on assistance, that is a form of abuse. OP, we are throwing out stats and numbers here which I truly believe you have not considered. If you have, and your decision is that you will qualify, you need to reconsider. I know you won't because, as you've made perfectly clear, your mind is made up. True, none of us here knows your specific financial situation, but we can only take a guess based on a couple of teens who just moved out of their parents' house for the first time...
(Note: In my job, I work closely with folks in the fraud department and, despite what media attention may suggest, people who abuse government assistance is a small percentage. But that's for another topic.)
Re: Age & Fertility
TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17
BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Since MTV started paying pregnant teens to star in their very... own.. TV episode!! Woot woot!!
HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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My gif isn't working. Ugh, I suck.
HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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Oh, good to know! Well, in this case, perhaps OP would benefit from watching a few episodes...
HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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Yeah, it definitely made me feel better about watching it. I can't for the life of me imagine how someone could watch that show and think being a teen mom would be a good life decision. And guessing OP has seen this show due to her age - so how can she not see that it's a bad move? One of the only mothers who actually stayed with the baby daddy is the one who gave her child up for adoption. I think there may have been one or two more, but they are just VERY much the exception to the rule. They had tons of family support - which OP definitely does not.
OK, I agree with all prior points, so the only thing I want to add is that I'm concerned a lot of this is related to your MC. Finding out you were pregnant made you have to look at life and figure out a plan, and once things were lined up, you had a horrible loss. It makes sense to want to continue with what you had planned and to find comfort in becoming pregnant again. But just because it makes sense doesn't mean it's the right decision. Ask yourself if this is what you would want if you were never pregnant before. I mean really ask yourself that. Because it won't be helpful to anyone in this situation if you move forward with your plan based on a horrible loss.
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
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I am almost 32 with two kids. So, in my case age was not a factor. I'll have to see how long it takes me when we go from "just having sex whenever" to timed sex.
Now I must know how old you are? It's like a theme these days with the kids fresh out of high school wanting to get KTFU.
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Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
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It's the overt, deliberate act of "don't care what anyone says, I want it now!" Type thinking that drives me batty.
Children are not playthings, accessories or things that you can give back once you are done playing with them. You can be academically gifted but with the common sense God gave a goat. Your book smarts are not putting diapers on the kid's butt or formula in their mouth. You can't just quit on them because you are done playing.
I support informed, prepared adults having babies. I can't support children playing house & bringing in kids to deliberately have the deck stacked against them.
I cannot. I refuse. It makes me ragey to see this.
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Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
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Me 28 DH 28 Married 2012
TTC #1 since March 2015
Metformin + Femara + Gonal F + Trigger = BFP 6/24/16
EDD 3/3/17
Found out it's a girl! 9/23/16
TTCAL: January 2016
Not being able to see the consequences of that decision further proves OP doesn't fully grasp the gravity of how a child changes your life. I am now 28 and I have days I question whether we are ready! Even if you are the most mature 18 year old ever, I truly believe it is not possible to be mentally or emotionally prepared for a baby at that age. Yes, it happens and people survive, but most would tell you it would have been easier if they waited until they had lived life and become "old person stable", not 18 yo stable.
I agree with PP, try a dog first!
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
But here's a tip for the future, if you don't want people to focus on your age, don't tell them how old you are.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
DS1 2010
DS2 2013
DD1 2016
DS1 2010
DS2 2013
DD1 2016
My Ovulation Chart
How... Not surprising. :-w
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HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Disclaimer!! Disclaimer!! Disclaimer!!!!!!!
Before OP (or others) eagerly jump on me for that comment, please read this: I have gone four pages' worth of comments without mentioning the whole "government assistance" thing-a-ma-jig-er because I understand the controversy of the topic. But since we were talking statistics, this is an important one to mention.
ALSO, I am absolutely, positively NOT against government help. If you are taking my comment to mean that, please do not. In fact, I am a huge supporter. I am in favor of help for people who NEED it. I am not a fan of people who abuse it. However, I firmly believe that if you intend on bringing a child into this world at a young age with the INTENT on relying on assistance, that is a form of abuse. OP, we are throwing out stats and numbers here which I truly believe you have not considered. If you have, and your decision is that you will qualify, you need to reconsider. I know you won't because, as you've made perfectly clear, your mind is made up. True, none of us here knows your specific financial situation, but we can only take a guess based on a couple of teens who just moved out of their parents' house for the first time...
(Note: In my job, I work closely with folks in the fraud department and, despite what media attention may suggest, people who abuse government assistance is a small percentage. But that's for another topic.)
All done!
HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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