Feeling like I need a break...feel guilty and tired!

KDR1979

DH is an attorney and works all the time. He works 10-11 hour days Monday - Friday. I work 2 ten hour days on Tues/Thursday (we have a nanny that covers my work days & she takes a good chunk of my salary). We have family 30-40 minutes away, but no one really helps us. My in-laws work full time still. My parents are busy with my single mom sister's school age kids. We really struggle to get sitters for date nights or even to cover if I have a doctor appt. I have taken my twins to all 3 pap smears that I have had since having them!! All of our sitters cost $10-15/hour as well....so much money goes to childcare.

They will start two 2.5 hour days of preschool in the Fall. That will give me a little time to run errands, get groceries by myself and hopefully start working out again.

We worked so hard to have them that I feel so guilty feeling like I need a break from them sometimes. My husband and I haven't had a date night since his birthday 2.5 months ago!

Anyone else in this situation? Any ideas for help? I tried care.com once and I have gotten a few names from other moms...but just struggle to find a reliable sitter to help out.

mnj05

Don't feel guilty! We all need a break from time to time to save our sanity, or what's left of it if you're like me. As for sitters, I'm no help. Our family is 2 hours away and we do have some good neighbors/coworkers that would help out but my thing is I feel guilty for leaving H with someone who has their own kids and works all day, even though they've offered several times. I've tried care. com too but haven't actually called because it makes me nervous.

jesselayne8

Do not feel guilty. You need to take care of yourself and your marriage so that you can be the mom you want to be. I have a babysitter come once a week for 3hrs. It's my sanity. We have no family anywhere close to us. I use the time to run errands, have a date with DH, or every once in a while I hide in my room and sleep. I found my 2 babysitters on sittercity.com.

CarrieB.

Don't feel guilty! We all need time off.

On Saturday mornings DD1 is in a dance class. DH stays home w DD2, so I can drop DD1 off at dance and spend 30 minutes wandering around Target w a coffee. Sometimes that's all I can get for alone time, but it's worth it. Maybe there's a similar drop off class or daycare at the Y or a gym you could use?