Am I crazy to want another, even though mine is only 10 months?

ajb19

I'm having baby fever, bad. A co-worker of mine just brought in her newborn and my brain went nuts! My Pinterest has been blown up with baby things and I wonder if people think I'm pregnant again. I'm actually wondering it myself. After trying the mirena, which didn't work, I went back on the pill. And I've been very careless with it, but my significant other and I have said whatever happens, happens. But since going on the pill I haven't had my period since December. I stopped taking it about 2-3 weeks ago and today I'm having some cramps and I remember clearly with my son that was what happened before. I don't know if it's just my own excitment and nerves, but I'm hoping I am. I just feel crazy to already want another when my son isn't even a year old yet, haha. 

aavery258

You are most certainly NOT crazy! All my friends (myself included) are having them close together. The closer in age they are, the more they will be able to relate to each other and be friends. My daughter is 1 and and we are TTC, too! They're just too much fun not to!

Normannicole920

Take a hpt! If it's been since December could be exciting!

ChasityDB

I missed being pregnant as soon as we left the hospital with my sweet baby girl. I found out I was pregnant when she was just 3 months old ! Which means I conceived when she was 2 months old !! You're not crazy ! Babies are awesome and such a blessing if you're ready for them

HeavenBlessedMom

Not crazy..I think close is best. DD was 16 mo when the triplets were born

blush64

aavery258 said:

You are most certainly NOT crazy! All my friends (myself included) are having them close together. The closer in age they are, the more they will be able to relate to each other and be friends. My daughter is 1 and and we are TTC, too! They're just too much fun not to!

While having kids close together is great for many people the bolded is not always true. Being close in age does not mean they will necessarily be able to relate to each other or that they will be friends. (or even like the same things) My sons got along great as little kids at 2.5 years apart and still do while my nieces do not get along or play together at 13 months apart.(never have) I am 9 months older than my sisters and our relationship is not as good as the one I have with my older brother. (especially growing up I hated having siblings so close in age to me)

Spacing you kids is obviosuly one of those things that is going to work differently for every family but I just wanted to say close in age isn't always close in any other aspect.

jnnfrrose6

I agree with PP about kids being close together doesn't necesarily mean they'll be friends. My brother and I are 15 mos apart. We rarely speak to each other. There's no "riff" or anything between us, we just have nothing in common.

As to OP's question nothing crazy about thinking about another one. We knew after our first was born we'd be having more and I looked forward to it. I chose to wait until his first birthday to start trying, though, because I had c-section.

VesperLove

As someone who is only 16 months younger than my sister, I can absolutely tell you that being close in age does NOT guarantee they will relate to each other and/or like each other. My sister and I HATED (and I don't use the word hate often) each other growing up. We were polar opposites and that led to a very difficult childhood as we were always fighting and getting on each others' nerves. We only got close when she left for college (aka moved out of the house). We are extremely close now and I love that we're close in age but it took us 18 years to get to that point.

To the OP, I'm not saying you shouldn't try again or that you're crazing for wanting to. Just following up on a PPs post that close in age means friends and great times. It doesn't always.

mrsespigreen

Me and my sister are 8 YEARS apart and we get along so well even growing up.

jenjenbrassard

Not crazy at all! My son is only 4 months old and I already want another. I miss being pregnant soooo badly and it makes it worse that my best friend if pregnant with her first (super happy for her, but feeling a twinge of jealousy) and watching her belly grow every week just makes me want it that much more. I miss feeling him kick in my belly so much. Can definitely say these feelings have amped up my PPD once again.

MWoodside

It seems crazy to me, yes. I like my babies to have more spacing.  I like to give them each time to be the baby for a while before TTC again.  I find it easier to have the youngest be a bit older so they can play somewhat independantly, verbalize needs, help clean up, etc before I am in the NB phase again.  I also BF beyond a year and have no desire to do that while pg or tandem so that factors into our decision for our family as well.

But I know some people like to have babies very close together and I totally respect that & watch them manage the chaos in complete awe.

I agree with prior posters that age spacing has absolutely nothing to do with sibling closeness at all though.