Spoke too soon (loss)

IndyMom317

My time here has been short and sweet... I didn't join until I knew I was pregnant... Today I had my second ultrasound, I am 8 weeks 4 days... I measured 8 weeks, cutest little bean, but no heartbeat, no flutter... I am bawling as I write this... I never knew just how badly I wanted this until I found out just a few short hours ago that it is gone.... My husband and entire extended family were over the moon, this has been a long struggle lasting 7 years, including fertility, surgeries etc (with no BFP) and then we got a surprise natural pregnancy when we never thought we could... Found out the day before Christmas Eve... What a fairy tale.... I have decided to miscarry naturally, not sure if that is the right or wrong decision, still hard to accept this fate as I have not spotted at all... Nothing... I now know what so many of you have gone thru, it has to be one of the most vulnerable moments in my life, I am just praying I start the process soon... I give you all hugs that have been here, for it is a pain like no other... I wish you all the best, not sure what else is in store for us... Mentally I had already accepted the fact that I would never get pregnant, then to get pregnant... My heart and my head just cannot wrap itself around anything at this point... I will probably continue to lurk... I hope and pray for some clarity...

mandyreads

I am so so very sorry for your loss.

NicoleWI

I'm so very sorry.

marijaa333

I'm really sorry too. I hope you can take some time for yourself.

KateLouise

I'm so sorry for your loss. Big hugs and prayers that you find peace as you move forward.

Take care of yourself as you grieve.

NeonNoon

I'm sorry for your loss.

JuliaLovesPugs

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

jerseygirl227

I am so very sorry.    Take care of yourself and know that thoughts and prayers are with you.

jessyluscious77

So sorry for your loss

Guennie

I can't tell you how sorry I am that you are going through this. I've just lost my sixth pregnancy and it doesn't get any easier.

It does mess with your head and you will need time to grieve before you can work through it and decide how to move forward. Don't be surprised if you take several steps backward before you are able to get back on the path.

It may take awhile if you're letting it go naturally. I will be hoping it can be over with quickly for you.

So very very sorry. Please take care of yourself and reach out if you need support. Hugs to you.

supersarah77

Oh wow, you have really been through a lot. My deepest condolences for the loss of your baby. Thinking of you as you trudge through this.

superlowamh

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I never know what to say because words never help anyway....

As Guennie said, it may take long weeks before it happens naturally, it may be hard to wait.... My baby died at 8 weeks, and at 12 weeks there were absolutely no signs that anything would start on its own. I chose a D & C because doctors told me I could wait another few weeks, and I just couldn't do that....

My prayers are with you....

niknak1208

I'm so sorry.  It is definitely heartbreaking. Unfortunately, I've been there too many times.  There is no right or wrong decision.  You just have to do what you feel is right for you and your family.  I would just watch and make sure that you pass everything because if you don't.. they will need to check and make sure or schedule a D&C.. you don't want to get an infection on top of going through all of this.   

Hugs and prayers to your and your family.  

topaz7777

Devestating news.  I'm so sorry. 

wtbratcher

My condolences. Prayers for you and your family.

nyc2015

IndyMom I am so very sorry for your loss.  I don't know what can be said to really help but please know healing thoughts and prayers are with you.  You'll get through this.  I had a miscarriage 3 years ago. There really are no words.  Life is so unfair at times.  But know you'll get through this.  

Take good care of yourself.  Let us know how you're doing at some point. 

Hugs. 

MySallyGirl

I'm so sorry for your loss

cneiding

So so sorry.  Like others said, the wait for m/c to happen naturally can be many weeks.  The wait can be agonizing.  But as long as you don't get a fever or other signs you are not well, you should be fine to wait.  I think the most agonizing part of a dandC is that they do them in the surgery area of the hospital on the labor and delivery floor. So you have to go into the landD area with babies crying and new moms and those in labor roaming about.  When I had one, I even had to walk past the nursery area.  That whole thing was not pleasant at all.  All that I know who has gotten a DandC have had them in LandD. 

mum2lanabelliz

So very sorry. I wish I had the perfect words to say. Allow yourself time to grieve. I have both had natural m/c and d/c. I found that neither was easy to go through for different reasons. I pray you find comfort and peace. Lots of thoughts and prayers.

Radiantly

Oh I am so so sorry to hear this. I wish you strength and that you can find comfort and support in this difficult time. Prayers for your little angel.

AASykes

I am so sorry for your loss. *hugs*

xuxachi

I so sorry for your loss.

Seh114

So sorry for your loss! T&P coming your way.

GASuzuki

I am very sorry for your loss. Please take care.

happywifemomofone

I am so sorry for your loss.

sidey1

I'm so very sorry for your loss, I hope whatever path you choice going forward brings you some peace..Hugs..

MsVox

I'm so so very sorry for your loss

mdogan29

I'm very sorry to hear about this, hope you have a quick physical recovery and you are able to take the grieving time you need. *hugs*

imsoexcited915

I'm so sorry this happened to you. My thoughts are with you and your family

jessandandy09

I am so sorry for your loss.  Prayers for you and your family through this the most difficult of all times.  

Regan1976

Many many hugs.

deladie

I am so sorry for your loss and so appreciative that you shared.  We were just delivered similar news. So sad.  It is devastating.  We are trying to regroup.  Sounds like you are as well.

Stay strong.

nyc2015

IndyMom- thinking of you. I hope you are healing and doing okay.  Hugs.

nyc2015

Hi again Indy, I hope you are healing well and have found some clarity as you said you were hoping for.  Our experiences sound almost identical.  At 9 wk 3 day scan today (had 2), no heartbeat.  Considering a d and c tomorrow.  I hope you are doing alright.