Got a call from our attorney around 6 that BF finally filed his bill of review yesterday. We were supposed to have our finalization hearing tomorrow morning. I'm so frustrated and mad. I'm trying to have some sympathy and understanding for BF, but it is insanely difficult. We've been dealing with this dispute since March. We will have been parenting B for a year on the 29th. I could use some hugs.
TTC # 1 Since October 2010 (Not preventing since 2009) November 2013: Applied & Accepted by the Agency January 2014: Home Study, education class, Profiles February 2014: "Officially Waiting"
I am so sorry to hear that. What a frustrating process. I understand your conflict with wanting to sympathize with BF but at what cost? This seems unfair to you and your little B. I hope you get a resolution soon.
************Siggy warning, LO & loss***************
Me 37 - DH 37 unexplained infertility DS born 09/99 TTC since 2010 12/11 BFP - ectopic, received methotrexate, benched 4 months 08/14 - exploring fertility options
Tubes clear, SA for DH all clear 10/14- #1 IUI (femera/ovadril/progesterone), 2 follicles 22/17, post wash count 94 million BFN
10/14 - #2 IUI (Femera/ovidrel/progesterone ), 2 follies 19/20, post wash 111 million, BFN
Dec 2014 Femera BFFN
Taking a break to explore foster to adopt!
Oh my heart just sank for you. How can you be that close to finalization and him still appeal? We weren't given a date for finalization until the appeals window had closed. What is he possibly fighting at this point? Does he actually want to parent? Or just not be seen as abandoning his kid? I'm SO upset for you guys. This is beyond unfair and unjust.
This. Do you think he's just being contentious, or that he actually has the will and means to parent? Either way, I'm so very sorry.
I don't know what exactly this means but I am SO sorry. Prayers, hugs, positive thoughts, whatever you need. Please keep us posted. That little man on his bike always brings me a smile.
Thanks for all the sorries, ladies. I think he really just wants to feel like he tried everything he could to get B back, even though he never helped parent him before he was placed and has never met him at all. It is very frustrating, but I understand (sort of). He is way past the appeals window, but the bill of review is to go back to his original termination of rights and see whether everything was done legally (which it was). This bill was filed pro se, so either he couldn't pay his attorney anymore, his attorney quit, or he fired her. In any case, he doesn't really have any evidence and I'm confident his bill of review will be dismissed at his hearing. We don't have a date for that yet since our attorney has to respond to the filing first, and he just got it at close of business on Thursday.
I'm so sorry, Gnome. It really does sound like he's just doing what he can to live with himself in the future. Even though he knows it's a long shot, if he does this now, then he can always tell himself he tried everything he could to get B back, and it just wasn't enough.
I would be crushed in your shoes, having thought that all legal possible challenges to your parenthood would be closed tomorrow, and now having to wait. With everything you have shared, though, I think you can be confident that this is just a temporary set-back, and you will be declared B's only legal parents in a matter of time.
Hand in there! All our thoughts and prayers are with you and your little boy, who you clearly live and have been there for since the first day you met him. Much love and support coming your way!
So sorry Gnome. I can't imagine the frustration. I can understand where he's coming from. In his mind he may see this as the only way to show his love to B since he showed none before. He's wrong and it's sad he won't see it. It seems that birthfathers process differently and sadly it seems much, much, later than birthmoms. Which is why I believe BS like this happens. I hope he gives it up soon or the court dismisses it. You're amazing for even trying to see his POV.
Birthmom to A, 1/8- the most beautiful thing I've ever seen.
A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao-Tzu
I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how frustrating that is. Best wishes that it all works out for the best in the end.
Happily married Mom to 2 beautiful little girls, 2 dogs and 2 cats (all rescues), 2 fish and one 29 year-old firebelly newt. ~ Hoping to add to our family by adoption via Connecticut DCF. Application submitted on 2/4/14. First home visit on 6/23/14. Started class 11/17/14.~
Re: Finalization cancelled. >:-(
TTC # 1 Since October 2010 (Not preventing since 2009)
November 2013: Applied & Accepted by the Agency
January 2014: Home Study, education class, Profiles
February 2014: "Officially Waiting"
Meghan and Jonny- Puerto Vallarta, Mexico - May 1, 2010
BFP April 24, 2018 | EDD December 29, 2018
************Siggy warning, LO & loss***************
Me 37 - DH 37 unexplained infertility
DS born 09/99
TTC since 2010
12/11 BFP - ectopic, received methotrexate, benched 4 months
08/14 - exploring fertility options
Tubes clear, SA for DH all clear
10/14- #1 IUI (femera/ovadril/progesterone), 2 follicles 22/17, post wash count 94 million BFN
10/14 - #2 IUI (Femera/ovidrel/progesterone ), 2 follies 19/20, post wash 111 million, BFN Dec 2014 Femera BFFN Taking a break to explore foster to adopt!
"Even miracles take a little time"
"Even miracles take a little time"
I would be crushed in your shoes, having thought that all legal possible challenges to your parenthood would be closed tomorrow, and now having to wait. With everything you have shared, though, I think you can be confident that this is just a temporary set-back, and you will be declared B's only legal parents in a matter of time.
Hand in there! All our thoughts and prayers are with you and your little boy, who you clearly live and have been there for since the first day you met him. Much love and support coming your way!
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
~ Hoping to add to our family by adoption via Connecticut DCF. Application submitted on 2/4/14. First home visit on 6/23/14. Started class 11/17/14.~