Terrified of miscarriage & have some cramping - should I be worried ?

dcsmith1123

So it took us over three years to get pregnant. Maybe we did get pregnant and lost them before we even knew ? That thought terrifies me into thinking I'll just lose this one. I'll be 8 weeks tomorrow and have yet to see doctor (Tuesday is an ultrasound) I just want to make sure baby is where it needs to be and is growing right. I'm terrified of any miscarriage and even more terrified of an ectopic. I have some slight menstrual cramping here and there in my pelvic area and my back. But sometimes I get sharper cramps on either left right or both lower sides. Today the pain wasn't terribly sharp but was up a little higher than normal. Usually the sharp cramps last only a second or two but lately they will last anywhere from 10-30 seconds and every little pain I get is so frightening. I haven't had any bleeding but could anyone ease my mind ? (Or tell me similar experiences regardless of a good or bad outcome)
also I heard that if you have an ectopic pregnancy that the hpt will have only a faint line even if your 8 weeks but all 5 of my tests came back with a big thick dark positive line. Could I be In the clear of an ectopic ? Or could those symptoms still be related to one ?

AceBaby191

If your pain isn't really awful, and you aren't bleeding, then you should probably just wait until Tuesday to see your doctor. Cramps are totally normal, and I can say with expertise from my 9 week experience as a pregnant person, there isn't just ONE specific location that's going to cramp.

There is no internet forum in the world that can diagnose an ectopic pregnancy. If you've had five positives, some cramping, no bleeding. . . you can at least rest assured that you are pregnant, and since you have an appt already, just relax and look forward to that! There's also a bunch of threads on this forum that discuss cramping, so use "cramping" as a search term, and you should find lots of reading material that will help you relate to other women going through the same thing.

dcsmith1123

The pain isn't like heeling over grabbing stomach pain. Is this normal ? How soon to ectopic symptoms start to show before you definitely know it's ectopic ? In a miscarriage will I bleed first then cramp ? Or opposite ? Sorry for so many questions. This is my first pregnancy and just want everything to go smooth.

dcsmith1123

MeatandBandP said:

I think everyone is nervous about a miscarriage. You have to take it one day at a time.

It is also not cool to say "Maybe we did get pregnant and lost them before we even knew ?'

If you never had a positive test before, you never had a loss. Comments like that are insensitive to those of us who have actually had losses.  

Didn't mean to be insensitive. It was just a thought that was on my mind. I understand so many people have had losses and it breaks my heart. I can't even imagine. My sister had 8 miscarriages before she had her beautiful daughter and I want to cry just thinking of it.

Thank you all for helping me. I feel a lot more at ease. I may be able to sleep at night now ! I'll keep you updated !!!