inviting my DD to baby shower

fitmom82

I was invited to DH's cousin's bridal shower 2 years ago.  There were 3 other little girls who were about 5 at the time, DH's cousin's nieces and the flower girls.  It was outside so the girls could run around and play.  I just got invited to this woman's baby shower.  It's at a restaurant, I don't know if the other little girls will be there.  DH is taking DS to a monster truck rally and I'm not going to bother asking my mom to watch DD so I can go to a shower that I don't really care if I attend.  My MIL and 2 of my SILs will probably be going to the shower.  Should I just say I can't go or should I, or MIL, mention that DH isn't around so would it be ok for me to bring DD?  She's 4 and if the other little girls are there she'd have a great time, but either way she's pretty well behaved.  I just don't want to be one of those people who invited extra people when I'm the only one who was invited. 

CareBear0607

If it were me, I wouldn't ask.  When you RSVP you could say the reason is because you have no one to watch your DD that day and see if they extend the invite to her. 

neverblushed

If the shower were at a person's home, I'd say ask if it's okay to ask permission to bring her.  Since it's at a restaurant, I would not do that because it could put the hostess in an awkward position.  Bringing a child to a restaurant event means adding an extra seat at a table and it also means a hostess will have to foot the bill for your child's meal.  Also, it's one thing to bring a preschool-aged child to a shower in a home, where she can run around and play with other children.  It's entirely different to bring a preschooler to a shower at a restaurant where she'll have to sit still and be on her best behavior for a relatively long chunk of time.

If you don't have a babysitter, just politely decline this invite.

rsd12

Well if you don't care to go anyway, sounds like you have a good excuse to say no! Sorry, but no you don't invite your child to someone else's party. Get a sitter or don't go.