I got a call today that we were picked by an EM who is due in early January! (AH)
She wants to meet tomorrow for lunch. I want to make a good impression. SW suggested flowers and an album for now, so that is what we are going with.
Does anyone have any advice? Tips to help tomorrow go smoothly? Questions you wished you had asked or hadnt asked? Thanks soo much- my brain is just swirling and I can't think straight!
Also- fun anecdote- when my social worker called me I was in line to check out at a craft store. I can honestly say, I think there are a bunch of crafters who think I am a CRAZY PERSON) Let's just hope I make a better impression tomorrow. LOL
We are meeting with our SW in the morning to sign some papers and give them our cashiers checks. Then driving about an hour and a half to lunch where her SW and her mother will be there. No one has said boy or girl yet, so we are thinking it might be a surprise.
It is considered an official match, but in our state she has 30 days after the birth to change her mind. So it's safe to say we are cautiously optimistic.
I forgot to add- thanks that is great advice! I think I will let her take the lead and ask easy questions to begin with. Thanks again!
Congrats! All these Jan babies! Pinkie's advice is solid. I'd follow her lead to start and let her ask any questions she has. Be prepared to talk about family life, life and parenting views, and children plans. I think it's also a great idea to ask her about how she's feeling, baby movement, pregnancy stories, etc. Being an EMom can be lonely because you can't experience pregnancy happiness like anyone else and it feels good to be able to gush with someone every bit as excited as you are. Good luck!
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That is such great news!!! Merry Christmas to your family and Happy Birthday to your husband. I will be sending good energy your way too and good luck!
Hey everyone! Just wanted to update. The meeting went pretty well. There were lots of nerves, which is to be expected, but things are moving forward.
Honestly I am still in disbelief! Now we are just trying to run around and get things done.
Thank you so much for your support and well wishes! It's so nice to be able to tell SOMEONE- not to mention a whole community of people who understand and have such great advice! I will keep you all posted! Merry Christmas!!!
Re: Meeting with EM Tomorrow!!!
It is considered an official match, but in our state she has 30 days after the birth to change her mind. So it's safe to say we are cautiously optimistic.
I forgot to add- thanks that is great advice! I think I will let her take the lead and ask easy questions to begin with. Thanks again!
"Even miracles take a little time"
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This is one big Christmas present! (And DH's birthday is tomorrow!) Busy and Exciting Week!
"Even miracles take a little time"
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Me 37 - DH 37 unexplained infertility
DS born 09/99
TTC since 2010
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08/14 - exploring fertility options
Tubes clear, SA for DH all clear
10/14- #1 IUI (femera/ovadril/progesterone), 2 follicles 22/17, post wash count 94 million BFN
10/14 - #2 IUI (Femera/ovidrel/progesterone ), 2 follies 19/20, post wash 111 million, BFN Dec 2014 Femera BFFN Taking a break to explore foster to adopt!
Honestly I am still in disbelief! Now we are just trying to run around and get things done.
Thank you so much for your support and well wishes! It's so nice to be able to tell SOMEONE- not to mention a whole community of people who understand and have such great advice! I will keep you all posted! Merry Christmas!!!
"Even miracles take a little time"