Ponies (AKA - why you shouldn't intro in the 2ww) Gif story

mflowers929

I hope it's okay that I'm writing this. If It's not, lemme know and I'll give ya'll a XXX

There seems to be a lot of ladies introing in the two week wait (the time between ovulating and when your period is due, when you may get pregnant).

I just wanted to take a minute to explain why this is so severely frowned upon, and maybe encourage some newbies to lurk until they get AF or move on.

And since it's so close to Christmas, I thought "what better than using every little girls dream wish?" 

Let's just say that you REALLY want a pony.

Maybe you've wanted a pony since you were a little girl. Maybe you've just recently met someone who really wants a pony and has changed your mind about wanting a pony. Whatever.

You know that you might not be able to get a pony for a long long time. So in the meantime, you join an online forum on ponies.com entitled "Waiting for a pony".

You're there for a while, and you get to know and bond with all these other awesome people who also want and are waiting for their pony. You go through the good times and the bad with them.

Sometimes, someone has to say "I've given it a lot of thought, and I'm just not going to be able to wait for my pony to come any more." Those days are heartbreaking for everyone in the group.

And then, one day, someone joins your forum. They're super excited and say to you as they introduce themselves "I might have a pony coming in a few weeks! But I can chill here in the meantime, right?"

They chill out in "Waiting for a pony" for a few weeks, contribute a little here and there, and then all of a sudden they have their pony, and they move over to "Super fun pony times!". Meanwhile, you, who have been on "Waiting for a pony" for months or years, is left there, still waiting for your pony to come. 

And that is why people who intro in the two week wait make a lot of us want to do this:

In conclusion - you're better off not doing it. Sit on your hands, take up crocheting, cuddle your furbaby. Whatever it takes to wait it out until you know whether you'll be staying with us for more than a couple of weeks. And if you really must intro in your two week wait and end up one of the lucky ones who gets a BFP, move along quietly to keep from hurting a lot of ladies.

And P.S. I hope this makes sense. I'm writing after 4 hours of sleep, working a 12 hour day, and then spending 3 hours in a hot tub.

O2girl

AMAZEBALLS!!!

Also.... @mflowers929‌ I think you may enjoy this!!!! Totally unrelated but I so wanted to share

Menrandes

Such a strange post for me to tear up on!

meredithcarole

I like the GIF story and the analogy. I think the better point might be "enter cautiously in your 2ww." If you say "hi" and get a + a week later, go off quietly into the sunset, no harm no foul. If you think you might be KU, wait a few days to know for sure.

ETA punctuation.

mflowers929

@meredithcarole - good point

mflowers929

PetraStonegirl said:

I like the GIF story and the analogy. I think the better point might be "enter cautiously in your 2ww." If you say "hi" and get a + a week later, go off quietly into the sunset, no harm no foul. If you think you might be KU, wait a few days to know for sure.

ETA punctuation.

Absolutely this. We get that you may really need support in those 2 weeks, but you can do it without being so 'in your face' about it. And, you CAN exit quietly.

I updated my "in conclusion". I hope it's more along the lines of what you were thinking

LittleMrsW

Love this analogy!

@mflowers929

23Tez23

Nice.

BookishMomma

Here's hoping for super fun pony times ahead...

ellebelle2384

Damn, now I really want a pony.

Nice work @mflowers929.

rmpar29

Awesome job lady! 
:-bd

buggirl72

meredithcarole said:

I like the GIF story and the analogy. I think the better point might be "enter cautiously in your 2ww." If you say "hi" and get a + a week later, go off quietly into the sunset, no harm no foul. If you think you might be KU, wait a few days to know for sure.

ETA punctuation.

This.  My one caution to everyone is this issue has come up before and @PetraStonegirl wrote a very nice explanation on why we cannot expect people (plus tell them) to not intro in their 2WW. That post was at a point when people were getting bashed pretty heavily in their intros if they mentioned that they had already O'd for having the nerve to intro in their 2WW. I've noticed in some intros people are starting to do this again. We cannot flat out tell people to not intro in their 2WW.  

If someone does intro in their 2WW it's not that hard to politely let them know that if they are fortunate enough to get a BFP, please, please, please go quietly off in the night and never tell us about it. We don't need to tell them that it was rude or that they broke an etiquette rule by intro'ing. It's not a requirement. Common sense, yes, but not a hard rule.

It's going to happen. Most people will stay here but some will get a BFP.  @mflowers929 I think you did a wonderful job explaining why it is hurtful to us and in encouraging people to just hold off for another week or so.

rslh10

Love this Great job. I don't usually get upset with people when they intro in the TWW (by upset I mean I usually don't post about it. I do, however, bitch to my friends/DH) There are bound to be days where it rubs certain people the wrong way more than others (yesterday was my day).   ((hugs)) to everyone who has been hurt lately with the weirdness going on! 

PinkCamino

buggirl72 said:

meredithcarole said:

I like the GIF story and the analogy. I think the better point might be "enter cautiously in your 2ww." If you say "hi" and get a + a week later, go off quietly into the sunset, no harm no foul. If you think you might be KU, wait a few days to know for sure.

ETA punctuation.

This.  My one caution to everyone is this issue has come up before and @PetraStonegirl wrote a very nice explanation on why we cannot expect people (plus tell them) to not intro in their 2WW. That post was at a point when people were getting bashed pretty heavily in their intros if they mentioned that they had already O'd for having the nerve to intro in their 2WW. I've noticed in some intros people are starting to do this again. We cannot flat out tell people to not intro in their 2WW.  

If someone does intro in their 2WW it's not that hard to politely let them know that if they are fortunate enough to get a BFP, please, please, please go quietly off in the night and never tell us about it. We don't need to tell them that it was rude or that they broke an etiquette rule by intro'ing. It's not a requirement. Common sense, yes, but not a hard rule.

It's going to happen. Most people will stay here but some will get a BFP.  @mflowers929 I think you did a wonderful job explaining why it is hurtful to us and in encouraging people to just hold off for another week or so.

All of this.

But, if you're like me you can choose not to interact with those people. I stated it months ago and I'm repeating it again....

I PinkCamino solemnly swear not to interact with anyone who intros here in their 2ww.

mflowers929

Thanks guys. I was working on a cake last night and trying not to think about it, but it ended up being all I was thinking about and I "oh what the hell"d it

rubysi

Wait I want a pony

welly01

This is awesome!

Nikolie93

This is pretty awesome, thank you @mflowers929! 

BookishMomma

Guys, I'm not gonna lie. I'm more than a little bit afraid of some of the ponies you posted. I'm not sure if I want a pony anymore. 

BookishMomma

PinkCamino said:

But, if you're like me you can choose not to interact with those people. I stated it months ago and I'm repeating it again....

I PinkCamino solemnly swear not to interact with anyone who intros here in their 2ww.

@pinkcamino what's your PM count up to? 165?