TTC After a Loss

Newbie introduction

terrissa89terrissa89 member
edited December 2014 in TTC After a Loss
Hello ladies! I read the rules and hope I'm doing this the right way! :)

I'm Terrissa, 25 and dh is 26. We lost our little boy around 13/14 weeks gestation on October 15. It was my first pregnancy and while I was a but nervous, I never dreamed it would end this way. It was a natural miscarriage, but I've had some complications. 2 weeks afterwards I started hemorrhaging badly and rushed to the er. They were concerned there may be retained product and suggested a d&c. My obgyn thought it wouldn't be necessary and gave me medicine to help it pass instead. I continued bleeding, lightly and then heavily, up until now. It's been nine weeks and I *think* the bleeding may have stopped. There is still tiny bits of light spotting. 

My miscarriage was said to be caused by an infection. The day before, I had a gush of blood and bad cramping. I saw my midwife and she she examined me and put me on bed rest. She also scheduled an ultrasound for the next day. The rest of the night the cramping continued but there was no more bleeding. I thought everything was fine. The next day,  A few hrs before it happened I hit an ultrasound and baby looked great , we had no idea what was going to happen. But the ultrasound guy saw my cervix was opening and suggested we go to the hospital and get an emergency cerclage. Still, had no idea I was about to lose the baby.  Maybe I was being naive. We get to the ER and the future examined me and says definitively that I am in the middle of miscarriage and there was nothing to do but wait. We were devastated. We couldn't believe it, just in shock. They said we could go home or stay at the hospital. I was scared and didn't knew how it would go, so wanted to stay there where I could be taken care of. Well about an hour later we got to the room . He came out at soon as we got there. :( Well it's been quite an emotional and physically tiring time since then. In and out of doctors offices, hearing all kinds of different opinions. I don't know what to think! I found out in this process that I have fibroids. Most everyone agreed they weren't an issue but one doctor says they could be. Anyway, there's my story. :) Hope I'm doing this right. Really looking forward to getting to know some great ladies and we can encourage and support each other in our journeys! :)
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Re: Newbie introduction

  • Thanks ladies! :) My hcg was at 3 at last check (a week ago) which they said was considered negative.
    ------------ http://ourangelsandrainbows.blogspot.com/ image † "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward." -Psalm 127:3 †
  • Sorry for your loss. Welcome!

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, welcome to the board


    ::The sudden disappointment of a hope leaves a scar that even the ultimate fullfillment of that hope cannot fully erase:: Thomas Hardy

    BFP #1: 07/08/11  EDD: 03/22/12  Missed miscarriage @ 8w: 08/11/11, stopped growing @ 6w6d
    BFP #2: 03/26/12  EDD: 12/07/12  We have a HB at 7w!! (04/20/12)  CSD born 12/12/12 
    BFP #3: 08/05/14  Chemical Pregnancy at 4w3d 08/06/14
    BFP #4: 10/02/14  EDD: 06/10/15  Miscarriage at 6w6d 10/22/14




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  • I am sorry for your loss and that you had such a long drawn out experience.  Take care of yourself.
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    TTC Since September 2014
    BFP 11/30/2014 ~ EDD 8/13/2015 ~ CP 12/5/2014
    BFP #2 12/30/2014 ~ EDD 9/13/2015 Stick bean stick!
  • I am so sorry for your loss and you had to go through all that but glad to hear your beta's are down. *hug*

    Welcome to the board and I hope you can find the support you're looking for as I have. Great group of ladies here! 
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome.

    Me: 31 DH: 36
    Dated Since ‘02, Married in ‘06
    BFP#1 05/16/06, EDD01/16/07, MC 06/12/06 at 8 weeks
    BFP #2 08/14/14, EDD 04/22/15, MC 09/17/14 at 9 weeks

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  • Welcome, I'm sorry for your loss. ::hugs::
    Me (29) + DH (31) = Married 9 1/2 years
    BFP 11/9/14 - EDD 7/15/15 - natural MC at 8w5d   
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss, but welcome you to the board. Why did the doctors suspect the loss was from an infection? Did you test positive for an infection via blood test or some other method? Just wondering, in case anyone has had a similar experience.
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    Me (35) + DH (37) - Married Sept. 2007
    BFP #1 - DS born 7/11/11
    BFP#2 11/13/13 - EDD 7/29/14 - M/C at 5w3d
    BFP #3 12/28/13 - EDD 9/7/14 - M/C at 4w6d
    BFP#4 3/27/14 -  EDD 12/5/14 - Girl lost to 45X at 8w6d - D&C 
    BFP#5 10/15/14 - EDD 6/30/15 - M/C at 7w2d
    BFP #6 1/5/15 - EDD 9.16.14 [CLICKY for progress]
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  • Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss
    Me: 26 DH:28
    TTC - Sept 2014
    # 1 BFP - October 5, 2014 EDD June 5, 2015 CP - October 14, 2014


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  • Welcome and I am so sorry for your loss (((hugs))).

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  • Welcome to the board. ((Hugs)) I'm so sorry for your loss.
  • Welcome- I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you find support here on the board. Sending warm thoughts your way. Take care of yourself!
     Me: 30, DH: 30. Dating since 2007- Married: 5/18/13. 
    BFP: 9/3/14, Found out we had triplets 10/10/14,  EDD: 5/14/15, Confirmed MMC: 10/14/14. D&C: 10/16/14.
    Formerly TashaCN and wonderigwhatmyfutureholds

    All AL welcome. 
  • Thank you all for your warm welcome and condolences.  :)

    In regard to the infection, at the hospital when it happened, they took the placenta to pathology and that's where they determined there was an infection. I haven't ruled out the possibility of incompetent cervix though, as it has been mentioned by a number of people I've seen. I see a specialist next week that my midwife suggested, and hopefully she should be able to give us some better answers.

    I am a little overwhelmed at all of the replies here, and thankful for each one :) This seems to be a really close community, and I really am looking forward to getting to know you all more!
    ------------ http://ourangelsandrainbows.blogspot.com/ image † "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward." -Psalm 127:3 †
  • Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry for your loss, and that you find yourself here. 
  • I am sorry for your loss; welcome to the board. 

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  • I am very sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board.
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    BFP #1 DS born 10/16/12 at 39w6d
    BFP #2 DD lost 11/17/14 at 17w2d
  • I am so sorry. It is so sad that we have to figure out all this info the hard way, through experience :(

    You might also want to check out the Miscarriage board as well. It was a solace to me and maybe others have had similar experiences. As other said, make sure you are being tracked down to 0, particularly with your circumstances. Ugh and to bleed for so long.... take care of yourself.
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    Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
    Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
    Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.

    DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!

    Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!




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  • I am so sorry for your loss.  Sounds like such a traumatic experience for you.  Welcome to the board.
  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome.
    Me: 24 (hypothyroidism)
    DH:25
    Married June 2012 
    TTC September 2014
    BFP #1 October 17, 2014
    MC #1 October 26, 2014
    Benched 2 cycles (hoping to TTC January
    Off the bench as of Jan 2015
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  Welcome.  I hope you can find some answers.
                                                                                              BFP #1 3/2/12, T born 11/7/12
                                                                                                 BFP #2  7/2/14, CP 7/6/14
                                 BFP #3 8/28/14, MMC 10/2/14 @ 9wks - misoprostol 10/6/14, D&C 11/3/14 for retained tissue
                                       BFP #4 12/25/14, EDD 9/7/15 - please stick baby, you are so loved and wanted!!!!!                                                                                           
                                                                                                                                                   
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  • Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds like such an awful and traumatic experience. I hope you find comfort and support here.
    * Me: 31, DH: 33 * Married 10.16.10 * Parents of our furbaby Sophie *
    BFP: 8.28.14 | EDD 5.6.15 | MMC Discovered 9.25.14 (8 weeks)| D&C 9.30.14

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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby boy.  ((hugs))

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    -5/7/13- MMC (8 Weeks)

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    8/14- Surpise IF dx...low AMH (.24)- moving on to IVF

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    12/19/14- FET of 2 embabies = BFP!!!  One Little Bean EDD: 9/3/15

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  • I'm sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the board.

    Me 35 / DH 36
    TTC since 09/2009
    Hashimoto's diagnosis 11/2011 / Endometriosis removal surgery 04/2013
    Other diagnosis: 1 mutation - PAI-1 gene
    BFP#1 9/27/2013  /  EDD 6/4/14  /  MC 10/17/2013
    BFP#2 3/4/14  /  EDD 11/13/14  /  CP
    BFP#3 6/7/14  / EDD 2/16/15  /  CP
    BFP #4 11/7/2014 / EDD 7/17/15  /  CP
    Current  Plan: Waiting to change RE... Appt on 1/16
    RXs: Metformin, Levothyroxin, Baby Aspirin, CoQ10, Vitamin D, Folic Acid, Pre-natal. Progesterone post O.

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  • I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to this board.
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  • How awful, so sorry for your loss.
    started TTC 3/2014 & got hitched 4/2014
    husbter's a 38 y/o smarty pants phD/me? a 27 y/o cat lady extraordinaire
    & we're missing our darling barnacles:
    May 2014 loss @ 9 weeks, MMC, no hb found at first appointment | edd dec 4 2014
    October 2014 loss @ 12 weeks, MMC measuring 10w after hearing hb @ 8w | edd apr 15, 2015
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Welcome.




    Me-27 DH-29

     TTC#1 January 2013

    BFP February 27th 2014, MMC ended in D&C

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  • Welcome. I am sorry for your loss.

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  I hope you find the peace and comfort that you are looking for here.  ((((HUGS))))
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    6/2010
     BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
    BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014

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