Unsuccessful vbac

amieeyoung

Well, girls I tried my best, but it wasn't meant to be. I am ok with it though as the hospital let me try everything from walking during early labor, being able to move around during labor, trying every possible  way to push and only sent me when she was in distress. Like last time there was just a point baby wouldn't descend any further. They think it must be something with my pelvis. This is the last planned baby, but if anything changes/happens I am just going to schedule a c-section. I am truly thankful that I had the opportunity to try. Best of luck to everyone else though!!

rhapsody04

I'm sorry the VBAC you hoped for didn't work out, but it sounds like you had a trial of labor that you can be very proud of. I know recovering from labor and a c-sec is tough, emotionally as well as physically. Wishing you a speedy recovery. May those new baby snuggles have extra healing powers. :-)

amieeyoung

Thank you! There was a moment at the end I felt cheated again, but after all was said and done I realized that unlike last time I was able to try everything and be mobile the entire time. I felt too that my body once again let me down, but decided to not dwell on that as there is nothing I can do about it. Now, the only regret I have is having to wait so long to hold her, but I am making up for that .

 Thanks for the speedy recovery wishes- so far its going ok. It was the same with my first- labor and section so at least I know how it goes.  I've been more mobile and am starting to feel a bit better day by day. 

rhapsody04

My first two babies were labor + section. First, hospital induction, c-sec at 8cm for "failure to progress" aka the 24-hr clock was running out. Second, attempted home birth, transferred to hospital after 4 hours of pushing. That kid had a huge head and was OP and I remember being absolutely convinced that I would have to break my own hips to get him out. Talk about feeling broken!

Well, a few years later a third came along and we were game to try VBAC again... but my little girl had other plans. Heart rate too low for labor to be advisable. Physical recovery from a c-sec without labor was far easier. Emotionally, though, I still had to process and grieve. And now here I am preggo again (for what really ought to be our last!) and no doctor in my entire state will even allow me a trial of labor. All that to say -- you are not a failure; your body is not a failure; but it's absolutely 110% OK to take all the time, talking, reading, etc. etc. you need to heal. For you and for your family. This is something I have struggled very long and hard with... Just one mama on the Internet who is cheering for you and other mamas like you!

allen2607

Rhapsody04 How brave & strong u r!!! I would love vba2c however after reading ur story I'm reminded baby1 was fulled engaged but my doc was concerned with her low hb so we opted for c-sec. I do remember doc advising subseq deliveries by c-sec due to my pelvis not opening enough for vag.

With that being said, I will accept a safe delivery over potential probs. Kudos to u & all others on happy healthy births & wishing swift recoveries filled with oodles of snuggles!