October 2014 Moms
golfingdarwinfish
member
Just a few guidelines coming from various different boards. Please feel to add to this or ask any questions to clarify.
- We will be honest. If you do not want an honest answer this may not be the best place to ask your question. We will support you the best we can but if you ask a question be ready for an honest answer. You will not find sunshine and sparkles coming out asses here.
Archived/Dead threads (documents are no longer being updated/maintained):
**NEW USERS START HERE** OCTOBER 2014 ANNOUNCEMENTS
golfingdarwinfish
member
Welcome To October
Congratulations on your little bundle!
Just a few guidelines coming from various different boards. Please feel to add to this or ask any questions to clarify.
- Before you start posting or ask a new question take a minute and look around. Lurk a little and get a feel, but please post an intro so we know who you are!
- Search for your answer if you're on the computer look to the right part of your screen to find the search function. Type in a keyword for your question and see if its been asked already. We are all going through a lot and you'll likely find someone else who has already asked the same question or started the same thread. If you can not find it, go ahead and ask - we are a very knowledgeable group after all
- Please please please!!! Individualize your signature and avatar. These things will make it easier to recognize you & will help us get to know you in the future. Its easier to recall personalized pictures in your avatar and siggy than just your screen name. Make sure your screen name is not your full real name. We advise against using your email address for you screen name as well. There is an option in your profile where you can decided if you want the public at large to have access to your email address - your screen name is not a good place for it. There are way too many crazies out there for you to be posting on the internet with your real name. It is your chance to add a splash of personality to the group!
- Give support in order to receive support. If all you do is ask questions and post topic after topic without contributing back to others questions you may not get the most warm and welcome support you were looking for. This is a community. We all need to contribute to keep it awesome! Ofcourse some will post more than others and we will be sure to keep that in mind. The board is still filling up so there will be a lot of post and runs and people we don't hear from again, but once we're settled this will be a good thing to keep in mind.
- Please remember that we are not doctors and are definitely not your doctor. We are pregnant/expecting and our advice is based on our experiences and what others have told us. If you think something is wrong or you are worried about something, ask your doctor. Also, please be careful when answering medically related questions to use good information. Link to sources is always very helpful. Your opinion =/= safe medical advice. If you ask a question that requires medical advice you'll more than likely receive the following answer "did you ask your doctor?" Even there are health care professionals on the board, they can not give you medical advice because they don't know you. So please, ask your doctor.
- We will be honest. If you do not want an honest answer this may not be the best place to ask your question. We will support you the best we can but if you ask a question be ready for an honest answer. You will not find sunshine and sparkles coming out asses here.
- If you need to be treated with kid gloves The Bump may not be the best place. The Bump is known for being straight-forward and honest (to a fault). If you mess around or try to pull off crap you will be called on it and you will not like it (or if you do like it you will fit right in!). We can be a great support, but we will also protect our own. Because we love us. Us is good. Us is fun. Us rocks.
- Show some respect, defend yourself! But please try not to take offence at everything. The gender v. sex terminology is a good example of this. It is a new distinction so not everyone is aware of the difference yet. Fill them in, let them know and cut them some slack. Not everyone had done this before and some of us have some learning to do. Ofcourse you should stand up for yourself and your beliefs, but respect those of others and. However, when the situation calls for some tough love . . .
- Show some respect, defend yourself! But please try not to take offence at everything. The gender v. sex terminology is a good example of this. It is a new distinction so not everyone is aware of the difference yet. Fill them in, let them know and cut them some slack. Not everyone had done this before and some of us have some learning to do. Ofcourse you should stand up for yourself and your beliefs, but respect those of others and. However, when the situation calls for some tough love . . .
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October 2014 birth announcements: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12433317/share-your-birth-announcements-here/p1
Spreadsheet of due dates & pregnancy stats: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12434315/oct-14-bmb-spreadsheet-updates/p1
Loss Blog (finally updated)
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Re: **NEW USERS START HERE** OCTOBER 2014 ANNOUNCEMENTS
My LO is 7 weeks tomorrow. We moved 12 hrs across the country when she was 2 weeks old and are now back by our families thankfully. I'm a nurse and will be going back to work sometime in January (currently on the job hunt).
Love all the wonderful advice shared here and hoping to become more active
Hello all! I've been lurking for a long time, but I go back to work soon and I'm getting increasingly freaked out about it. So I thought this would be a good time to come out from behind the ficus in the corner!
Quick intro: FTM, even though I'll be 36 this month. N was born 10/31, vaginally with a blessed epidural. I had the gestational diabeetus. BF'ing, most days I nurse at night and do pumped milk in bottles during the day.
I'm a resident physician and I go back on January 1st. My schedule is crazy and 80-hour weeks are not unusual - from what people have told me, my program is pretty good about making sure we have time to pump, but I am going to fiercely miss my little lady!
I just wanted to say hello, and thanks for all the advice, camaraderie and laughs over the past months!
And here's my kiddo:
Still trying to learn all of the acronyms as well, so if anyone can fill me in, it would be greatly appreciated!!
Looking forward to getting to know you all!