3rd Trimester
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How do you get relief emotionally?
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How do you deal with your rollercoaster emotions especially when theyve hit an all time low..
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Re: How do you get relief emotionally?
If we could aford therapy (cringe) I would just cry the entire time before we even got there Im a cancer (star sign) so im too dam soft hearted and "feel" too strongly. So this stuff really weighs heavy on me, even more so being pregnant.
I try and distract myself with the nursery but then i just get put off because I dont want his mum to see it out of spite. All the hard work we've done and how well we've done even with her and his family taking our money.I just get sad god it sounds pathetic, i hate to think what my poor baby goes through when im so stressed. Poor LO.
My partner has his mums back. Mine first of corse but she manipulates him by saying theyre starving and he always puts it on me wether we give money or not. They live 4hrs away so I cant take food. And it adds to him missing them and wanting to do anything for them, like having his brother when he can or helping his mum buy his uniforms seriously hes like his dad (their dad is useless) but my mum did it as a single parent and we were never starving as children. Its only 1 that his mother looks after and she works a bit and she must get welfare for her son she also gambles! Stupid woman.
Geez reading through this (my life story, sorry.) Definitely puts things into perspective. Its either our family or his. I must say since ive been with him though the money his mums been getting is definetly alot less. I dont understand what person relys on their kids for money or to be the father figure. My partners heart is tooo big and his parents take advantage
Maybe shes just being greedy cause my mums going to be there. But my mum will be my everything . My experienced supports person, my entertainer for my midwives, my go getter. Not a burden of oh is she hungry is she comfortable am I looking like a wuss.. is this going to be talked about to my other halfs family members.
All questions that dont need to be considered because Im not allowing it.
Want to just kick my partners head in but my leg wont reach that high anymore . Or i would lol. This board has helped me heaps though, strayed a little from the topic. Alot actually.
But the obvious is to get relief in a case like this just need to talk about the nitty gritty.
Also pushing around nursery furniture is a good way to let some steam out.
Rose petal baths mocktails and sweets just dont cut it sometimes. Dressing up isnt much fun anymore either.. retail therapy is just a little depressing now. Rather put on a pair of boxing gloves
You know what im so glad you posted, even though its under sad annoying disturbing circumstances. We had problems with food aswell. My partner has a good earning job and so is also taken for granted and seen as a bank. He offers me so much and can hardly pull through because "they" get to him pretty quick. If its not pay day they contact him its the day after.. as if its not that obvious. I tell him to get real when hes telling me we will own owr own home because his credit is bad from his family loaning money and never paying it back. He thinks im negative and bla bla but i was so the healthiest of a happy person when i met him. Then i slowly changed from being selfless to selfish for my own good. He didn't want me to work because of his hours wed never see eachother and i understood that at the time but really wish i just kept working because he then owned my independance and especially now being pregnant with no extra income i know how stressful and hard on you it is when you feel like he owns all the money. How do you tell your spouse not to support his "other" family when yours isnt quite here yet and when he earns all the money. And of corse you are easily won over because you feel as if you have no real say. Your baby gets a say though and thats what ive always fell back on. I look like a nagging pregnant woman but you know its not without reason. Make it known to him that your family comes first and if it doesnt walk away and get child support until he learns his lesson. Thats my plan if this keeps going because my partner is all mr generous and i hear him on the phone offering to pick up his sister who lives 3hrs away. And for no reason at all. He knows to ask me before he Actually does anything though but its the stupid thought in the beggining that he thinks its okay is what really annoys me and thats where i say No because we need that $200 gas Gosh! But then im seen as being negative or whatever and its like No you need to wise up not leave it all on your pregnant mrs shoulders! I swear i feel so annoyed that my mum is the only one we can go to when we need money and we only need money because his is sending his little brother to us on the bus for two weeks and we need food or she is asking for money and hes given it. He even tried to get me to agree on giving his sister the last $150 we had in our babys account which is a waste of time because we always need to clear it out so we could keep us going. Its cool that your H is cheap though because mine is a show pony and i seem to have to trip him up Alot of the time on careless spending which trust me isnt fun. The thought of its Only money well get more money is Stupid! When you have nothing saved.
We are living with my mum to save money that means splitting Everything 50/50 power water etc. Food is the most annoying because you are two seperate families trying to agree on what to eat and yes i find splitting that bill very hard and confusing. But if we had his mum staying with us. She wouldnt pay a cent maybe once in a while but we can never rely on her. I say get out of the house with the mother inlaw because shes always used her son For things and by living with her it makes it that much easier for her to manipulate him