Pregnant after a Loss

Pregnant exactly a year after losing my first

LovewithXOXOLovewithXOXO member
edited December 2014 in Pregnant after a Loss
Almost to the day. Crazy.

Not sure what I am looking for here. I am just very happy but also very nervous. I am around 6 weeks now and I lost my last one at about 7 weeks. My doctor thinks I am plenty healthy enough for a good pregnancy despite the fact that I am obese but I must admit it is a concern I have.

Anyway I am having a hard time embracing this pregnancy. It does not feel real like it did last time. My husband is feeling the same I think. The first time he was all excited and started planning our lives right away and this time, he is glad but not really "getting into it". I wonder if at any point we will shake off this fog we seem to be in and realize and accept what is really happening.

And I just hope the little guy or girl makes it. My sister had four miscarriages until she finally (with hormone treatments) had her first son just two weeks ago! And it was the very day she gave birth that I had my first symptoms that told me I should take a test. Everyone thought I just had baby fever because of the birth but not so! haha

We, btw have had no medical intervention at this point. All natural.

I am happy, hopeful, unsure, and paranoid, and also very nervous about parenthood should we achieve it. So many emotions all rolled up. It is almost more than I can bear.

Ok, vent over, I guess. Maybe some encouragement, similar stories with happy outcomes maybe?

Re: Pregnant exactly a year after losing my first

  • Congrats and welcome.  My H and I feel the same way, happy but not excited like we were with my first pregnancy.  Check out the PGAL mantras on the sticky at the top of the page.
    Me: 37                                               
    DH: 45
    BFP #1 3/19/14  EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
    BFP #2  12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
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  • LovewithXOXOLovewithXOXO member
    edited December 2014
    Wow ok this is nuts! I am not a super duper emotional person normally but I started tearing up just reading those mantras! Hormones are some powerful beasts, man.
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    TTC since December 2012 
    BFP 6/29/2013 - EDD 3/16/14 - MMC 9/5/2013
    Diagnosed with PCOS and taking metformin 750 mg  twice a day
    April 2014 -  - 1st ICI Cycle - BFP 5/15/14 EDD: 1/20/15
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    12/15 Checkup & heard his beautiful heartbeat
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  • Congrats and Welcome!  We are not getting really excited until we have the first U/S either.  I think that is completely normal after a loss.  DH and I continually whisper "bake baby bake" throughout the day.
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  • Welcome. Congrats!! We are similar in feelings. Both DH and I are kind of numb and holding our breaths until more time passes. You are not alone!!
  • Congrats and welcome! It's totally normally to be reserved about a pregnancy following a loss. Just give it some time.

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  • Congrats! My dates are in my signature - my BFPs and EDDs were a year apart. It was tough early on because ultrasounds at the same gestational age were on almost the same days as a year before. But after I got past my loss date, and with each new milestone, things got easier for me. Wishing you a H&H pregnancy!

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  • Congrats and welcome!

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  • My "loss day" is on the 11th. Staying as cool as I can but I must admit I do a lot of "checking". Always a big sigh of relief when I see nothing there. Trying not to go crazy!

    Congrats on your progress. So crazy that it is a year apart for you just like it is for me!
  • Congrats. My story is very similar. I'm newly pregnant almost exactly to the year of our last pregnancy that ended just before 8 wks. Scared shitless but trying to be excited. It's hard with PgAL brain not to worry about every single little thing. Good luck to both of us. :)

    Me: 28 
    DH: 34

    IUD out 8/29/13 and TTC since then.
    BFP 12/29/13
    Bleeding 1/17/14 with LO showing 10 days smaller.
    NMC 1/26/14

    Continued trying every month. Began seeing RE 7/2014.

    12/2/14 got first Rx for Clomid for following cycle.
    12/3/14 BFP!!!
    No heartbeat at 8w4d. D&C scheduled for Jan 7, 14 

  • Congratulations & welcome!
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    BFP #2 11.2.12 EDD 7.14.13 MMC 6w5d discovered 8w6d 2 failed rounds miso D&C 12.27.12
    BFP #3 8.5.13 EDD 4.18.14 MMC 7w4d discovered 9.25.13 at 10w6d -Trisomy 13- 1 round miso & emergency D&C 10.2.13
    RPL Testing. DX Asherman's November 2013. Low AMH (0.44) January 2014. 
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  • So far all is going well. I had my first US and everything looks good. I feel SOOO sick! Which sucks but I take it as a good sign that my hormones are being wacky in all the right ways. I cannot wait for the first trimester to be over. Hopefully I will get a break in the second.

    Thanks for all the replies everyone.
  • Welcome and congrats. This baby is due a week (and a year) after when my first loss would have been born. It can be difficult making past milestones, but what has helped me is setting up small goals. Things like get to 8 weeks, see a heartbeat, get out of first tri, hear the heartbeat on the Doppler, etc.

    BFP #1: 8/17/13     Due Date: 4/26/14      MMC discovered @ 9w 4d       D&C: 10/2/13
    BFP #2: 12/23/13       Due Date: 9/6/14      MMC discovered @ 8w 5d    D&C: 2/6/14
    BFP #3 8/26/14     Due Date: 5/7/15  

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  • LovewithXOXOLovewithXOXO member
    edited December 2014
    That is what I am doing. I am a couple weeks past my loss date, and I have actually seen the heartbeat now. That was really cool. The technician was looking around and doing her thing without saying a word for so long I was starting to get nervous but finally she said, "Everything looks good". Then it looked like she was wrapping it up and i was like, "Can I see?". I thought that was strange that she didn't assume or ask that I wanted to see but either way I did get to see it finally. That was when I really started to accept there there really is a new life growing inside me and that is freaky cool.

    Anyway just a few more weeks till the second tri and I cannot wait to get there.
  • Congratulations and welcome . I'm trying really hard to be optimistic but my H is being way too cautious. Trying to meet in the middle somehow . It's hard this early on.

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  • It took me a very long time to convert from IF we have a baby in February, to WHEN we have a baby in February.  Even now, it still makes me nervous to think about.


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    BFP #2 6/12/14, DD born 2/21/15

  • Welcome and congrats!

    Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
    TTC #1 since November 2013

    BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14

    BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
    D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14

    BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15

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  • Welcome and congrats!

     
    EDD 1/8/10 - our sweet sunshine DD born 12/30/09
    EDD 2/15/14 - Stillbirth at 21 wks 10/02/13
    EDD 8/12/15 - MMC 1/12/15
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  • Oh yeah, I am definitely still in "if" mode.

    Congrats on your apparently successful pregnancy btw!
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