Daddy wins!

dredford

It's so easy in our sleep deprived hormonal state to focus on the negative things. How about some love for the awesome things our DH's do?

I posted this in the MOTN thread but, I'll leave it here to start:
DH has been working out of town for a week and a half. Came home today and jumped right into daddy mode. Played peek-a-boo with E and put her to sleep while I took a shower, made me a sammich while I bf her, changed a poop diaper, and he just brought me a popsicle since she's asleep on me. I just love him.

Leysin97

DH came home from work really late Sunday night, stayed up and cleaned the whole house. Monday was one of the few days he had off. When we got up he held LO for a while giving me a break (she fell asleep on him). Then we went to a late lunch and whole foods. Oh and he made me dinner.

rosalie12

I don't have anything specific but DH is always quick to do anything for the baby. He loves her so much and even after getting home after a long day of work and then class, he insists on holding her and changing her. He's gotten up for her with her in the middle of the night and has let me sleep by giving her a bottle and entertaining her. He also takes care of dinner every night.

pattygrazioso

I will get up in MOTN for changes and feeds because I'm BF. My DH will change her whenever he is home. He will also take her in the mornings when she wakes so I can get extra sleep. He is so smitten by her. I catch him dancing with her, talking to her, doing "baby exercises".....love seeing how in love he is with our little girl!!!

victoria+james

When I went into the hospital I only prepped for a vaginal birth (despite knowing I would likely have a c-section since I was still in denial). When we confirmed I needed the cesarean DH calmed me down and got me into the OR without having the meltdown I was on the verge of. From the moment M was born he took care of everything - which was hard for him since he'd never been around a baby... ever.

Not only did he do everything M needed, he took care of me too. I've never had so much as a stitch before, so major surgery was a whole new world for me. He stayed on top of each of my medications, made sure I was taking time to eat, cleaned the pump equipment and nipple shields what seemed like hundreds of times each day. He stayed in my hospital bed with me because he is a heavy sleeper so if I needed anything I could easily shake him awake.

On top of all of that he really took charge when we discovered that M was bleeding and held it together when I couldn't. Once they took M down to the NICU he allowed himself to break down, but still got me into a wheelchair every 2 hours and pushed me to the NICU so I could continue to EBF M.

He really is my rock and I don't know what I'd do without him.

bumpuser10309732

I don't even know where to start. From DD's surprise arrival while he's in Canada. To taking care of her the whole time we were in the hospital because I couldn't get out of bed for 24 hours. He woke up every two hours, changed her diaper, gave her to me to BF and then he bottle fed her. Gave her her first bath and then helped me taje a shower. Hes dove in with both feet. He does the diaper changes and sings her ridiculous songs he's made up. He's done pretty well sharing his wife with his daughter. He's such a good daddy. I fall in love with him all over again every time i catch him admiring her.

angeltennis3

DH has been my rock. I was an emotional mess the first week. He would tell me how much he loved me and how amazing of a mom I was when I was in tears. He changed every single diaper of LO's for the first week after my CS.

He will do anything I need as far as help without complaint.

Most recently I just really feel like we are a team. We take turns with diaper changes and watching over LO so the other can rest. Like yesterday, I went to the salon and got my hair done, so he watched LO. But since he woke up with her at 5:00 he was tired so I told him to go take a nap and watched LO all afternoon. Then he took her in the evening while she screamed her head off for no reason so I could get a few hours of sleep...and when he couldn't handle it anymore we switched.

Right now he is sitting there admiring LO while she sleeps. My heart is melting.

krazyinsane

DH used to have a terribly strained relationship with the girls due to being in a semi truck 5-6 days out if the week and needing to sleep the other. He's always been amazing with the kids though. And I love seeing the love they have for their Daddy and helping foster that.

Last night I left the three girls and DH at home to go to Target and get all we needed for me to make the pies for Thanksgiving. I was gone well over two hours (I took DS with me as he doesn't get bottles so it's easier for him to stay with me) He never called or anything just played with the girls and watched Frozen....AGAIN. :x

MrsSarahRenee

DH was the most amazing coach during labor. I had numerous panic attacks that he talked me down from and he held my legs when I was pushing. He cried when Emma was born and it was just so amazing.

He is my rock. Whenever I am overwhelmed, he holds and calms Emma. He loves her to pieces. He fell apart after she was born so overwhelmed by how much he loved her and would be killed if something were wrong with her. There were a lot of tears those first few days.

So much love for that man.

caranichole

Especially now that I have started grad school, Dh has been an amazing help with the toddlers and the housekeeping. He works really hard and goes out of his way to make accommodations for me even if I don't ask for it.

He knows I've been doing my best to not ask for too much and he has been doing his best to make it so I never have to. He's been pretty amazing really.

persephonerose

DH works 3rd shift from home. On the nights he works he will take one twin downstairs with him to his office and take care of them overnight while I deal with MOTN stuff with the other twin, toddler bedtime, and pumping.   I honestly have no clue how he manages to work and juggle a baby for 11 hours.

He also wakes up during the day when ever I have to pump to help manage the twins and our toddler. This means he wakes up 2-3 times during his sleep cycle for over an hour each time just to make sure we can provide breast milk to the twins.

lrobi13

DH got inspired by the bassinet at the hospital so he made a changing table. It may not be pretty but it is oh so functional!

persephonerose

lrobi13 said:

DH got inspired by the bassinet at the hospital so he made a changing table. It may not be pretty but it is oh so functional!

That's pretty genius! DH was saying he wished we could bring the hospital basinet home with us.

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I really never thought I would find someone that loves me like DH.

Before I was induced, I had told my doctor and DH that if I needed an episiotomy I just didn't want to know about it. I thought it would make me tense up and not push. I tore during the first half hour of pushing (out of two hours) and after he was born I got more stitches than I cared to get. A few days after we were home, DH told me that I did tear, but I also had an episiotomy. He said he saw my doctor grab scissors and so he bent down in front of my face and encouraged me to push and said we were almost there.

Once we were home, I had a really tough time adjusting. I just felt like I wasn't a good enough mom and I was crying fairly often for no reason. He could always tell when I was upset, and he'd just hold me and talk to me about anything and everything to get me to open up.

He changed most diapers and always wanted to hold DS and hang out with him. I even caught him taking a selfie or two with the baby.

Now, he's been gone about a week and a half. He's in Mexico again for work and won't be home until a few days before Christmas. He's constantly emailing me and telling me what a great mom I am and how he's so proud I'm doing this so well by myself. I send him pictures of DS, and he is thrilled every time. I know for sure I couldn't do this without him. Ugh, now I'm tearing up.

lrobi13

Big hugs @apk4. I can't imagine going it alone. This is hard work and you are doing an amazing job!

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@Irobi13 thank you >:D<

krazyinsane

I love this thread so much more than the fails (although some of those are funny)

raynes

My H has stepped up and basically completely taken over toddler care when he's home. DS has been waking up in the MOTN again, and he just deals. When I'm breaking down at midnight because I just cant get her to sleep he stays up with her to let me sleep.

courtney8806

DH has taken over baby duty at some point every single day since DD has been born so that I can take a bath or shower. And not a quick one - a nice relaxing one he is also great about getting up with her for the early morning feeds so I can get a few more hours of sleep.