Who buys the condoms?

blackbird818

It appears H & I are in a predicament.





So I'm cleared for sexual activity. This past weekend H tried to make a move and I commented that we didn't have any condoms



(He did end up getting a BJ...not by my total choice but whatever)



Then this morning he was trying to initiate before we got up for work; I'm not completely back to normal sexual desire. But he had me turned on & up for it. I asked him if we had any condoms...answer = NOPE





So who buys the condoms in your (proverbial) house? Bc I really want to hold out until he goes & buys them himself.




I can wait




PS don't google evil or spiteful female gif at work....dirty (hot/sexy) images appear. I am re-search for those when I get home though

MrsKush1014

EurydiceNymph said:

((Hugs)) @Blackbird. I've missed you. Great gifs. 

We do our grocery shopping together and tend to buy them together. I can't wait for the day that we pitch them in the trash, tho!! 

Ditto.  

renegadewhit

I do because DH gets embarrassed. I also buy them in bulk when we're using them because, you know, money. Cue sleazy guy at CVS, who last time gave me a wink and a "wow!". How do you even respond to that?!

blackbird818

EurydiceNymph said:

((Hugs)) @Blackbird. I've missed you. Great gifs. 

We do our grocery shopping together and tend to buy them together. I can't wait for the day that we pitch them in the trash, tho!! 

ETA: I did get pissed at him when I found out he was using them for his solo acts. I made him go buy another box that time! 

Well actually we did go grocery shopping together on Sunday, and I thought he'd pick them while we were there. Didn't happen. (this was after I dropped the initial hint) :-??

I keep thinking if he wants it bad enough, he'll make the effort to go buy some. Like I said my desire isn't really that strong right now unless coerced.

mrspipp

DH is in charge of buying. I firmly refused. Before we were TTC, I was the one in charge of BC, so I feel this is fair. 

welly01

MrsKush1014 said:

EurydiceNymph said:

((Hugs)) @Blackbird. I've missed you. Great gifs. 

We do our grocery shopping together and tend to buy them together. I can't wait for the day that we pitch them in the trash, tho!! 

Ditto.  

Same.  But he has to put them in the basket.  If we need them any other time, I would make him buy them. 

MrsKush1014

LDubHawksFan said:

We buy them together. But we haven't in a long time. Luckily we still had some when we had to avoid.

I thought the same thing when we were TTA, but they were expired.  Didn't realize it until one broke.  Cue freak out!

blackbird818

mrspipp said:

DH is in charge of buying. I firmly refused. Before we were TTC, I was the one in charge of BC, so I feel this is fair. 

I like your way of thinking.

uromys

Kateisoptimistic said:

buy them online and you can have them delivered to the mailbox

I imagine a monthly mail order service of condoms.

For us it's ususally me. MH use to go weekly shopping with me, but now we just don't have time for that.

MrsPhD83

A few things:

1) I missed you blackbird!!

2) We buy them together if we need them ASAP

3) Two words: AMAZON PRIME!!!!!!! You don't have to leave your house and they show up in 2 days. That's pretty much the only way I like to buy condoms

blackbird818

Greeneyes842 said:

I just bought some online last night since we're benched.  I think DH is too lazy/can't remember if it was up to him.

Yea this is kinda what I'm thinking too.

blackbird818

sarcaztic10 said:

Yay! You're back!! We missed you  :x

H and I buy them together if we have to. We are the weird couple standing in the condom isle arguing the pros and cons of each box for 20 minutes before finally deciding. We always feel weird just buying condoms so we traditionally throw in a package of beef jerky, which probably makes us look even more crazy.  

Lol oh I've been lurking about 8-> here and there

Nikolie93

Love the gif story! 

I don't really care if I have to get them or not but I will not go out and buy them together ever again. The only time we ever did that we literally stood there and read every freaking box and had a 35 minute discussion in the condom aisle (we are newbies when it comes to condoms). The girl at Walgreens finally came over and helped us. It was a pretty interesting conversation ) 

If I ever have to buy them again I would probably use Amazon Prime like MrsPhD83 said...because lazy. 

tlc35

MH has always bought the condoms in our house.  He had done it since we were dating and we also had some left over after my loss so we used those.

Menrandes

When we were benched I had to be the one to get them.  Poor husband is so awkward with that kind of thing.  Where I will walk in, grab the box and not bother hiding it.  I'm an adult.  I can do adult stuff.


Um...so don't google "adult stuff"

blackbird818

ktlovess said:

@jj32 - No. I do not deserve the TMI award!

You know, a lot of women live with pelvic pain and aren't aware. I just assumed that a number of the symptoms I was having was normal, and it's not until I was talking to an IRL friend who probably deserves a TMI award that I realized that they weren't normal at all.

If anyone is interested to know more, go here (here's my plug for awareness!):

https://www.vulvalpainsociety.org/vps/index.php/vulval-conditions/vestibulodynia

ETA - blackbird, I promise this is the only time I will hijack your thread

lol no worries, love
:-j

LittleMrsW

Nice to see you out Blackbird!

When were tta after our loss, I was the one who did the condom shopping. Mostly because DH was too busy. I felt a little awkward only because I was also buying HPTs at the same time.

mkfish31

I second the Amazon prime!! Comes the next day (no pun intended!)

mflowers929

Okay, 2 things - 

#1 - I literally had to stop reading this at work because I kept giggling at my phone and then looking up at my coworkers giving me an odd look and not being able to explain.

#2 - This has ended up becoming a conversation topic for H and I. He screwed around A LOT when he was younger. Like, had a wall dispenser of condoms screwed around a lot. He says to me "I don't get what the big deal is with buying condoms". When I tried to explain to him it's one of those 'everyone knows you're having sex but nobody wants to admit it' things he says "Okay, I don't have a problem buying them not because I was a man whore, but because society is too prude. It should be a badge of pride." XD OMG, my husband ladies, my husband.

rslh10

I have no problem buying them! Last time I bought them (last year) I walked up to the counter with just condoms and a bag of broccoli

ETA-stuff

daystardreams

I have always bought the condoms since we moved in together. He bought them before that but he gets embarrassed so he would only buy them at the gas station. I'm the more financially conscious one so I insisted that he buy them in the value pack, he refused and I've bought them ever since! I make him buy HPTs though when we are in our home town.

schuebja

Either DH buys them or I order them on Amazon. The last time I bought them in a store, it was way too awkward as I almost ran into an ex's mom. Now I just get them online and don't have to worry about anything

blackbird818

Ally1986 said:

The hubs buys them. He's uh, proud of himself when he walks up to the counter with that black and gold box, KWIM?

My husband has the mind of a teenage boy.

Magnums. Yea i had an ex who used em...cough cough....he didnt need em.

TowerClimbersWife

Ok... This might be a stupid and ignorant question... But this is the first time since marriage that I've even thought of condoms...

I know we're supposed to wait a various # of cycles before starting. Is the pull out method/nfp not good enought for this? I'm freaking out now because I didn't even consider condoms. I know MH will be fine if that is what we need to do, but for whatever reason I feel weird about it. I think condoms suck and I don't want to do that! Insights are welcome.

Edit because mobile sucks.

Nikolie93

Well, in my experience we did the pull out method for many, many, years and I never got pregnant. I was usually really careful around the times I thought I was ovulating and wouldn't have intercourse at all.

Could have just been luck though because I also know a few that got pregnant using the pull out method (so they said) . I guess it depends if the guy pulls out in enough time.

Eh, I'm no help, sorry lol

mflowers929

@cavewmn actually there is. And the consensus is - some men have active sperm in precum and some don't. There's just no way to tell unless you've had it tested. I know for me, we used the pull out method for 6 years or so without so much as a scare, so I would be fine, but honestly, unless you know for sure, it's better to wrap it.
Also, don't ask me why I know this or where I read it. I know way too much information on way too many subjects lol

TowerClimbersWife

Nikolie93 said:

Well, in my experience we did the pull out method for many, many, years and I never got pregnant. I was usually really careful around the times I thought I was ovulating and wouldn't have intercourse at all.

Could have just been luck though because I also know a few that got pregnant using the pull out method (so they said) . I guess it depends if the guy pulls out in enough time.

Eh, I'm no help, sorry lol

Thanks for the input. Still shaking my head at myself that I didn't even consider this. Cue Jasmine singing A Whole New World.

blackbird818

HoldingOutHope said:

I am so happy to see you back!!!!! :x To answer your question, condom buying is 100% MH's responsibility. The last time I bought condoms, I was single. Maybe I'm old school, but in a relationship I have always considered that the guy's responsibility (because really, do they have many others??). :-?

Seriously, I think we are long lost sisters!! You took the words right out of my head.

But alas I broke down yesterday and grabbed some while I was at the grocery store. When H was helping me unpack the groceries, he commented 'oh you got condoms.' I said, "yea I was tired of dropping hints and you not getting them."

PS that's my first time ever buying condoms (alone) :>

......I think I was with an ex when he bought the aforementioned Magnums. Seriously overkill

Nikolie93

@blackbird818 it truly is unfortunate when a guy buys Magnums when he really does need them )

lycih

I hate condoms ( :-q ) so I buy the sponges.  I told MH that if I had to choose between sex with a condom and no sex, I'd rather choose no sex, so while the "unit cost" for sponges is higher, it's worth it because the "cost" for condoms is no sex. 
But, due to my demands, I buy them.     B-)