Almost 11 weeks and can't stop being worried!

mellybelly84

I am new here, so first hello everyone, nice to meet you all;)

I'm 34 and pregnant with my 3rd child, unplanned but once the initial shock was over, very much wanted. The thing is, I am almost 11 weeks, and I can NOT stop stressing and worrying that the baby is alive/growing alright. See, I thought I was done having kids, my daughter is 16 and my son is 14, so yeah I was almost home free, lol. But then this little bundle came along in a most unintended way and well....I have forgotten what it's like to be pregnant and I also have more health problems than when I was younger. They advised me after my son was born it would probably not be prudent to have another child, since I went into early labor with him (they stopped it),I had pre-eclampsia at 5 months with him (at 36 weeks with daughter, induced at 37 and she was fine) and it turned severe at 34 weeks and I was put in the hospital until he was born (after a horrible labor) at 36 weeks. I took the advice seriously, and well....didn't really want more kids anyway. 

Fast forward to now, and one oops with me and my boyfriend and well.....it's going to be baby time again, lol. I am happy but petrified!!!! I was also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in 2011, which has caused me to gain weight and have multiple health issues. I have already been put in the high risk category because of my past history and my already fluctuating blood pressure. I have had two scans, one at 7 weeks and things were great, and one at 8 weeks cause I called in having brown discharge and back pain and things were perfect, both times the heartbeat was around 133-134. But since then, I haven't seen the doctor and I won't go back until Dec 3rd for my 12 week scan. I am sooooo worried that something is wrong and they will tell me the baby isn't alive anymore! I have never had morning sickness with ANY of my pregnancies, so I suppose it's normal for me and I almost wanted it in this one to make me FEEL pregnant. I have had some slight nausea, food aversion (more like the thought of eating something grosses me out more than the smell or taste being gross), breast tenderness and swelling which has has totally gone away for the past week dealt with some tiredness and mood swings, and I have been having some round ligament pain starting last week. Currently I have come down with a cold that has gone into a sinus infection (I don't remember ever catching anything with my other pregnancies) so now that has me worried, being on Amoxicillin, which I know they say is safe, but I still worry.

I am just a bundle of nerves, I have been since I peed on three sticks and they all came back positive, lol. I am going insane worrying that my 12 weeks scan will turn into something bad. Please please help, any advice to calm me down is appreciated.

Thank You:)

crikit83

I've been pretty much a bundle of nerves myself. I have lyme disease, I'm sort of a lemon health-wise, so I've just been worrying incessantly about the little thing. 

My husband, on the other hand, is the super calm and rational type. I'm working on just being positive because, as he keeps saying, "it's not like you can do anything about it." You certainly can't worry yourself into a healthy pregnancy. I'm not always great at it, but it's getting better. 

Also, I wouldn't read too much into what symptoms you do or don't have. As my mom keeps reminding me while I'm puking up my breakfast, she was never ever sick with either of her kids, in fact she didn't even know she was pregnant until she was in her second trimester. Thanks SO much, mom. 

ABride619

I can relate. I had a miscarriage last May, so since then I've been scared to death of going through that again. For some reason, I've just been completely unsettled since my last ultrasound. How do you know everything is still good in there??? I mean, my tummy isn't growing yet because it's still early, so I can't go by that. I've had 3 ultrasounds (6 weeks, 7 weeks, and 9 weeks), and the baby was doing great in all of them. Strong heart beat, growing, etc. But since my 9 week appt it's just unsettling not knowing what's going on in there! I'm constantly praying that my baby is still doing well. We have an appt with my midwife on Monday, but it's only a checkup/blood work appt. She's going to try to listen to the heart beat externally (I'll be 12 weeks), so I'm anxious for that appointment to hear the heartbeat to make sure my baby is still OK. I'll probably freak out if she isn't able to get the heart beat, though. So I definitely understand your worries. I've been trying to keep myself calm and to not worry too much because everything was great at our last ultrasound. It's just irritating how long they make you wait between ultrasounds. We have to wait another 8ish weeks for the next one to determine the gender. Ugh. lol Hang in there, I'm sure your baby is just fine.

Baby3TS

I have been the same way I been so worried. This is my 3rd pregnancy I'm 11 weeks my last pregnancy didn't go to well I had my lil girl 2 months early with her weighing only 2lbs I had placenta previa and I been scared with this one thinking I'm going to have the same problem or even worse.. I been praying my baby is ok and I be so anxious and worried about everything I just be ready to go for my next visits just so I can hear my baby heart beat and to see if everything is alright. I'm nervous wreck..

PrimRoseMama

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12487683/worried-beyond-all-belief#latest