Tanturms

FancyFrenchie

So with DS1, I either don't remember, or he didn't have tanturms like DS2 has. Whenever something happens that he's not ok with (i.e. time to go inside, time to change your diaper, time to put on pjs), it's a throw himself backwards, on the floor, screaming tanturm, kicking, etc...

What's the recommendation??

LauraB1016

I ignore the tantrum but continue to calmly speak to LO like--

"Whenever you are done, we will get your shoes on."

"Allison, as soon as I am done cutting the chicken I will pour you more milk"

coco2787

LauraB1016 said:

I ignore the tantrum but continue to calmly speak to LO like--

"Whenever you are done, we will get your shoes on."

"Allison, as soon as I am done cutting the chicken I will pour you more milk"

This is what I would recommend.

KateJuly2013

wine.  duh.

rondokye

KateJuly2013 said:

wine.  duh.

For you? Baby? Both?

I usually ignore and walk away, don't engage until E calms down.

andrea0418

FancyFrenchie said:

So with DS1, I either don't remember, or he didn't have tanturms like DS2 has. Whenever something happens that he's not ok with (i.e. time to go inside, time to change your diaper, time to put on pjs), it's a throw himself backwards, on the floor, screaming tanturm, kicking, etc...

What's the recommendation??

FancyFrenchie

What about for MOTN? Fill the water bottle I have on my night stand with vodka?! :-)

KateJuly2013

This too shall pass. Before you know it LO will be telling you to eff off.

Perspective!

Stina2012

I'm reading Happiest Toddler on the Block. He suggests that our LOs are really cave people!

One tactic he suggests is repeating back to our LOs in an empathetic manner what they are feeling. So, "Riley says she's mad, mad, mad. She is mad about her shoes. Mad." Then once your LO gets that you "get it", use distraction or other strategies to mediate.

Makes sense to me from the perspective that we acknowledge our LOs feelings and validate them. My Mom thinks I am nuts!

PrimRoseMama

Distract & if that doesn't work then acknowledge their frustration. Then continue on (ignore).

I've found with Abby (since she was a year) if I let her know I hear her & that I know it's hard that the tantrums tend to be less dramatic.

andrea0418

FancyFrenchie said:

What about for MOTN? Fill the water bottle I have on my night stand with vodka?! :-)

Yes for sure!

But really, sometimes I laugh at ty because he's tantruming about something so ridiculous. Other times I try and redirect him. Sometimes I let him lay on the floor and have his tantrum then we move on...
Toddlers have minds of their own!

ilovemyducks21

andrea0418 said:

What about for MOTN? Fill the water bottle I have on my night stand with vodka?! :-)

Yes for sure! But really, sometimes I laugh at ty because he's tantruming about something so ridiculous. Other times I try and redirect him. Sometimes I let him lay on the floor and have his tantrum then we move on... Toddlers have minds of their own!

This exactly. There are different levels of tantrums so depending on that and what the tantrum is about, my response might change.

arlingirl

I usually laugh (I can help it). It ends quickly.

beckyanddon

It irritates my DH so but I say. I hear you H and I will be right with you when I'm done with X. H, J had that first and it's his let's find you a ball.

Then distract. I also label feelings. DH thinks it should just stop. H that's enough....

Ugh I'm a special Ed teacher and former licensed social worker... That doesn't fly with me