October 2013 Moms
PinkDahLia44
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Vent/randoms
PinkDahLia44
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I have a vent, so I hope you don't mind if I start a thread...
Background: I have an "as needed" position as a hospital staff nurse. This means I get to choose when and how much I work. I still need to work 3 or 4 days per week (which is 36 - 48 hours) in order to pay our bills. We pay for DS to be in full-time daycare so I have the freedom to work when I need to. Tuesday I kept him home from DC and spent the day with him and we had an afternoon play date. We celebrated his birthday Saturday.
My vent: yesterday was DS's birthday. We got him up, put him in his birthday outfit (a onesie with suspenders and a bow tie that said "birthday suit") took his picture, and I took him to daycare and went to work. I was very excited it was his birthday, so I told everyone at work and showed them his picture.
Every. Single. Person I told said, "well, what are you doing here?"
I'm sorry, what? Why did I come to work today? Because I have a job and need to support my family! It felt very much like I was getting working mommy guilt thrown at me (and FTR: I have no working mommy guilt, and I do not think that my 1 year old cares that I spent all day Tuesday with him instead of all day Wednesday). I checked with my husband, and not one person at his office asked him why he was working on his son's birthday.
I know this seems trivial, but it really rubbed me the wrong way.
Soooo....any randoms or vents?
Background: I have an "as needed" position as a hospital staff nurse. This means I get to choose when and how much I work. I still need to work 3 or 4 days per week (which is 36 - 48 hours) in order to pay our bills. We pay for DS to be in full-time daycare so I have the freedom to work when I need to. Tuesday I kept him home from DC and spent the day with him and we had an afternoon play date. We celebrated his birthday Saturday.
My vent: yesterday was DS's birthday. We got him up, put him in his birthday outfit (a onesie with suspenders and a bow tie that said "birthday suit") took his picture, and I took him to daycare and went to work. I was very excited it was his birthday, so I told everyone at work and showed them his picture.
Every. Single. Person I told said, "well, what are you doing here?"
I'm sorry, what? Why did I come to work today? Because I have a job and need to support my family! It felt very much like I was getting working mommy guilt thrown at me (and FTR: I have no working mommy guilt, and I do not think that my 1 year old cares that I spent all day Tuesday with him instead of all day Wednesday). I checked with my husband, and not one person at his office asked him why he was working on his son's birthday.
I know this seems trivial, but it really rubbed me the wrong way.
Soooo....any randoms or vents?
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Re: Vent/randoms
Same here! I wear a lot of boots during the winter and skinny jeans just don't work with them.
october has been a really rough month for me on timehop. timehop didn't exist, or wasn't as popular last year, so i didn't see it...but october was the month that my furbaby was diagnosed with cancer, and i eventually lost him...every day, i get the timehop reminders to look at it..and i see the happiness of being very pregnant last year, and having a baby..but then it shows 3 years ago, too, which is the play-by-plays of my loves sickness. i know coming up very soon, i'm going to see my post that says he is "cancer free", but then 2 weeks later, it came back and took him from me. i don't want to miss out on all my posts about my pregnancy, so i have to check it every day, but i see the ones of my babydog, too.
it's been almost 3 years since i lost my dog, and i'm still not over it. at all. the pain still stings.
They have a ton of perks (free meals all day every day, on site facilities for everything imaginable, all kinds of crazy stuff) but I have heard it is basically so that you never gave to leave the campus and can work longer hours. That even on vacation you are "expected" to work. Weekends, nights, etc.
@PinkDahLia44 I wouldn't worry about those people commenting on why you are there on his bday .... People are so narrow minded and judgmental. I am sure your baby is happy to be with you ANY day. I also think it would have to depend on who that comment is coming from & even then I hate feeling like I need to explain my actions.
@jennlin in sorry about your timehop reminders about your pooch
My Random :
I did a freelance job a month and a half ago and still haven't gotten paid! I hate having to send reminders that they are past due .. But I have no choice. This is why freelance can suck
:-O
I also loved her whole speech, esp the part about the double standard.
@Weljadraak, I think the focus on the pizza was commenting on how, when she was expected to be super buff and skinny (a la Alias) she could never eat pizza, and now that she is playing "mom" roles, she is able to eat what she wants and be happy with her natural body type. This is what I took from it.
This does not apply to you guys above, when I'm sure you and your clients have agreed on a set price and payment time frame for the work ahead of time. Just this post reminded me of it.
and i was going to buy something, but i refuse to buy it now, because *everybody* gets free shipping...i normally get free shipping bc i have a target card. i'll wait until tomorrow to buy my toothpaste thankyouverymuch.
I'm having family drama which is giving me the sads and mads. My sister is sucking as an aunt and I'm upset with her but don't want to talk to her because I'm too "negative and opinionated" and she completely shuts down when I talk to her. She also just got engaged which I think is a little lame considering it's WAY too fast on multiple fronts. My mom is apparently on her side and we got in an argument about it this week where she made backhanded comments about me not supporting my sister and prioritizing my IL's over my sister, neither of which are founded. I hate having to be the breadwinner in my family and having to be away from DS. Drop off in the AM always sucks but today was particularly sad. SO is going through work changes that will change work hours which is leaving things very TBD and stressful and my daycare is retiring and I can't quite find a new one I like. The anniversary of my dad's death is this month which is always depressing. And I may be getting a cold. Major vent. I'm just hanging on until some of this stuff passes.