Never said I could dictate. Just sharing my opinion - welcome to the Internet. I've done a great deal of research and was just wondering about this one thing - I knew it was a long shot. I just didn't realize it was going to spark a thread of bullying. All the best to you all...
I'm actually a paid comedy writer. All I see here is ignorance and second-rate humor related to a serious subject. Better hit the books, everybody!
Wut? How does that have anything to do with anything? I didn't know we had to suck the fun out of TTC and put on our serious face. You really haven't lurked on this board at all.
Nope. It wasn't necessary for her to lurk since she writes comedy and all. Hey, she even gets paid! It sounds like she like to read too.
@HappyVeganMom - you need to look at the reality of the situation. Even if you did ovulation on your vacation, you only have a 20% chance of getting pregnant. You are making the vacation be this big, perfect, idyllic situation in which to magically create a child and life just doesn't work that way. I feel like you're more into the moment than the product - like women who are SOOOO into their engagement story or their wedding and forget about the marriage.
Wherever your child is conceived is secondary to the actually little human being.
I would absolutely never advocate for effing up your cycle so that you could ovulate later. That's completely messed up. I would also never advocate for effing up your cycle so you could maybe ovulate on vacation. That's even more messed up. This is the conversation happening in here. No, it's not the one you wanted, but it's the more rational and logical one.
Seriously - please just stop with this vacation thing. Let it go. Focus on the new life and not where it was created.
Preach, Joy. Preach.
I would take getting KU in the backseat of my car at this point.
Married to DH (aka the love of my life) since June 17th, 2006
I have very sentimental reasons why I did NOT want to conceive with my legs in stirrups and a strange lady threading my cervix with a cath full of sperm. But alas, that may end up being my not yet existing child's conception story.
"I got pregnant on vacation, how about you?"
"Oh I was lying on my back with my feet in stirrups and a long syringe full of sperm was thrust through my cervix while DH watched from a chair. So romantic."
But it opens up a whole new vista of baby names! Rather than name your kid after the city they were conceived in, you could go with " Exam Room B" or " Cold Speculum".
I'm actually a paid comedy writer. All I see here is ignorance and second-rate humor related to a serious subject. Better hit the books, everybody!
You clearly don't write for any show I watch, because the shows I watch are actually funny and don't take themselves so seriously.
And ignorant? Ignorant is thinking you can change your ovulation day on a whim without major hormonal and health consequences. Ignorant would be us telling you what you're hoping to do is ok and allowing you or even encouraging you to try just that. We don't do your brand of ignorance.
But, seeing as none of us are 'paid' here, you get what you get. Stop acting like an uppity snob and see the humour for what it is. I have a hard time believing someone who writes comedy could be so ridiculously over sensitive. And if you'd taken a hot minute to lurk and get to know anyone in this community (yes, this is a community, not just a google hangout), you'd know how many of us would give our left tit just to ovulate normally and get pregnant at all, and how ridiculous obsessing about when or where you concieve is in the grand scheme of things.
But I guess not all of us live such a charmed life as yours where the hardest thing you have to deal with is worrying about conceiving on vacation and OMG the interwebz didn't tell me what I wanted to hear! After a sirens-on ambulance ride to the city for emergency surgery to end my ectopic pregnancy and remove my right tube, I can't say that having a fabulous and sentimental conception story to share with family and friends is anywhere on my radar. Get your priorities straight, babies are not accessories so you have a good story to tell, you should be happy to take one whenever you get one.
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12:
Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161 Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
Of course I'm sensitive. This is a sensitive subject. I wish no ill will toward any of you - even those of you who have said such hurtful things to me. I didn't want to get personal, but you all have gotten personal without even first asking me WHY I would want to delay ovulation.
I have recently recovered from my second brain tumor and brain surgery. I have been working hard to recover and become healthy so I can start trying to conceive. I'm terrified, and I feel very alone in all of this. I was looking for a supportive community. It's not just any vacation my husband and I are running off to for fun and we're not looking for a fun "story" like some of you insensitively remarked. We are celebrating the fact that I'm alive, and honoring the memory of my husband's deceased father who lived in the place we're visiting.
I never once thought it would be easy or even possible to delay ovulation. I was just simply inquiring, and then this explosion of bullying and anger followed. I am sorry if you all thought I was being insensitive. If you would have simply asked me WHY before making lots of assumptions, maybe you wouldn't have reacted the way you did.
So that is all. I am leaving this discussion and this site. But I really do wish you all the best, and I hope that you are all blessed with a pregnancy soon.
What a coincidence how all the butthurts always a) are recovering from an illness b) recently lost someone c) have been dealing with infertility for 12 to 18 years c) have had 7-8 losses
Also - "I'm actually a paid comedy writer" is now my favourite comeback to ANYTHING
Of course I'm sensitive. This is a sensitive subject. I wish no ill will toward any of you - even those of you who have said such hurtful things to me. I didn't want to get personal, but you all have gotten personal without even first asking me WHY I would want to delay ovulation.
I have recently recovered from my second brain tumor and brain surgery. I have been working hard to recover and become healthy so I can start trying to conceive. I'm terrified, and I feel very alone in all of this. I was looking for a supportive community. It's not just any vacation my husband and I are running off to for fun and we're not looking for a fun "story" like some of you insensitively remarked. We are celebrating the fact that I'm alive, and honoring the memory of my husband's deceased father who lived in the place we're visiting.
I never once thought it would be easy or even possible to delay ovulation. I was just simply inquiring, and then this explosion of bullying and anger followed. I am sorry if you all thought I was being insensitive. If you would have simply asked me WHY before making lots of assumptions, maybe you wouldn't have reacted the way you did.
So that is all. I am leaving this discussion and this site. But I really do wish you all the best, and I hope that you are all blessed with a pregnancy soon.
I call bs on the bolded, see quotes above. I didn't even have to look hard to see where someone asked this question.
Sorry you have been struggling with your health.
ETA: Do we still need to add helpful tips in our responses? Just in case: Smile, it uses less muscles than a frown, or frown if you want a work out.
Re: Can you delay ovulation?
What are your co-workers going to do without you and your amazing sense of humor during the week you're on vacation?!
*mobilequotes*
Probably do all the laughing.
Thanks for this @bibliothecary :-)
Had me snort my coffee through my nose at work. Stained shirt, annoyed coworkers: totally worth it.
Wait: we moved on? But why??
Preach, Joy. Preach.
I would take getting KU in the backseat of my car at this point.
Married: 10/4/2013
TTC Since September 2014
BFP 11/30/2014 ~ EDD 8/13/2015 ~ CP 12/5/2014
BFP #2 12/30/2014 ~ EDD 9/13/2015 Stick bean stick!
Step 1: Cut a hole in the box
You know the rest.
Married August 2012. Me: 41 DH: 42
Daughter from previous marriage: 20
BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
TTC journey over as of the end of October 2014
TTCAL BLOG
All ALers welcome!
Also - "I'm actually a paid comedy writer" is now my favourite comeback to ANYTHING