Nights are the worst.

gingerygirl

My husband works the graveyard shift so I'm all alone at night. I have the hardest time turning my mind off to go to sleep. I lay awake reviewing the most minute details of that awful day. Do you recommend anything to help an over active brain?


Also, I told my dad this morning that I wasn't feeling well; I have some sort of stomach bug. The first thing he said was "Are you pregnant?"
It's only been a month. Too soon, dad. Too soon.

mrslucid

I have trouble sleeping too.  I have been taking a melatonin before bed each night but still end up waking up in the middle of the night most nights. 

lexusolsen

I've found this meditation to be helpful.
https://www.healthjourneys.com/kaiser/files/healthfulSleep/03_Music.mp3

dadalou

I had a very hard time sleeping at first too. Melatonin is a good suggestion. If that doesn't work, talk to your doctor. I got a prescription after a couple of weeks. With taking it I was able to get back into good sleep habits after a while. Then I stopped taking it.

I hope you find something that works for you. Insomnia is not fun.

forevermyfenix

Oh gosh it was so hard getting to sleep at night. The doc put me on Ambien, but it only worked for 4 nights and then it didn't do anything. I asked to be put on an antidepressant called Remeron, and that's helped a lot. I do always emphasize that grieving is normal, being "low" is normal after what we've been through. I have a history of dysthymia and depression beforehand so I went ahead and got meds. 

And I'm so sorry your dad was so insensitive. Hope the bug goes away soon. 

jsshrt

I go for my D&C tomorrow. I just found out my baby has no heartbeat yesterday. I am 14 weeks and 1 day. I had no idea anything was wrong. My baby died between 10.3 & 10.5. My body just hasn't figured it out yet. It thinks everything is okay. I have been going around wearing maternity clothes and picking out nursery themes and everything. I feel so deceived and mad and sad and embarrassed all at the same time. This sucks. I thought in the second trimester everything was going to be okay! I couldn't even wear my maternity clothes to work today. I feel like it is wrong to and that is so stupid. I squeezed into some pants that I used to consider my fat pants. What the heck do I wear to the surgery tomorrow? I man what is protocol? I've never done this before and what is prepping for surgery anyway? Why fits it take two hours to prep for a 30 minutes procedure? I think I am freaking out a little here.

lexusolsen

jsshrt said:

I go for my D&C tomorrow. I just found out my baby has no heartbeat yesterday. I am 14 weeks and 1 day. I had no idea anything was wrong. My baby died between 10.3 & 10.5. My body just hasn't figured it out yet. It thinks everything is okay. I have been going around wearing maternity clothes and picking out nursery themes and everything. I feel so deceived and mad and sad and embarrassed all at the same time. This sucks. I thought in the second trimester everything was going to be okay! I couldn't even wear my maternity clothes to work today. I feel like it is wrong to and that is so stupid. I squeezed into some pants that I used to consider my fat pants. What the heck do I wear to the surgery tomorrow? I man what is protocol? I've never done this before and what is prepping for surgery anyway? Why fits it take two hours to prep for a 30 minutes procedure? I think I am freaking out a little here.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Most of us on this board have suffered third trimester or infant loss, so we don't have d & c experience. Maybe the ladies on the miscarriage board could help you know what to expect? I hope your procedure goes as smoothly as possible and I will be thinking of you tomorrow.