Cautiously Pregnant (Intro)

lindsay443

Hello, everyone!  What a relief it is to have a community of women to talk to who have been through similar experiences with loss as I have!  I have 2 sweet boys and am currently pregnant with another little boy (due in April).  I am 14w4d pregnant, but I am still very much on edge about this pregnancy, because I miscarried earlier this year.  It was an incredibly stressful, heart-wrenching experience to go through, and I feel that it is keeping me from being excited about my baby that I am currently carrying.  Has anyone else dealt with this?  At what point did you let yourself relax about the pregnancy, instead of worrying that something would go wrong?  I almost feel that holding the baby for the first time will be the moment that I breathe a sigh of relief and let myself love him.  Thank you all for you help!

nursecmc

Welcome. I think that feeling never really disappears but for some it will subside much sooner than for others. I'm waiting to see how I feel after I pass each loss milestone.
Good luck to you

beemaya83

Congrats to you! 14 weeks is a huge milestone. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Mom2anAngel2

Congrats on your current pregnancy. I am very sorry for your loss. To answer your question, I did not relax until my DS was placed on my chest (and then a whole new set of fears/worries set in). I am just as nervous with this pregnancy. Your worries are very normal, just try to take it one day at a time.

nohalo21

Welcome and congratulations! PGAL brain sucks. I have my moments still at almost 24 weeks. I don't think I will relax until I am holding my little girl. Definitely read the mantras to help you through those tough days.

natalie115

Congratulations! Like others have said, I don't know if you ever feel relaxed after a loss. I read the mantras at the top of the board at least once a day and they really do help. Wishing you an happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy!

kate6214

So sorry for your loss. Congrats and welcome.

lindsay443

Oh wow!  Thank you all!  Those PgAL mantras brought tears to my eyes.  Exactly the way I need to think from now on.

peggels24

Congratulations and welcome!

luciddreamer106

Congrats and welcome! The feeling of worry has come and gone throughout my pregnancy.  I always felt better after great ultrasounds, but it tends to come back sometimes.  I still worry at 26 weeks even though things seem to be going well.

MrsTuna08

Congrats and Welcome!

jess123456

Congrats and welcome! Being PGAL is hard and now even at 37 weeks I have days when I feel doubtful that he will come home with us. For me I did gain some confidence as we progressed but once you have been through loss it's hard to break that mindset at least I have found. I always remind myself that I am feeling doubtful not because my intuition is telling me something will go wrong but that being PGAL can make it feel that way and has nothing to do with the outcome. Also remember that every pregnancy is different and just because it ended so sadly before doesn't mean it will again. I have tried to make the fear not overcome the joy but it's a constant effort for sure. Know that you aren't alone.

[Deleted User]

Congrats and welcome! I just intro'd here but the mantra 'today I'm pregnant and I love my baby' is comforting and calming to me. I think I'll be nervous until baby comes, but I'm trying to be be more excited than nervous. ((Hugs))

NoeliaV

Congratulations and welcome I agree that I find the mantras very helpful.

KJsbabe

Welcome and congrats! I think all of us have felt that way at one point or another.

pblge

Welcome and congratulations!