Raise your hand if you're sleeping comfortably at night

ShelleyElla22

What in the hell is sleep???

No combination of pillows, heating pads, ice packs, etc. take the pain away enough for me to ever feel like I'm getting any sleep.  Add in a snoring husband and 2 kids that were sick and up 5-6 times a night for 2 weeks straight and I am officially a very grumpy zombie whale!

cbooker8912

Mannn... I sleep like a ROCK.. Don't kill me!! I sleep in the rescue position, sometimes with a pillow supporting my back. I go to bed between 9 and 11 normally, and sleep until hubby gets up to go to work at 6:30. The only place that hurts is between my shoulder blades, and I have NO IDEA how to stretch it out Hubby is kinda like a heating pad on my back when I lean against his side. I think baby Carmyn prefers I sleep facing DH on my right side, but I am normally a rotisserie chicken when I sleep.. I legit rotate to the left ALL NIGHT. I may finish 6 or 7 full turns a night without waking up. But I do have weird dreams if that counts for something!!! 

lincoln79

AnnieRoo13 said:

If anyone posts that they are actually sleeping well I'm going to cut them.

OK, well I am. However, I would trade all the good sleep I'm getting to be pregnant with my own child. 

Kristy774

lincoln79 said:

AnnieRoo13 said:

If anyone posts that they are actually sleeping well I'm going to cut them.

OK, well I am. However, I would trade all the good sleep I'm getting to be pregnant with my own child. 

Ok. Are we seriously going to go here? I would give up being able to have children if my mom didn't have cancer anymore. I think we could go on and on all day with this....

silverwings72

lincoln79 said:

AnnieRoo13 said:

If anyone posts that they are actually sleeping well I'm going to cut them.

OK, well I am. However, I would trade all the good sleep I'm getting to be pregnant with my own child. 
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I get what you're saying. I realize this must be difficult for you to read about a bunch of our symptoms and complaints. You are doing a great job being supportive of your surrogate. Hang in there! Baby will be here soon!

Eta- quote box drama.

lincoln79

Kristy774 said:

AnnieRoo13 said:

If anyone posts that they are actually sleeping well I'm going to cut them.

OK, well I am. However, I would trade all the good sleep I'm getting to be pregnant with my own child. 

Ok. Are we seriously going to go here? I would give up being able to have children if my mom didn't have cancer anymore. I think we could go on and on all day with this....

I am having a rough time emotionally with the fact that I am not carrying my own child as birth gets closer. I opened the thread to try to be supportive of all you ladies, but reading that comment that someone wanted to cut anyone getting a good night's sleep was just too much.

My apologies and I am sorry about your mom.

absolutelymaybe

@lincoln79 - No need to play the pain olympics card here. I can't imagine what you are going through not being able to carry your own child, but we are all in different situations and have our own challenges and struggles. Just because one doesn't share in the same experiences doesn't make another's any less valid.

This is something I've struggled with having dealt with infertility. For years, I wanted to throttle women who complained about being pregnant. I SWORE if I was ever lucky enough for our fertility treatments to work, I would NEVER be one of those women. Well, guess what? Our FET worked, I'm pregnant, and I learned that...damnit, pregnancy can kind of suck at times. Is it a miracle and amazing? Yes. Do I feel incredibly lucky to be here? Damn straight! But it's hard and I don't feel like talking about the downsides diminishes my gratitude for the fact that it is happening at all. And, likewise, just because someone had it easier than me doesn't mean they don't have a right to complain. Although our journeys are all different, we are in this together. 

Furthermore, this was meant to be a fun/lighthearted thread and, while I don't want to speak for @AnnieRoo13‌, she really doesn't have that whole "serial killer" vibe so I'm pretty sure she was just kidding when she said made the comment about cutting people. I think she was joking :-) 

silverwings72

@absolutelymaybe‌ - you said it perfectly. We all have our own journey, each of them precious and sacred.

@lincoln79‌ - if you need support please don't hesitate to ask for it on here or in the FB group. The fact that you took the post so seriously shows me that you are hurting. Please don't stuff your feelings. We are here even if you need to vent.

As far as @AnnieRoo13‌ not being a serial killer.... Hmmmm do we have proof??? Or do we have a catfish on our hands???! DUN DUN DUNNNN

lincoln79

absolutelymaybe said:

@lincoln79 - No need to play the pain olympics card here. I can't imagine what you are going through not being able to carry your own child, but we are all in different situations and have our own challenges and struggles. Just because one doesn't share in the same experiences doesn't make another's any less valid.

This is something I've struggled with having dealt with infertility. For years, I wanted to throttle women who complained about being pregnant. I SWORE if I was ever lucky enough for our fertility treatments to work, I would NEVER be one of those women. Well, guess what? Our FET worked, I'm pregnant, and I learned that...damnit, pregnancy can kind of suck at times. Is it a miracle and amazing? Yes. Do I feel incredibly lucky to be here? Damn straight! But it's hard and I don't feel like talking about the downsides diminishes my gratitude for the fact that it is happening at all. And, likewise, just because someone had it easier than me doesn't mean they don't have a right to complain. Although our journeys are all different, we are in this together. 

Furthermore, this was meant to be a fun/lighthearted thread and, while I don't want to speak for @AnnieRoo13‌, she really doesn't have that whole "serial killer" vibe so I'm pretty sure she was just kidding when she said made the comment about cutting people. I think she was joking :-) 

I just wanted to apologize because I had a bad moment and instead of DD was trying to explain where I was at that moment.