Considering leaving TB

ChanelA

Is anyone else considering leaving the bump, Atleast till they start trying again. I'm so appreciative and grateful for all the amazing support but everytime I get on here I end up lurking in the May 2015 blog. I could be fine all day and I haven't been crying but the minute I peek in there it breaks my heart. It makes me so sad! I know I shouldn't but I can't help myself..

4N6s

No, I like reading this board and the baby name board. Haha. I lurked one time on April 2015 and it made me too sad...

Cheer up Everything will be ok!

xraychick01

I haven't been back to the May 2015 board since my mc.  I just can't bring myself to go there.  Maybe you just need a little break?

FigureSkater8

I cannot let myself look at April '15...that would be way too hard.  But I understand needing to take a break for sure.  Take the time you need and come back when you're ready!  There are so many helpful boards if and when you're ready...like Trying to Conceive after a Loss (TTAL) and others.

ChanelA

Thank you ladies, I peeked at the May 2015 and I've been in tears ever since. I haven't cried in days, I feel like I'm back at day 1.

nikiswimr

@ChanelA‌ I've looked at May 15 a few times as well and just cried and cried each time. I'm making myself stay away from there now, but I don't want to leave TB in general. Being able to talk about this instead of hiding like we are in real life is the only thing that keeps me sane sometimes.

mustlovedogs63

I accidentally opened the May 15 board and started crying and quickly closed the window. But I need you ladies and people who understand so I just know I need to avoid the other boards for now. So I do understand needing that break. Sending hugs

ChanelA

Thank you ladies, I seriously don't know where I would be without every single one of you!!

joolaya

@ChanelA- don't feel like you are back at Day 1.  Given the loss, there will be ups and downs.  Be good to yourself and take a break if you need to.  You can always come back :-)

Sha259

***PG mentioned, not mine***

It never really occurred to me to leave TB after my M/C. I was an active member over on 3T and IF well before my BFP from IVF#1, and had been so cautious that I didn't even intro on my BMB (April 15) or on PAIF until I was almost into my 7th week. I still feel really at home on those boards. And since I do plan to cycle again in the near future, I stick around to research FETs. 

I did, however, stop using my FB. I am on a FB break and not sure if/when I will go back. I just couldn't take seeing everyone so happy. Plus, a friend announced her pregnancy about 2 weeks ago, and her EDD is the week before mine was. Historically (this is #3 for her) she is a bump poster, and I don't think I can take that. That tipped the scale on me just leaving FB for now.

jms0915

Its been 3 weeks since I had the start of my m/c and yesterday was the first day since I revisited TB. I haven't gone back to the April 15 blog and don't know if I could. I'm glad I found this board though since there's so much support coming from everyone!

ChanelA

Hi Ladies, I decided not to leave. The only support I have I have found in this page. Thank you for the immense amount of love!

skd88

@oopsiedaisies‌ I was on the May board too and have the same problem, I'm still slowly going through my mc and it's sad to think I should be 12 weeks next week and spreading the news but not
This board has been more help then the doctors who haven't been able to explain what to expect it's just happening.
I also only have one irl friend that can relate so this has been a lot of help in the night when there is no one to talk to.