As a mom of two with a lot of opinions about the importance of expecting parents trying to prepare their relationship for a baby--based on 20/20 hindsight and, also, some of my professional work in this area--I'm curious what, if anything, you're worried about happening (or not happening) in your relationship/marriage after the baby arrives? I'm especially curious because I sometimes find that my pregnant friends "get" that babies impact relationships--because they've seen it happen to the rest of us who had kids--but I also get the sense that they believe: "That won't happen to us!" I'd welcome knowing about any of your concerns and, also, what you think or hope might help ease them? Thanks in advance for sharing!!!!
Re: What worries do you have about your relationship/marriage post-baby & what might help ease them?
My husband and I have a great relationship and have been married for six years. We've settled into a pretty comfortable, but also selfish lifestyle - and baby is going to change that! I know I am grumpy on lack of sleep. I also know that I tend to get annoyed when I perceive that he may not be taking ownership of household management. I imagine that these feelings will only be amplified once baby arrives on the scene.
I don't know that I'm worried, but I am sure that there will be a lot stress in the beginning as we adjust to a new routine and figure out what works for us as parents.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
My DH and I are best friends too- been together almost 6 years- married for one and I don't want to lose that. We have had several conversations on this exact topic. I think the fact that we have had the conversation makes me more confident in our ability to remain a team and a couple. I know we will have hard times but that's what a relationship is all about. We both come from broken families- he was raised by his dad and I was raised by my mom so we both know the importance of working through stuff.