I know there aren't many of us on this board that cosleep but AP board is quiet so I wanted to touch base with those who are/were cosleeping with baby. I feel like I have 30 questions but I'll start with-
How often does your LO wake at night and do you get them back to sleep by nursing/bottle, back rubs, rocking, shushing?
When did you/do you plan on transitioning LO out of your bed? How do you plan on doing this?
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I rotate sides as she wakes to eat around 2am and or 5am. She'd like to sleep until 7:30am but DH prolly wakes her when he gets up around 4:30-5 and then I wake her to get her dressed and ready for daycare around 6am
Heating oil is expensive and so I'm not in a rush. She'll be in our bed or at least our room till spring.
The amount of times she is up at night varies. I'd say there are generally two true wakings to nurse (around 1:30 and 4:30). It's hard to know for sure since I'm awake so briefly when it happens. A few weeks ago she was waking up a ton and just wanting boob in her mouth CONSTANTLY which drove me crazy and made me start thinking about some kind of transition. Then suddenly it stopped as quickly as it started.
I really like bed sharing and I think I'm as attached to it as she is. It's not without its problems, though. The thing that is the most challenging is that now that's she's older she wants me in there with her all the time. She goes to bed around 7, but some nights will be up every 30 minutes until I go to bed at 10. I used to put her down at 8 and she'd sleep until 4:30 or later! What happened to that sleeper?!
I feel like no matter what we did with this kid it's just in her nature to be a high-maintenance sleeper. I'm totally picturing her to be like @Rrrrrachel 's
daughter and still waking me up when she's 3. I'd like to work with her to be able to sleep a little more independently, but even the gentlest sleep training is going to lead to a ton of crying with her. I'm okay with letting her fuss, but anything more than that would have to be after all other options were exhausted.
Any advice from BTDT moms on how to make the eventual transition?
I don't really have a plan to transition, I just know that this is so much easier for us (bfing and lo is a needy sleeper) and will continue to bed share until it's not.
I don't know anyone personally who bedshares so once we got over the initial "is that safe" response we've graduated to "when is he moving to his crib"? I wouldn't be phased by this but LO has been so wakeful/hungry lately, as a few pps mentioned I can't help but wonder if it's because he knows the goods are right next to him.
He's off the charts in size and I've been feeding him homemade purées 3 times a day and introduced some formula to supplement (before bed time) last week. I'm trying to make sure he is full/close to STTN before I do move him to the PNP in our room or even his crib. I like cosleeping but the initial convenience of it seems to be back firing and I'm too apprehensive to transition him in this stage- at 3 months he woke 1-2 times a night to nurse, he's now waking 5-6.
We started the transition about a month ago because it seemed like all of our sleep was being affected by bed sharing, his noises woke us up, and ours woke him. He seems to sleep better out of our bed, and has gone to bed easier and wakes up less. I hope to have him out of our bed for the most part with in the next month or so.
Cora goes down at 7 in either her swing or pnp downstairs and I hang out with hubby. She wakes up between 9 and 10 and we go upstairs. I nurse her and we snuggle and she falls right asleep. She eats again around 3 and is up for the day around 6. If she wakes up between those times I can usually rub her back and she'll fall right back sleep. Except for the last two weeks, which have been an all night poop and dance party.
ETA: we don't have any specific plans to transition to the crib. We just recently got her to start napping in the pnp and swing which has been awesome because DH and I actually get some time for each other. I have no idea how we did it - we just kept trying and one day she just fell asleep with minimal fussing.
For naptime, he can sleep on his own but I prefer to lie down with him for his long afternoon nap if my 2 year old's nap permits it. I love bedsharing. Around 6-7 months is when we transitioned ds1 but I don't want to stop right now.
Enjoy your space and two hours of sleep. I will enjoy my baby snuggles and 9 hours of sleep!!!
But I have so many ppl telling me it's time to put him in his crib. I'm not too sure what to do anymore. I'm thinking about maybe trying it out.