*Third-Party Reproduction Check-in* Oct 5

brianal87

Third Beta came back at over 4,000!!! I'm a GC for an amazing couple. Looking like a singleton!

lincoln79

@TRexsMum - Welcome to the Board! We are also expecting our take home baby in three weeks via a gestational surrogate.

I understand what you mean by being impatient and anxious about birth and bonding!

Some things that have helped us:

1) I felt MUCH better after doing the hospital tour. We are lucky in that our hospital have had several GC in the last couple of months (Illinois is very popular for surrogacy). 

2) We sat down with our GC and her husband and filled out a birth plan. I found one that a surrogate had shared on her blog and used it as a template. It also helped us to talk through some issues all

 together.

3) Become BFF with the Labor and Delivery Social Worker. He/She will be your advocate because the role of the nurses/doctors is to take care of the health/well-being of the child and woman giving birth.

4) I can understand why your husband is upset, but I also strongly feel that the GC should have her privacy wishes honored. YH probably wouldn't want another man seeing all your privates either. 

I would encourage you to keep an open dialogue about it until the time comes (is there a compromise like he can be in there only at the end, only up by the head), but in the end you will be going home with your child!

Hang in there and hold on!