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Repeat Moms - What are you most nervous about with the labor/delivery/recovery process?

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Re: Repeat Moms - What are you most nervous about with the labor/delivery/recovery process?

  • I am having my third c/s no choice can't do VBAC after 2 c/s. My scariest thing is the docs having to take baby early because of my platelet count, it runs low already, and also what to do with my boys as they will be 7 &9 right after this one comes and they have school and after school activities and my husband wants to be there for delivery and after, to many plans to make.
  • sweaver93sweaver93 member
    edited September 2014
    janda426 said:

    What the fuck am I getting myself into???

    Is not being able to pee common? I have an irrational fear of having to pee and not being able to.

    Honestly, right after delivery I had a catheter because i couldn't feel down there. Later, after being told once I pee the iv goes, I peed no problem. Just take advantage of the spray bottle and witch hazel pads!
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  • LadySnowbloodLadySnowblood member
    edited September 2014
    janda426 said:
    What the fuck am I getting myself into??? Is not being able to pee common? I have an irrational fear of having to pee and not being able to.


    My memory is kind of fuzzy, but I remember having to pee soooo badly after they took the catheter out, but for some reason I couldn't. I guess my bladder had gotten distended. Then they threathened to re-cath me, which literally scared the piss out of me.

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  • I'm also nervous about not making it to the hospital.  For me it's a 2.5 hour drive and last time my labor was only 5 hours (2AM when my water broke to 7:15AM).  I'm worried I may not realize I'm in active labor if it doesn't start with my water breaking.  

    Last time I was SO afraid of the first poop because I heard it was just horrible.  For me it actually wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.  The thought of doing it was definitely worse than the actual experience.  I just have to remember that my brain makes things worse than they really are and to just relax and breath.

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  • Neither of my deliveries was pleasant.  Labor was fairly quick (induced both times).  The first time my son tore me apart and I was in pain for WEEKS after.  At my 6 week pp checkup, it still hurt to pee and the dr said I was not healing properly.  She put silver sulfate on me... she basically quarterized my vagina.

    The second time I had an emergency c-section that left me kind of traumatized for months after.

    I just hope that however the baby arrives, it is less chaotic and painful than the first 2 times so I can spend time enjoying my family, not thinking about the birth over and over, or limping in pain.
  • DD was 1 hr and 47 min start to finish, my epidural only took on my right half and holy shit did it hurt on my left half. I was convinced at one point she was going to come out of my ass b/c I could feel her coming down the birth canal. I want to have plenty of time to get my epi and it working, I may ask for it immediately. I'd prefer a little longer birth if possible, she was hectic and born with the cord around her neck and meconium in her sack.
    How the heck did they get an epi in if your labor is under 2 hours!?  Were you required to get a bag of fluids first?  With DS I had asked for an epi and the nurse basically said "yeah, no, sorry."  I was 7cm and she said there was just no way it was going to happen because I needed a bag of fluid first and that would take at least 20 minutes even if she opened it all the way up.  And the person who gives the epi wasn't on site so they had to call him in which would take 30-40 minutes.  I believe my exact words "well screw it then".  


    janda426 said:
    What the fuck am I getting myself into??? Is not being able to pee common? I have an irrational fear of having to pee and not being able to.
    I had no problems peeing.  I can't remember the first post-baby pee, but I have no recollection of it being difficult.  There is a lot of blood, though.  I knew there was pp bleeding, but no one can really prepare you for how much.  It's like a lifetimes worth of period blood in about 5-6 days (and can continue for several weeks).  So while peeing wasn't hard or difficult for me, it was far from pleasant and clean up took forever!  Anything they give you to help out in that department take and use!!!    

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  • The checks during labor. I thought I was going to kill someone.
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  • The checks during labor. I thought I was going to kill someone.
    You can actually refuse these.  I let the nurse check me when I first got there then said I didn't want any more unless I asked for them.  She didn't ask to check me again until I said I wanted to push.  I did ask her a couple of times, mostly out of curiosity.

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  • I had to be induced for medical reasons last time, and am praying I don't have to be induced this time. When I was in labor I never felt "contractions" it was just constant pain...continuous, gripping cramps with not so much as a blip of a break. After 16 hours, and only being dilated to a 1.5, I got an epi. I'm a little terrified of that happening again. I hope that it was because of the induction that my "contractions" were like that.

    I'm also worried about having to push for 4 hours again, and hoping I won't nearly bleed out this time. My doc thinks I'll have a much easier time pushing this go 'round. I hope she's right. I'd like to go med-free, so hopefully I can push more effectively.

    @janda426, I had an epi, so therefore a catheter, and after they took it out I couldn't pee. I had to sooo bad, but couldn't. They had to put a catheter back in to empty my bladder...which was certainly full. After that I did ok peeing on my own. They said that happens sometimes. I'm hoping it's another thing I can avoid if I go med-free!



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  • So I'm curious, and it may sound dumb but I know you ladies won't sugar coat it. On the off chance I have to have an epi, do they hurt(obviously, but how bad, worst part,etc.)? I've heard some people say they didn't hurt at all, but others say it was awful.
  • sweaver93 said:
    So I'm curious, and it may sound dumb but I know you ladies won't sugar coat it. On the off chance I have to have an epi, do they hurt(obviously, but how bad, worst part,etc.)? I've heard some people say they didn't hurt at all, but others say it was awful.
    I won't lie, mine was painful. And I'm not afraid of needles, have several tattoos, etc, but it hurt like a bitch. Though once it was over I felt SO much better and was able to actually smile and relax. I'll say that is the probably the only thing I'm nervous about the second time around. 

    (Though I'll say my pp contractions were freakin' horrific, I was in a lot of pain, especially when I nursed DD. The nurse kept coming back in and pushing on my uterus and she would just start apologizing the second she walked through the door because she knew I didn't want to see her LOL)

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  • khansil5 said:
    I also had to breathe through my need to push as they dr was delivering another baby at the same time. That was horrible!
    Yes!  This was horrible for me, too!  I wasn't quite fully dilated yet but I wanted/NEEDED to push SO BAD!  The nurse kept saying to breath through it and fight it because I could tear my cervix.  Finally she asked if she could go up there and help me out and that was actually the best part.  I didn't even notice any pain (although I'm sure it hurt) because I just wanted to push.  And man, if anyone had tried to tell me to hold off because the doctor was elsewhere would have gotten a piece of my mind!  I started pushing before my doctor had even arrived at the hospital, but the nurse was already aware she may be the one catching the baby and after torturing me for 20 minutes about not pushing didn't dare say anything!

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  • @ladysnowblood I do not want to get your hopes up. I didn't recall them at all with my first and with my second I was in tears because of them. So I'm not excited for round 3.

    I guess I will also add to the discussion I am nervous about giving birth to twins. I'm not sure what to expect. I went med free both times and I need to find out what the hospital policy is with higher risk deliveries. I would also hate to go vaginally with twin A and then end up with a c section for twin B. So many unknowns!
    FML I forgot about the pp contractions. Awful. I had to ask for more meds because the first kind they gave me wasn't cutting it.
    Or how about the abdominal exams after to make sure your uterus is behaving correctly?  For me contractions were NBD compared to that.  Ouchie!
    saltyfins said:
    This thread has successfully terrified me to my core. WhathaveIgotmyselfinto??! ; )
    I swear this all sounds worse than it really is!  Well... not all of it.  Some of it is way worse than it sounds.  But women are fucking awesome and powerful and we make it through it... and then choose to do it again.  And sometimes again.  And again.  And for some people again and again.  

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  • I don't remember mine hurting. I have scoliosis so the anesteologist had to do an ultrasound on my spine to make sure she was placing it right. The contractions I was having overruled any pain for the epidural
  • I'm also nervous about not getting to the hospital in time, or MH being out of town.  I'm also anxious about breastfeeding an infant around the clock with a clingy toddler and trying to balance caring for two kids.
  • I'm not worried. Both boys were fine. Of course it hurt and all that. I am a little worried about breastfeeding. #1 was fine. #2 wouldn't latch. I'm hoping it's better for #3.
  • Ugh... Winding up with a RCS. Which will put me with major surgery right before DS1s 2nd birthday. I don't want to not be able to hold my big boy on his birthday.

    @cwbandthenewbie me too! I'm due 2 weeks before DDs 2nd birthday.

    Yeah all I want is to go into labor naturally (that never happened the 1st time) and not have another c/s.

    Med free would be a plus. I had to tap out last time after 6 hours of labor with no drugs bc they pumped me so full of pitocin it was just one big never ending contraction.
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  • LadylecLadylec member
    edited September 2014
    I just don't want to have to be induced again. Pitocin was awful and honestly that was the only bad part for me. But I'm not dreading anything about going through delivery all over again.

    I am terrified about leaving my son. He will be 27 months and it will be the first time I will be leaving him overnight :(
  • earthian said:
    So I'm curious, and it may sound dumb but I know you ladies won't sugar coat it. On the off chance I have to have an epi, do they hurt(obviously, but how bad, worst part,etc.)? I've heard some people say they didn't hurt at all, but others say it was awful.
    Mine wasnt bad at all. They told me that the numbing shot would hurt the worst so I braced myself for it while holding on to the nurse and it didn't hurt, just felt like someone was pushing really hard on that one part of my spine. After that I felt nothing, and the guy putting it in was talking and being friendly the whole time.
    Yeah, I don't remember it hurting...I was focused more on the pain of the contractions and wanting to get relief.
  • janda426 said:

    What the fuck am I getting myself into???

    Is not being able to pee common? I have an irrational fear of having to pee and not being able to.

    With my first I could pee for almost two weeks! I was in and out of the hospital catheter in and out!! It was awful!
  • Well this was truly the most horrific bedtime story I have subjected myself to. FTM hoping someone will hit me with a frying pan and wake me up when it's done. I'm such a baby. And I HATE having anyone around when sick or vulnerable.

    I'm very accepting that it's gonna happen - I'm just in denial about the realities and scared about what could go wrong. Luckily I have a bit more time to let it all set in.

    This has been enlightening in a most terrifying way.

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  • My first labor was crazy. In all honesty, it didn't hurt very much for me, I didn't take any meds. It was when my son was finally coming out that he teared me with his elbow. I ended up with a 4th degree tear and was on a full liquid diet for 2 weeks!! And to top it off, my son had trouble breathing so he was sent to a children's hospital 45 min away. I didn't get to bond with him and felt so crappy because I couldn't leave the hospital right away. I was on stool softeners, but I was terrified of pooping. My breasts also hurt because I couldn't breastfeed him and pumping wasn't the same. Good times good times..
  • sweaver93 said:
    So I'm curious, and it may sound dumb but I know you ladies won't sugar coat it. On the off chance I have to have an epi, do they hurt(obviously, but how bad, worst part,etc.)? I've heard some people say they didn't hurt at all, but others say it was awful.
    It didn't hurt for me at all.

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  • *Gulp* :-S
    This thread was like a car wreck that I knew I should look away from but just couldn't... In the 50's, didn't they just knock you out and wake you up when your baby had arrived? Where do I sign up for that? FTM + anxiety disorder = WTF was I thinking!? You ladies are warriors!

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  • I am having a pre scheduled c section and im terrified that my 2 1/2 year old will jump on my stomach after last time i was able to take very strong pain relief as i didnt have to breast feed but if all goes well with this baby id like to breast feed so obviously wont take the medicine. I remeber it feeling like someone was digging out my insides with a spoon last time so really not looking forward to it!
  • I really hate pregnancy. (Two HGs and a third highly medicated MVP where I lost 10 pounds) but I actually like labor.

    I said it. I like labor.

    I'm not looking forward to those last 6weeks. They suck was and ours are in the most boring annoying month of the year. I hope I don't tear badly again. With my first I had 3rd degree tear. That shit is no joke. Talk about painful #2s. They are so bad when your rctum is stitched back together. With my second a second degree tear which is NBD, including the post baby #2. I don't want back labor again. I didn't think regular contractions are so bad but I saw white during my back labor. I lost vision. Back labor is nuts. I hope my husband doesn't pass out again (didn't for #1, did for #2). I hope my labor progresses normally. With #2 my labor kept stalling out right up until I pushed her out. Even the midwife was baffled. I had have true 4 minute ute changing contractions for 2-4 hours and then nothing. I was admitted at 100% effaced, 5 cm dialated with contractions every 2 minutes and the they just stopped for a couple hours. I delivered 5 hours after selivery so it was nbd once there but I was in labor like that (2 hours at a time once or twice a day) for 3 days. We had three close calls in the car and then nada. So, is like a normal labor progression even if it's slow.

    I'm scared of giving up my baby and getting a tubal. I'm going to miss it. I know I'll get it right back and they use the epi to do the surgery so I'm not even going out but... Snuggles.
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  • As a FTM this post was terrifying but I also appreciate it, and I'm glad I opened it. I've been debating just how much to try and prepare for from reading others experiences, I talk to my friends about their experiences also, but I'm trying to walk that fine line of knowing what could happen and not stressing myself out because everyone is different.

    I am a baby when it comes to pain and blood makes me light headed. If I weren't the one doing the pushing, I'd most likely pass out. I was in the room after my best friends c-section and they came in the massage her stomach and change the pad underneath her & I nearly passed out seeing the blood & watching her face in pain.

    Anyone, I'm scared but also thinking, I'm commited now...no control over what happens now! Haha. But I did add a few things to my hospital bag list and home recovery list from reading your stories. Thanks for sharing ladies.
     
  • Ok, now this thread is making me more afraid of different stuff that could happen lol I forgot that term, " the burning ring of fire", that is so exactly what it feels like! And after reading some of the epideral stories I'm really hoping I don't need one again!
  • pmv81 said:

    As a FTM this post was terrifying but I also appreciate it, and I'm glad I opened it. I've been debating just how much to try and prepare for from reading others experiences, I talk to my friends about their experiences also, but I'm trying to walk that fine line of knowing what could happen and not stressing myself out because everyone is different.

    I am a baby when it comes to pain and blood makes me light headed. If I weren't the one doing the pushing, I'd most likely pass out. I was in the room after my best friends c-section and they came in the massage her stomach and change the pad underneath her & I nearly passed out seeing the blood & watching her face in pain.

    Anyone, I'm scared but also thinking, I'm commited now...no control over what happens now! Haha. But I did add a few things to my hospital bag list and home recovery list from reading your stories. Thanks for sharing ladies.


    I really really thought I was the biggest baby ever, hate needles, hate blood. But I labored at home all night & day & my contractions really weren't that bad. Got to the hospital at 5cms 2 hours later & about 15 minutes of pushing & my little guy had arrived! No drugs, the last two hours were very painful but hey I'll take 2 hours not bad at all. I like to tell FTM my story since it's a pretty good one, now I'm just hoping my second is just as smooth!
  • Ladylec said:

    I just don't want to have to be induced again. Pitocin was awful and honestly that was the only bad part for me. But I'm not dreading anything about going through delivery all over again.


    I am terrified about leaving my son. He will be 27 months and it will be the first time I will be leaving him overnight :(
    Completely unsolicited advice but may be spending at least one practice night away from him would be helpful for you both. <3
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  • And now I'm worried about PP contractions, those don't sound fun!
  • I am not at all looking forward to giving birth so I haven't given in much thought. I expect it to be painful and unpleasant. All I'm focusing on right now is the outcome of the birth. I want my son with me but I'm not looking forward to the process of him emerging from my birth canal. I'm a bit granola in some ways but as far as birth goes I want it to be as safe, painless, and quick as possible. I've expressly told my friends to refrain from telling me horror stories. That won't help me one bit.
  • I'm more concerned with what we're going to do with DS when I go into labor. Most of our family is about an hour and a half away at least. I'm hoping to go into labor M-F 9-5 since my SIL works nearby. But we'll have to see.
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