Buncha Bullies Up In Here

Jenball717

Have you ever bullied anyone? Internet or in the real world. (Or on the real world if you were there, it all counts).

jennlin

you guys know my story.

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Jenball717

Dirtbear, hahahaha.

The original dirt squirrel.

carawasa

I have and am not proud of it but I have also been on the other side, too. I think most of us have.

Jenball717

I think you're right, @carawasa

Jenball717

I have bullied. There was a girl that I knew from church who drove me insane. My friend and I wouldn't let her sit by us or share our tent at girls camp. But we would let her little sister sit with us and share our tent. I had a Spanish class with her in high school and my brother was in it too. We would learn how to say mean things in Spanish and say them to her.

I can't even remember why she bugged me so much, but I regret that I let my low self esteem rule the way I treated others.

jennlin

carawasa said:

I have and am not proud of it but I have also been on the other side, too. I think most of us have.

yes, me too. probably what caused me to be so mean later on.

jennlin

carriet2018 said:

i deft said things i am not proud of, and did things mean to girls. but i got my pay back in high school! #dontmindmejustthevirginslutwalkingthehalls

did you get called a slut while you were a virgin?? me toooooo! i was upset i was being called a slut, but never got to have any of the fun.

PixiesDust

My nickname is hs was mitcho-bitcho.  I'll just leave it at that.  :-/  

jennlin

carriet2018 said:

jennlin said:

carriet2018 said:

i deft said things i am not proud of, and did things mean to girls. but i got my pay back in high school! #dontmindmejustthevirginslutwalkingthehalls

did you get called a slut while you were a virgin?? me toooooo! i was upset i was being called a slut, but never got to have any of the fun.

yea it was this whole mess, i hooked up with this guy who said he was deft single. i like asked him a zillion times. but i felt pretty confident he would fall in love with me if i hooked up with him. needless to say he wasn't and of course he was with one of the popular girls. so i never lived that one down.

define "hooked up".

Jenball717

@Snowboarderbritt‌ you should change your bump name again.

#mormonslut

Jenball717

And I want to change mine to dirtbear @cdhaslag‌

Amjoy25

Nope. I was bullied. I guess I was raised right. Muhahahahaha. (Not the bullied part, but the part where I never bullied anyone.)

taylormarie923

Yep. I don't remember doing anything directly, but my group of friends in middle school bullied one girl and I never once stood up for her.

taylormarie923

^ I made up for it when I got to high school and made friends with a girl who was being bullied and I bullied her bullies.

hlb622

Ugh, I was bullied all through middle and high school. There was a rumor that I was the Antichrist. A rumor that I was KTFU when senior year started. That I stole another girl's boyfriend. That I was a witch. They threw gum in my hair. Stole my shit. Told me to show up at the wrong place for pre-homecoming dance dinner. Got guys to dance with me as a joke. I was harassed relentlessly and hated 90% of those years. I'm not friends with a single person that I met before I turned 20 years old.

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ajjf1026

Nope, but I was bullied.

sleepy33

I can honestly say I don't believe I've ever bullied anyone, but I have a compulsive need to be liked by everyone. Like, I will stay awake at night fretting over whether or not someone dislikes me or is mad at me, even if it's a person I fucking HATE.

sleepy33

hlb622 said:

Ugh, I was bullied all through middle and high school. There was a rumor that I was the Antichrist. A rumor that I was KTFU when senior year started. That I stole another girl's boyfriend. That I was a witch. They threw gum in my hair. Stole my shit. Told me to show up at the wrong place for pre-homecoming dance dinner. Got guys to dance with me as a joke. I was harassed relentlessly and hated 90% of those years. I'm not friends with a single person that I met before I turned 20 years old.

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I mean...that's almost impressive. I think I would have gone with it.

ajjf1026

sleepy33 said:

I can honestly say I don't believe I've ever bullied anyone, but I have a compulsive need to be liked by everyone. Like, I will stay awake at night fretting over whether or not someone dislikes me or is mad at me, even if it's a person I fucking HATE.

This exactly. 

We were taught to never use the word "hate" in our home growing up. My mom wouldn't allow it. So I dont really say I "hate" anyone, I just dislike them with a strong passion. (lol) I am going to teach Joey the same thing. That was off topic though.

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taylormarie923

awwwpuddin said:

#meangirl over here too. Mostly just on the internet though.
Livejournal rating communities were my life when I was 15

I attempted to join one of those groups and was denied. As revenge I stole some photos of a scene-enough looking girl and created a fake profile to get into the group and fuck with them.

#crapiamabully

Jenball717

@hlb622‌ I think you're awesome and I'm sorry that all of that happened to you. This world has a lot of ugly in it, I'm sorry you got to see so much of it.

carawasa

wedding06 said:

I did bully one girl and I feel horrible about it. I was picked on for many things throughout my life. When I was little they called me pig nose. Guess what bitches, button noses are cute now.

#stillbitter

Me too @wedding06!!! But I love my cute little button nose.

taylormarie923

awwwpuddin said:

taylormarie923 said:

awwwpuddin said:

#meangirl over here too. Mostly just on the internet though.
Livejournal rating communities were my life when I was 15

I attempted to join one of those groups and was denied. As revenge I stole some photos of a scene-enough looking girl and created a fake profile to get into the group and fuck with them.

#crapiamabully

I was a scene girl. Did you steal my pic?

It's possible! Did you have dyed hair cut in a short bob with long side-swept bangs?

carawasa

Jenball717 said:

@hlb622‌ I think you're awesome and I'm sorry that all of that happened to you. This world has a lot of ugly in it, I'm sorry you got to see so much of it.

This

carawasa

I feel like there has to be a lot of definitions for "bullying" I think making fun of someone is bullying, therefor I feel like most of us have been involved in that (specifically on TB).

If we are talking about like holding people against their locker until they give you lunch money, no I've never done that.

trackgirlparis

Definitely wasn't a bully. I was part of "peer helper" which was basically a counselling system for the kids that did get bullied. I was the school therapists assistant. I'm sorry you went through what you did @hlb622

Ycu2013

Nah I was never bullied or did I bully anyone. I was in the popular group in HS. I can't really be mean just to be mean. I was always nice to those that were slow or handicapped and unfortunately there was a lot of picking on people like this at my school.
Still ten years later if they see me out and about they go out of their way to come say hi and give me a hug. I've seen some major bullying going on and I could never be a part of it. I don't get how people feel good about it.

sleepy33

Meh. I don't think typing something 'mean' on an internet forum is bullying. Unless you are relentlessly stalking someone, saying threatening/harassing things, etc. But even then...people can just leave the forum or create a new SN if they are really feeling 'bullied'. To me, saying stuff like this minimizes actual bullying.

sleepy33

Snowboarderbritt said:

Also I never bullied. It made me so sad to see other kids getting bullied through middle school, I always tried to step in, but sometimes I was too scared. I still am haunted by some guys putting a small Asian boy in the trashcan and people circled around him teasing him while he was sobbing. I remember telling some of the guys to knock it off, but I should pushed past them and grabbed him out of there! Poor kid.

Sometimes, I wish life was like Never Been Kissed, and I could go back to HS knowing what I know now.

carawasa

NRyan55 said:

sleepy33 said:

Meh. I don't think typing something 'mean' on an internet forum is bullying. Unless you are relentlessly stalking someone, saying threatening/harassing things, etc. But even then...people can just leave the forum or create a new SN if they are really feeling 'bullied'. To me, saying stuff like this minimizes actual bullying.

This is also a valid point! Gah! I need a poll option that says "I am a meanie but I have never bullied anyone"


me too. Now I'm so confused. Am I bully or aren't i?

carawasa

but wait! Aren't being mean and making fun of someone different

sleepy33

It seems like a lot of what I have read about cyberbullying involves some aspect where it bleeds over into their 'real' life. So, saying something sarcastic or flippant to someone anonymous on a forum that they have voluntarily come to = not bullying. Tracking that person down, finding out who they are IRL, telling their spouse they got herpes from a stripper, calling their boss to let them know that they played hooky the week before, posting terrible things about them on their FB wall...these count as bullying.

carawasa

carriet2018 said:

carawasa said:

but wait! Aren't being mean and making fun of someone different

true! and when disagreeing with someone does that make you opinionated or mean?

sweettwilight16

jennlin said:

carriet2018 said:

i deft said things i am not proud of, and did things mean to girls. but i got my pay back in high school! #dontmindmejustthevirginslutwalkingthehalls

did you get called a slut while you were a virgin?? me toooooo! i was upset i was being called a slut, but never got to have any of the fun.

This happened to me A LOT in High School!

Lee81

sleepy33 said:

It seems like a lot of what I have read about cyberbullying involves some aspect where it bleeds over into their 'real' life. So, saying something sarcastic or flippant to someone anonymous on a forum that they have voluntarily come to = not bullying. Tracking that person down, finding out who they are IRL, telling their spouse they got herpes from a stripper, calling their boss to let them know that they played hooky the week before, posting terrible things about them on their FB wall...these count as bullying.

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Bullying can include deliberately going out of your way to exclude someone from a group. I feel like things have mellowed a lot since the board started dying, but this hasn't always been the most welcoming place for newbs or people who have previously said something unpopular.

True no one has to keep coming to the board but maybe they've got no one else to turn to. We've talked before about how isolating it can be to be a new mom. This might be the only opportunity for social interaction that some people have. It's not like it's hard to understand why someone would want to be a part of a group like this.

hlb622

sleepy33 said:

hlb622 said:

Ugh, I was bullied all through middle and high school. There was a rumor that I was the Antichrist. A rumor that I was KTFU when senior year started. That I stole another girl's boyfriend. That I was a witch. They threw gum in my hair. Stole my shit. Told me to show up at the wrong place for pre-homecoming dance dinner. Got guys to dance with me as a joke. I was harassed relentlessly and hated 90% of those years. I'm not friends with a single person that I met before I turned 20 years old.

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%varsityteam

%slutrumors

%momtoo

I mean...that's almost impressive. I think I would have gone with it.

Totes.

deedee1017

Lee81 said:

It seems like a lot of what I have read about cyberbullying involves some aspect where it bleeds over into their 'real' life. So, saying something sarcastic or flippant to someone anonymous on a forum that they have voluntarily come to = not bullying. Tracking that person down, finding out who they are IRL, telling their spouse they got herpes from a stripper, calling their boss to let them know that they played hooky the week before, posting terrible things about them on their FB wall...these count as bullying.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Bullying can include deliberately going out of your way to exclude someone from a group. I feel like things have mellowed a lot since the board started dying, but this hasn't always been the most welcoming place for newbs or people who have previously said something unpopular. True no one has to keep coming to the board but maybe they've got no one else to turn to. We've talked before about how isolating it can be to be a new mom. This might be the only opportunity for social interaction that some people have. It's not like it's hard to understand why someone would want to be a part of a group like this.

I agree.

hlb622

carriet2018 said:

hlb622 said:

Ugh, I was bullied all through middle and high school. There was a rumor that I was the Antichrist. A rumor that I was KTFU when senior year started. That I stole another girl's boyfriend. That I was a witch. They threw gum in my hair. Stole my shit. Told me to show up at the wrong place for pre-homecoming dance dinner. Got guys to dance with me as a joke. I was harassed relentlessly and hated 90% of those years. I'm not friends with a single person that I met before I turned 20 years old.

%cliques

%varsityteam

%slutrumors

%momtoo

this makes me so sad! i love your face! Let me lick it.