~*~ 3T Grad Check-In 9/18 ~*~

jencity9

Come on in and update us!

QOTW: If you have told people, what has been the best reaction you've received? If not, whose reaction are you most anticipating?

gsancho

Hello!  I had a scare Sunday when I had spotting and some bad cramping.  So we had our u/s done a week early (@7wks), and saw one healthy bean.  The cramping and light spotting continued until Tuesday, so I still worry...but the worsening of morning sickness the last few days is making me feel a little more at ease for our follow up u/s Monday.  Hopefully everything continues to look on track.

QOTW: I don't know if I've had any big reaction that stands out.  The one I laugh at the most is my mom b/c she is so even keel and unenthusiastic about everything.  I take after her, so I can't complain.  She's a total hippy, always meditating...so her reaction was "Oh, that's nice" - in the most zen-like way possible.  I had to call my BFF afterwards, just to feel excitement again.

southernyankeegirl

Sooooo thrilled to see a few recent BFPs!  Always lurking and rooting for you ladies, and ALWAYS here if any of you need a shoulder.  I miss you all like crazy and hope you all have success soon!

@jencity9 - I see from your siggy (cuz I'm on the computer for once) that you have/had your glucose and fasting labs today - good luck!  I hope you can start IVF soon and always rooting SO DAMNED HARD for a BFP!


All is well here - we had a teensy scare last night/today.  I'm not very good about asking for help - I don't want to be the "problem child" first-time Mom who worries about every little thing.  But I've been having Braxton Hicks since 19 weeks several times each day - there was one incident over a month ago where I had them regularly for several hours and called the nurse's line.  She was pretty dismissive, and I kind of shut down and refused to ask for help again.  When I finally saw the doctor at my regular appointment the following week, she was more concerned and did a manual cervical check, which was fine, so I let it go.

Fast forward to last night - it's been 4 weeks since my last appointment and my next one was scheduled for this morning.  I had BAD Braxton Hicks all last evening into the early morning hours.  Like my stomach was more often hard than not. I knew logically I should go get checked out, but I also knew it was likely nothing and I didn't want to be a hassle and wake DH up to drive to the hospital at 1am, plus I figured I had my appointment today anyway.  So I didn't tell anyone about it, but I didn't sleep at all last night really. I know, stupid me.

Today I mentioned it at my appointment and my doctor was a bit dismissive (not the same one as last time - I like that doctor better than this one).  I was going to let it go, and DH was adamant: "Well, what's the worst case scenario? (Cervical failure, the doctor replied) So how do we make sure that isn't happening? (Ultrasound) So can we get one of those?"  And so off we went to the ultrasound tech down the hall for a cervical ultrasound!

I felt like a hypochondriac, though I do know logically I should get this stuff checked out.  If anyone else asked me, I'd tell them to get checked out. I know, stupid me.

Good news is everything is just fine - cervix is Fort Knox, lots of fluid in there, and I've got a very active guy (which could be partially responsible for my near constant case of BH - he kicks, and my uterus locks down in response - whatever, I don't care one bit as long as he's fine).  The ultrasound tech was SUPER nice and gave us about 5-10 minutes of fun scans to try to get a face shot!  He was so wiggly it was hard to see anything on the 3D scan, but we got a good profile shot of his face.

*****ULTRASOUND PIC WARNING ************







This is my favorite picture (though I think 3D pictures at this point are kind of creepy and skeletor-like, it's hard not to love it when it's your own) :



"Doh, Mom!  Stop worrying so much!" with a hand to his little forehead in exasperation!

He didn't photograph well since he was so wiggly - the tech said she usually didn't have this hard of a time getting a shot, but he is like his Daddy and hates having his picture taken - he waves his hands in front of his face, flips around to get away, rolls over, anything to avoid sitting still!  Loved seeing all the action :x

QOTW:  My favorite is when I told my Dad.  He wiggled the news out of me before anyone else - I had planned on telling both him and my Mom together that evening (I had mailed children's books about Grandmas and Grandpas as a Mothers Day present, telling her she could open it on Facetime).  But my Mom suspected (I wasn't as sad by my supposed "failed cycle" as I would have been if it actually failed) and my Dad didn't want her to be disappointed if her suspicions weren't correct.

So he kept grilling me on the phone: "Is this a big surprise?" 
And I played coy: "It's just an inexpensive gift to make her smile!" 
Dad: "Your Mom thinks this is a big surprise."
Me: (trying not to lie) "You should convince her not to think that."
Dad: "Why? Because she'll be disappointed?"
Me: "Just convince her not to think that."
Dad: "What are you saying? So it is a big surprise?"
Me: (just awkwardly giggling and crying)
Dad: "What are you saying?! Your Mom is right? Did it work?!"
Me: "It worked. I'm pregnant!"
Dad (crying and sniffling): "Oh, my gosh, that's so great.  Oh, that's so great, I'm so happy for you guys. That's so great! I'm going to buy a bottle of champagne to hide to surprise your Mom when you tell her tonight."

It makes me cry thinking about it now.  Making my Dad cry makes me cry!

jamielynn53

Hi, I miss this board so much! We are moving right along but I feel pretty miserable, ready to get past this point.

QOTW: My MIL. We caught it on video and there was lots of screaming and tears! Very emotional!

shirleymaeby

Hey there!!  Still nothing interesting going on over here.  Just waiting very patiently for my first u/s this Monday.  Today was the first day I almost felt like I was going to get sick.  But then I stuffed my face with brisket and I felt a ton better so maybe I was just hungry.  

We haven't told very many people yet.  I already told my boss because I didn't want to come up with a bunch of random lies for all of my appointments.  He literally bounced up and down in his office chair in excitement.  I'm really looking forward to telling my parents.  They already have a ton of grandkids but I think they will be crazy excited for us since they know how hard we had been trying.

Hugs for all my 3T ladies!!  And H&H 9 months to the other grads.

ttuprincess

Hi, ladies.  Sorry I am late this week. Work has been crazy lately!

Nothing new and exciting going on here. My first shower is a week from tomorrow! I can't wait! I will be 30 weeks tomorrow!  I can't believe we are to the 30's already!

We have our paperwork and an appointment to pre-register at the hospital and we are about to start OB appts every other week.  It is definitely starting to get real.

So excited to see some recent BFP's! Lurking on you ladies constantly!

QOTW: My grandmother's reaction was the best. I actually video taped it because I knew she was going to flip. If I knew how to post a video I would share it.  She was so shocked and was crying and so excited. It was great.

BunnyBerry

@gsancho So glad your ultrasound showed everything is fine!

@southernyankeegirl Good job, DH!! You're a mama now - no one better dismiss even your teensiest concern about your LO.

rox825

I'm just stopping by this week to congratulate @ky29 and @PintoBean39, so excited for you two and wishing for healthy, boring pregnancies!!  Hope to see an update here next week ;-)

catlover790

Hi ladies! Congrats on all the bfps!! I'm so happy for you! I've been lurking and thinking of you all. 

I just got back from my appointment and everything looks good! Last week I was concerned about the size (they measured wrong apparently which made me worried) but this week everything is right on track! The heartbeat was at 158 which is a little lower than last week but I guess around this time it starts to normalize and slow a little bit. (I really need to start reading some pregnancy books!!)

I'm 8w6d and it seems like time is just flying by already. I've decided that I'm going to worry less and be happy more because I think if I don't start now I'll miss the whole pregnancy being worried that something could go wrong. I have my last RE appointment next week and I've called a new OB so I hope to have an appointment set up with them soon too.

Question: I was thinking of getting something nice for the staff at the RE office, like a thank you. I was thinking of doing a couple of boxes of nice chocolate, does that sound like a good idea? I feel like they were all so caring and helpful that I wanted to do something. Is this a common thing people do or will I look silly? Thanks!

QOTW: I think my favorite reaction was DH grandparents. We told them early along with our parents because I had a feeling my MIL would share our news without letting us do it (she did with our engagement). His grandma was so excited and bouncing up and down on the couch and his grandpa started crying. It was really sweet. She also is really funny and goes, "Well now I have a reason to live a few more years!" I was like, don't say that! She just says whatever is on her mind! We still haven't told friends or co-workers and I might want to wait another week or two for that.

southernyankeegirl

@catlover790‌ - I think it's sweet to do something for your RE's office! My nurse and the office staff asked me to come back and check in, but I can't bring myself to do that knowing how seeing my bump might hurt someone in the waiting room. I was thinking of sending a "thank you" also, probably after baby boy gets here, with a picture of our happy family with the new addition that they helped create. I was thinking Edible Arrangements, but chocolates would probably be equally appreciated!

jencity9

Aw thank you @southernyankeegirl‌ ! I will get the results this week (they send that stuff to an outside lab) so will hopefully figure out our plan soon!

jfb29

Hey Ladies! I haven't been here in quite some time, but do think of you all often and thought about you all today. I went to lunch today with DH and LO and there were some other babies in the restaurant. There was a couple in the corner who kept staring at all the babes with kinda sad smiles on their faces - I remember those days and it made me think of all of you wanting to have children of your own and I said a little prayer bc what you all are going through is so incredibly hard. You are all very strong women! It's nice logging in and seeing some bFPs! I hope many more follow soon!!!

It's hard to believe that A will be 6months in less than a week! She's growing too fast and I want it all to slow down but I also love seeing her discover the world around her! I've attached a recent pic of her - she's just started sitting up by herself without any support!

Most people I had to tell over the phone since I live far away, so the reactions weren't over the top. I did have to tell my boss at around 6 weeks bc I had some sudden and pretty significant bleeding and I was suppose to work an event that required intense physical energy. I was very nervous bc I had only been at this job for a few months and my due date was right at the busiest time when our fundraising campaign is in full swing. I told her and about how A was a miracle bc just a month before my RE basically said our only hope was IVF. She then told me that whatever support I needed she would give me and that she would take care of my coworkers and work my shift at the event for me. She then told me that many years earlier she had some church friends going thru IF and it broke her heart bc she saw how difficult it was so she decided to donate eggs. All of her eggs went to one couple so they could have more than one child with the same DNA. I thought that was not only amazing for her to do, but to share with me.

Hugs to you all!!!!!

ronniesgirl1981

Anyone heard from @mmhopeful‌? Her c-section was scheduled for Tuesday.

MrsS728

Please keep the negative/mean thoughts to yourselves. We are already dealing with a lot right now.

I'm currently 8 weeks along and we received news last Monday that we never thought possible. We are currently pregnant with triplets through via 100mg of Clomid. There is a set of identical (Baby A, Baby twins and a singleton (Baby C). We are beyond scared about the future. I know that most would look at triplets are a blessing, but we are devastated by this news. We are worried for the healthy of the babies (Baby A is a lot smaller than the other two and we think we may lose him/her). Baby A and B are also known as MOMO twins, which has a higher risk of vanishing twin syndrome. We are worried for my health. I'm not sure I can carry three babies safely and lastly the financial aspect. Our RE's office was blown away by the news that triplets resulted from 100mg of Clomid and timed intercourse.

QOTW: If you have told people, what has been the best reaction you've received? If not, whose reaction are you most anticipating? Not many people know right now because we don't know what the future holds. We don't know if it will be one, two or three at this point. We are waiting until I am further along to tell people especially with so many unknowns right now.

wanderlust508

So exciting to hear from all the grads!  

@MrsS728 - Big hugs.  I would feel the same way you do right now.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and really hope that you will remain healthy (first and foremost) - and that the pregnancy will progress with an outcome you and YH are at peace with.  I would like to think nobody would have negative/mean thoughts towards you - I think everybody would just like to see you (and all our other grads) have a completely H&H 9 months.  Please keep us updated!  Lots of love and positive vibes.

catlover790

@MrsS728‌ I am sorry you are going through a difficult time with your pregnancy. Having a healthy pregnancy is always what one hopes for so I can understand how you are concerned with the news of triplets.

Although I can't relate to your situation, I do understand how nerve-racking it must be for you and your H. I hope everything works out for you; sending you thoughts for a H and H pregnancy.

shirleymaeby

@MrsS728 - I am so sorry you're having such a rough time, I realize that the news must be really scary for you.  I hope that you will find an answer that you are comfortable and happy with and that you have a happy and healthy 9 months.

Pintobean39

@southernyankeegirl‌ I had Braxton hix contractions for a good part of my pregnancy with my 2nd son. Since it was my second I knew it was contractions. They would take my breath away and stop me dead in my tracks. No one seemed concerned until my Dr happened to be examining me while I had one. I guess it clamped down on his hand. Just like you they weren't doing anything just very uncomfortable. I now can't watch that episode of friends when Rachel went to the hospital for them and she told Ross "no uterus, no opinion".

@MrsS728‌ I can't even imagine what you are going through. I'm keeping my FX that you have a healthy pregnancy.

southernyankeegirl

@PintoBean39 - I hope you manage to avoid BH this pregnancy!  Though it's obviously a blip on the radar for issues during a pregnancy, and I'll gladly handle as many of them as I need to in order to bring this baby into the world, it is definitely a bit uncomfortable and I imagine it won't be my last cervical ultrasound if they continue just to MAKE SURE they aren't resulting in cervical changes.  Small price to pay :-)

@MrsS728 - I'm sorry for the scary news!  Congratulations on the BFP, but I hope you can become more confortable and confident with your pregnancy.

Monitored or not, even a natural cycle, triplets do happen occasionally - and to have MoMo twins can happen equal chances to anyone (fertility drugs or not).  This really couldn't have been predicted as more than a miniscule possibility by anyone - two eggs is what was fertilized, which is a risk we all take with medicated cycles, but it just so happened one of them split on you into identical twins.  Regardless of medicated or not, monitored or not, there is NOTHING you or your doctor could have done to predict or prevent the situation you're in right now - please try to remind yourself if you feel any guilt that this is NOT your fault or your doctor's, it's just a medical fluke.


*****Babies, selective reduction, & loss mentioned (not mine) ******



I hope beyond hope that you are able to carry this pregnancy to term, and that you end up with exactly the number of healthy babies that you want (whether that's three, two, or one babies).  I don't know the personal and religious views of you and your DH, but I personally think even with a much wanted pregnancy that there is nothing wrong with making a decision to selectively reduce if that is what is best for you and your family.  It's an incredibly difficult and personal decision for you both to think through.  If that's something you'd want to consider, talk to your doctor who I am sure can give you guidance.

As for triplet stories, I do actually know a couple personally who did unmonitored Clomid and ended up with triplets (all fraternal, three eggs fertilized, no MoMo or DiDi or any kind of identical twins).  They did end up losing one of the babies early on to leave them with a fraternal twin pregnancy.  They waited to tell most family until after the first trimester (besides those they needed for emotional support, like his Mom, which is how I know as she's my Mom's best friend) so for most family, they never knew about the drama with the early triplet pregnancy.  The Mom carried the twins to term, and they will be celebrating the twin's first birthday next week.