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ladylisalt

I feel like I want the newborn phase to pass. How sad huh? They are so cute and little now and yet I know it gets easier as they get bigger. I remember waiting for this time to be home with my kids, not have to work for a while etc and now that its here I just keep thinking about the future. I know I will this time so dearly and don want it to be a blur or associated with negative memories but its so hard to not want to think into the future when you will get some sleep again and not feel so overwhelmed by it all. Can anyone relate?

tbmadeamistake

Yup. I find newborns really difficult and can't wait until they get bigger. I'm here anyway, so its not like I can actually rush it. I don't look bad on my toddlers first months with negativity, they had their high points but I am glad it's done. Now I wait for the baby to get fun.

deanna1313

Yes! I'm having the same issue. I know I'm going to look back and have negative feelings. My LO is 3mths and when I look at old pictures I have a bad feeling. It's sad!
I also find myself looking forward to when he is older. It's a shame. They become do much more fun and much more rewarding. What's sad is enjoying other people's children so much and then having my own and feeling like something is lacking. It has been getting better the older he gets.

annikrl

I used to have those feelings when my first two were that age. I would remind myself that it's such a short amount of time when babies are that needy. My oldest children are 11 and 9 and when I look back that time period its like a blink. Try and enjoy this time....believe me it's nice when they can't talk back..sometimes.

ladylisalt

annikrl said:

I used to have those feelings when my first two were that age. I would remind myself that it's such a short amount of time when babies are that needy. My oldest children are 11 and 9 and when I look back that time period its like a blink. Try and enjoy this time....believe me it's nice when they can't talk back..sometimes.

ha ha your so right. Except my 3 yr. has an answer for everything. I am trying to enjoy this time. I know we can't get it back.

ladylisalt

deanna1313 said:

Yes! I'm having the same issue. I know I'm going to look back and have negative feelings. My LO is 3mths and when I look at old pictures I have a bad feeling. It's sad! I also find myself looking forward to when he is older. It's a shame. They become do much more fun and much more rewarding. What's sad is enjoying other people's children so much and then having my own and feeling like something is lacking. It has been getting better the older he gets.

glad its getting better for you. We really shouldn't feel this way but I know it can be hard to mask our true emotions.

deanna1313

@ladylisalt‌ thanks. I agree!

wieb67

I feel this way sometimes too - he's just so fragile now and I find myself counting the days till he is a bit older and easier. He's not a hard baby at all ...I just think it'll get easier once he stops cluster feeding so much and I can get a break once in awhile.

gallegosdc

I absolutely feel the same way...DD is 3 1/2 and I did not enjoy her newborn stage and I told myself I would soak in every minute of this stage with DS...it's not happening.  I'm exhausted, I want him to interact, I just don't feel like "mom" to him yet.  My day is at its best when my daughter gets home from school and our routine starts.  I am just having a really hard time with this newborn phase, I'm trying - but it's difficult.  I hate that I got excited when I received his reminder card for my 6 week postnatal appt which is in 3 weeks. I'm halfway to getting my life back when I can exercise. DS is a good baby (has his fussy moments, they all do) but in general he is good. I just want to enjoy him and be happy again. 

skbaum01

It helps to hear others feel how I do. I have a five week old, and things aren't easier yet but my husband and I are learning how to soothe him and keep him content -- for a lot of the time anyway. Still, almost each day I question our decision to have a child, because of the loss of our independence. And I don't enjoy being a mom yet. I'm filled with a bit of dread because I think "this is my life for the foreseeable future" (breastfeeding to no end, sleeping one or two hour increments) and there's nothing i can do to change that. And I feel guilty thinking those things because he's precious and innocent and didn't choose to be here. And I wanted so much to have a child, so how can I be unhappy now that he's here? I love him, I just don't like our life together yet. If that makes any sense.

Dejasade21

Oh boy. Can I relate? YES!! My daughter will be 3 weeks Saturday and I cant wait for her to be 3!! I miss a routine, freedom and sleep!!! I dont feel like a good mother right now either due to my ppd. I am not one to preach but keep telling yourself it will get better. They arent this young forever. Thats what keeps me going...reassurances from others.

ladylisalt

Well 4.5 months after I wrote this post things are so much better and they have been. I have just learned that the early newborn phase is a big challenge for me(Im sure it is for most). I think once you start getting longer stretches of sleep and more of a routine and the reality of your new adjusted life things start to feel better. Hope you ladies are starting to feel this way too.

deanna1313

I commented before and I too feel so much better. My son is 7.5 months now. Although I feel that something is still lacking in my situation, I am ten times better than I was in that beginning stage. Hang in there to all those people reading this who are just going through this.