Third trimester booty.

WonderWomanAbbey

My sex drive has always been super high, as has Hub's. Pregnancy has only made me more of a freak. My sister, an L&D nurse, has warned me that after week 35, we should cool our "jets" a bit, as sex can be an inducer. As a FTM, I'm not sure how much we should be cutting back. We've already tapered off more than I'd like, with him working a lot of overtime and me just being flat exhausted and sore from my job. We're down to maaaaaybe 3x a week. Is that too much for this far along?

RedBaramid

Honestly, unless your doctor says you need to slow down I would get it on while you can. From what I understand its only going to induce if your body is already ready as is.

Vangiejo

That is weird to me, at 35 weeks your baby is pretty much full term and though sex does sometimes induce labor it is normally the end of the pregnancy. This is my 3rd and I have never heard to cool it down. That said 3X a week is not a lot, that is normal for us.

bumpuser10199668

Vangiejo said:

That is weird to me, at 35 weeks your baby is pretty much full term and though sex does sometimes induce labor it is normally the end of the pregnancy. This is my 3rd and I have never heard to cool it down. That said 3X a week is not a lot, that is normal for us.

Um no. There is no such thing as "pretty much full term" and even if it WAS a real thing, I am positive that a FULL month prior to full term doesn't fit under the qualifier of "pretty much".

As for the OP's sex question, I am wondering how you keep up 3x per week with someone who is  (in your words) a "lying cheating coward". Impressive.

RedBaramid

CarmAlarm said:

Um no. There is no such thing as "pretty much full term" and even if it WAS a real thing, I am positive that a FULL month prior to full term doesn't fit under the qualifier of "pretty much".

As for the OP's sex question, I am wondering how you keep up 3x per week with someone who is  (in your words) a "lying cheating coward". Impressive.

See, I was way to chicken to even touch that.. but I'm really glad someone did. 

WonderWomanAbbey

My following words after that post were that I believe him when he says he wasn't cheating on me, even though lying about talking to someone else wasn't okay. Hence why we've gone down to 3x per week. We slowed down a bit following the incident. I'm trying to move past it, and he's trying to gain my trust back. I still need to get laid. Maybe that makes me unladylike.

bumpuser10199668

WonderWomanAbbey said:

My following words after that post were that I believe him when he says he wasn't cheating on me, even though lying about talking to someone else wasn't okay. Hence why we've gone down to 3x per week. We slowed down a bit following the incident. I'm trying to move past it, and he's trying to gain my trust back. I still need to get laid. Maybe that makes me unladylike.

Unladylike is not the descriptor I would use in this particular situation

WonderWomanAbbey

Maybe not. But I'm trying to move on. Get back to normal. That was definitely part of my normal. I thought a lot of terrible things, about him and about me this time a couple weeks ago. But each day has gotten us to a stronger and more honest place. He's still my best friend. And I'm giving him the chance to prove that he's still the man I fell in love with.

MrsLaLaBug

Wait.... So you are DTD 3x a week with the dude who screwed someone else while y'all are engaged? Just because you need to get laid?? After you bitched and vented to the board about all his shady ass shenanigans???
I'm so lost...

Ahlome08

@WonderWomanAbbey‌ no judging here. You said you wanted to try to work things out and you're trying to get things back to normal. Props to you for trying to make it work. People make mistakes in relationships, hell I know several people who've had similar situations and they've been married 25+years. As long as you're sure it's what you want, go for it. People that stay married their entire lives are together because they've worked through the tough times instead of just throwing in the towel. Also, from my understanding, he wasn't even cheating...he just lied about talking to someone. People make mistakes, and as long as they don't make them again, it's ok to forgive them. I think a lot of people sometimes forget the fact that we're all human.

bumpuser10199668

Ahlome08 said:

@WonderWomanAbbey‌ no judging here. You said you wanted to try to work things out and you're trying to get things back to normal. Props to you for trying to make it work. People make mistakes in relationships, hell I know several people who've had similar situations and they've been married 25+years. As long as you're sure it's what you want, go for it. People that stay married their entire lives are together because they've worked through the tough times instead of just throwing in the towel. Also, from my understanding, he wasn't even cheating...he just lied about talking to someone. People make mistakes, and as long as they don't make them again, it's ok to forgive them. I think a lot of people sometimes forget the fact that we're all human.

I'm not saying it isn't OK to forgive. He's her husband...of course first instinct should be to try and work it out.  But healing takes time.

And for the record, in MY marriage....there is no such thing as "just" lying. Lying is a big fucking deal.

Ahlome08

@CarmAlarm‌ I didn't word that right. Lying is a big deal, but if she wants to try to work through it, getting back into the groove might be what it takes to help her with the healing. Everyone is different as are relationships, just all that I was trying to say.

trebekastan

CarmAlarm said:

Ahlome08 said:

@WonderWomanAbbey‌ no judging here. You said you wanted to try to work things out and you're trying to get things back to normal. Props to you for trying to make it work. People make mistakes in relationships, hell I know several people who've had similar situations and they've been married 25+years. As long as you're sure it's what you want, go for it. People that stay married their entire lives are together because they've worked through the tough times instead of just throwing in the towel. Also, from my understanding, he wasn't even cheating...he just lied about talking to someone. People make mistakes, and as long as they don't make them again, it's ok to forgive them. I think a lot of people sometimes forget the fact that we're all human.

I'm not saying it isn't OK to forgive. He's her husband...of course first instinct should be to try and work it out.  But healing takes time.

And for the record, in MY marriage....there is no such thing as "just" lying. Lying is a big fucking deal.

Yeah, what doesn't add up is the complete 180 in a matter of days. Yes, I absolutely believe in doing EVERYTHING to repair a marriage (especially when there are children involved) but to go from I hate him and everything about him to I forgive him and we are down to 3 days a week is mind boggling. Lying about an online or texting relationship with someone is still a betrayal, even if it isn't sexual cheating. Not sure how someone gets over that in a couple days and is back to screwing.

RedBaramid

trebekastan said:

CarmAlarm said:

I'm not saying it isn't OK to forgive. He's her husband...of course first instinct should be to try and work it out.  But healing takes time. 

And for the record, in MY marriage....there is no such thing as "just" lying. Lying is a big fucking deal.

Yeah, what doesn't add up is the complete 180 in a matter of days. Yes, I absolutely believe in doing EVERYTHING to repair a marriage (especially when there are children involved) but to go from I hate him and everything about him to I forgive him and we are down to 3 days a week is mind boggling. Lying about an online or texting relationship with someone is still a betrayal, even if it isn't sexual cheating. Not sure how someone gets over that in a couple days and is back to screwing.

OMG this over and over again.. DH lied about something a couple of years ago, and he did it because he thought he was protecting me.. but it seriously murdered the shit out of our marriage when he had to eventually come clean about it.  We almost separated... and it wasn't even about cheating, it was just about immigration issues.... it's the LYING... it's the looking into my face and lying to me when I'm supposed to be on your team. I couldn't trust him enough to have sex with him for a long long while after that.. I don't know how anyone could open up and be intimate with a partner so quickly after something like cheating (emotional or physical... holy crap they are both a serious break in bond.).

Bella2425

I don't believe anything op says. I think it's all mud.

MrsLaLaBug

Bella2425 said:

I don't believe anything op says. I think it's all mud.

Yeah I think I might be with ya on that one. It's way too BSC if you ask me.

conradraging

Idk man, all the sex in the world isn't forcing this kid out.

I do not want to address any other part of this thread because what in the actual fuck.