I'm assuming it doesn't matter if it's same sex or opposite sex, but if it does, please comment. Also, I intended the answers below to be in years.
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When is a toddler too old to shower with a parent? 124 votes
Never too old. The family that bathes together, stays together.
Re: When is a toddler too old to shower with a parent?
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We are definitely not a naked family, but I shower with my kids, almost 4 and 2, regularly. I haven't given it much thought but unless there were some signs that my kids were uncomfortable, I would probably say whenever they are able to effectively wash themselves we won't be showering with them.
I think the bigger question is how long I can have my two kids bathe together. I have a boy and a girl, and I would probably let them take baths together longer then I would take a shower with them, but I don't know. I am guessing school age, but we will have to see how that goes.
We are kind of a naked family too I think, but I think you kind of have to be around potty training age, don't you? I mean I can't expect DS to learn to go potty if he never sees DH or I go to the bathroom. DS is also at a phase where he really wants his daddy, so he's been known to just walk in the bathroom when he knows DH is in there, and DH is in the shower. I'm nursing for right now so my boobs are out all the time. Right now DS doesn't ask any questions about penises or vaginas or boobs or anything so I don't really think it can be weird until they seem to show some awareness of nudity. And even then I don't think it's automatic, I'm just saying that I definitely don't think it can be weird if they don't even seem to get what they're seeing.
We have never showered with DS (we still do baths), but I feel like I would only ever let him shower for at least a couple of years if someone was in there with him, or nearby, and if nearby, might as well kill two birds with one stone, right? I feel like maybe school age it would start to get weird, but I'm just basing that off the idea that at that age they might talk to other kids, like oh, I showered with my daddy this morning, and then you might start to get looks at the PTA meetings...
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I was brought up in a "naked" family. My mom would bathe and my sister and I would sit in the bathroom and we'd hang out and talk. I think my dad was more discreet when I was about 4 or 5, but it was never a big deal if he was changing with the door open. If we asked questions, my mom always took it as an opportunity to teach us. All three of us are very comfortable with our bodies and publically modest in dress and behaviour.
DH and I are fairly open, both of us shower with DD (we have a huge shower) and I cuddle DD after the shower all the time. We don't make a big deal out of it. I guess we'll reel it in when she goes to school at 5, but to be honest I'll be sad when we get to that point.
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As pp mentioned my Mom and I will still get undressed/dressed in the same room. And we still go skinny dipping together during the summer. Same sex nakedness is very accepted in my family.
Even for opposite genders my family is perfectly accepting of underwear/boxers. So, I've seen my father walk around in just his boxers/boxer briefs, as well as, my adult brother. They've both seen me in just a t-shirt and panties. And both saw me nurse my daughter the first few weeks after she was born so essentially topless.
I've bathed with DD since she was a baby, and she comes to the bathroom with me all the time. DH doesn't feel comfortable with doing those things, but he will get undressed/dressed with her in the room. I am guessing, both DD and DH will start to be more private when she is around 5-6. I think it would be the same for me and a son, both wanting more privacy around 5-7yrs.
I don't shower or bathe with my girls (3 and 10 mos), but I will change clothes in front of them in like a gym way, not fully naked.
My DH wants full privacy, door closed for bathroom and clothes changing and I think that's appropriate. I get a little weirded out seeing my dad in just a bathrobe when we vacation w my parents.