First and foremost, I want to apologize for coming on and asking for advice after an extended absence. Life has been hectic and suddenly a situation has arisen and I'm not sure where to go.
DH's brother's wedding is this weekend. DH is the man of honor and I am a bridesmaid. The wedding is approximately 2 hours away from where DH and I currently live with LO and attending the wedding, including rehearsal dinner, will involve me being away from home for approximately 3 days and 2 nights.
Every since I was pregnant with LO they have let it be known that there will be no children at the wedding. Of course, I would love to have LO there, but I haven't wanted to cause waves and I want to respect their wishes for a child free wedding. Here's the problem: I am leaving LO with my mother and my mother will not attend the wedding. DH's brother and the bride are now pissed at me and my mother because my mother will not be attending the wedding. BIL told DH that the fact that my mom wouldn't be attending the wedding was "offensive." DH's brother and wife are not speaking to me because of this. DH's mother keeps calling DH and telling him that she's just so hurt that my mom won't be there and that I should find a sitter. MIL claims that this is because she just really wants my mother there, but I feel like she is just trying to cause drama. I really don't know anyone who I would trust my son with for 3 days and 2 nights other than family. I have knots in my stomach going into this wedding because of all of the drama. Thoughts on how to handle this? Am I in the wrong?
Re: Need advice on how to handle situation regarding wedding
This is ridiculous, people can't always attend weddings because other things come up. And they knew you would need child care to be in the wedding. Being disappointed someone can't attend =/= refusing to speak with family. There were people I wished could come to my wedding that weren't able to attend. I was sad, but I didn't throw a temper tantrum. BIL/SIL/MIL need to grow the fuckup and stop acting like petulant children.
Good luck, they sound totally unreasonable about this.