I'm annoyed. (AW-y Cute Dad update)

jesuisfatiguee

So, I had the DTR talk with the Cute Dad last night. Or I tried to. It didn't go super awesomely. He was kinda awkward and noncommittal about everything. He's not seeing anyone else (nothing new, but good to confirm), and he "feels pretty good" about how things are going, but beyond that I just don't know.

It's still early, and I'm stubborn, so I'm not going to run away right now or anything, but... I'm not feeling super confident about it. I worry there is a bigger imbalance than I first suspected as far as how we feel about each other, so I'm going to just be more cautious.

I will meet some of his friends tonight, so that'll be interesting. I just don't know what to think, which is dangerous for an overthinker lol

Anyway, dating is stupid. :P

holly321

I think based on your last post, that meeting his friends is a good sign. Sorry your talk didn't go as you hoped.

SummerLove21

Guys are weird about "the talk." It's like they dread it so much that when it happens, it's a bigger deal to them than it needs to be and then they try to downplay it as much as possible to make it not a big deal. 

Or they're like, "I"m not seeing anyone else; what more do you want?"  Which...is a litle bit fair, right?  He's made his side of the relationship exclusive without having to be asked.  But take that with a grain of salt; I'm very "guy-brained" about some things. 

I think that he is not seeing anyone else and you are meeting his friends, are good signs.  Can you, at this point, just enjoy the relationship and revisit the nuts and bolts of it in a few months?  Just see where it goes on it's own?

ally2011

What do you do besides spend time with him? It is important to have your own life and interests at this stage. Not as a protection mechanism, but just in terms of being a whole person on your own and not looking for someone else to "complete you" like Jerry

jesuisfatiguee

Y'all, stop with the sensible and well-thought out responses. I just want to be annoyed!

I'm kidding, of course, and appreciate all the input. Like I said, I'm not ready to drop the whole thing because after 2 months he's being a goober about "labels." I like him a lot, and it's worth waiting to see where things go from here. It's just a little frustrating since I'm impatient and I know how I feel about him.

Plus, I know that he is not the people I've been involved with in the past, but when you have heard the same response from a number of people, almost always leading to the same end result... It's gonna make you wary. You know?

But I am focused on getting to know him further and hopefully become more apart of his life with being around his friends. He also basically said I'm the best he's had in bed, so, I'm trying to focus on that, too lol

kelly321

Stupid question - what is DTR? 

Anyway, as others haave said, I think it's a good thing that you're meeting his friends I also think that if you can, I'd put off any more relationship talk for a bit. I think it's good that he's seeing this as an exclusive thing.

jesuisfatiguee

Define the relationship.

Don't worry, after last night I'm not pushing the issue. I even told him outright (playfully) that everything was cool and I wouldn't be offended if he didn't want to call me his girlfriend. Y'all are the ones getting to see my frustration until I let it go. Lucky ducks I kept it to myself around him, and plan to still.

wineandcake

It's Sunday morning and I NEED to know how meeting the friends went????

jesuisfatiguee

It was awesome.

It was a pool party, so I had to get a swimsuit last minute. I found one at target on clearance that made my boobs look fabulous AND disguised my belly. Score.

It was so much fun. Everyone was pretty cool, and the one wife who was there talked to me the whole time so there was no awkward sitting alone in silence while Cute Dad did host stuff.

The BFF told me a couple times he thought I was really cool and bad ass, and he was glad to finally meet me and see that I actually exist lol.

I was nervous for no reason

octobermama87

Yay!!!!!! I'm totally sitting here with this cheesy smile on my face! It sounds like you have nothing to worry about at all!!!! I'm so happy for you Frenchie. :-D

jdilorenzo

Sounds awesome. So happy for you!!!

jesuisfatiguee

lilsebastian said:

jesuisfatiguee said:

It was awesome. It was a pool party, so I had to get a swimsuit last minute. I found one at target on clearance that made my boobs look fabulous AND disguised my belly. Score. It was so much fun. Everyone was pretty cool, and the one wife who was there talked to me the whole time so there was no awkward sitting alone in silence while Cute Dad did host stuff. The BFF told me a couple times he thought I was really cool and bad ass, and he was glad to finally meet me and see that I actually exist lol. I was nervous for no reason

I'm not a dating expert, but that's a really good sign, right? Apparently he's talking about you to his friends. That's a plus!  

Yeahhh, according to that same BFF, apparently he talked about me a lot right after our second date (during which we DTD). It was pretty adorable to hear about, especially since I had some big ol' hearty eyes at that time, too :x