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Kate_C

Pull out the deep thoughts, ladies.

JSS1002

I had a really good one this morning upon waking, and now -- like much of my brain -- it's gone.

JSS1002

Oh I remembered!  \

I never cared with James, nor did I care with this baby, whether it was a boy or a girl.  I really truly meant that.  People didn't bug me about it when we found out James was a boy, but the SECOND I found out I was pregnant this time, it seems like every comment was "Oh, I bet you're hoping for a girl, right?"  No.  I don't care.  Either way is fine.  "Oh, but you WANT a girl, right?" or comments like "Jessi needs a girl" even from my friends.  It drives me fucking CRAZY, and I'm not exactly sure why.  I'm thrilled to be having a seemingly-healthy baby, I'm grateful that I get to HAVE kids, that it was easy for me to get pregnant while I know so many struggle, and thus far have had two uneventful healthy pregnancies and seemingly healthy children, later in life.  I really resent the implication that I would have been more excited if James were a girl, or less excited if this baby were a boy, or that I somehow "needed" to have a girl to make things right in my universe... and then it bugs me even more than people don't believe me when I say that and continue insisting that I "needed" to have a girl.

And don't buy her a bunch of princess shit, please, or you will put me right over the edge.

(maybe that was more of a vent than a UO, but I have been holding that in for a while!)

Kate_C

I don't understand the purpose of rioting in response to some bad act by the government. How does that help anything? Peaceful protests are one thing, but using weapons and destroying property is ridiculous.

And on a related note, is it really necessary for police to use tear gas to contain riots? I feel like that is something you see in the war-torn Middle East, not the Midwestern US. How can you call for better behavior from protesters/rioters when you respond in such a fashion?

CoachTay

@jss1002, I completely agree! We find out next week and I'm hearing the same things -- "This one has to be a boy, you already have a girl!" It's so strange to me when people ask "What are you hoping for?" Ummm, a healthy baby would be nice!

CoachTay

My UO (or maybe not so unpopular), I cannot stand when parents allow their kids to run around a restaurant like little maniacs. We were at a pizza place by my parents house over the weekend and there was a large group of kids, probably between 8-11 yrs old, that were completely out of control. They were running around the entire restaurant, screaming, and banging on the few arcade games the restaurant has. They ended up breaking 2 of the machines. During all of this, not one parent said anything to the kids.

JSS1002

CoachTay said:

My UO (or maybe not so unpopular), I cannot stand when parents allow their kids to run around a restaurant like little maniacs. We were at a pizza place by my parents house over the weekend and there was a large group of kids, probably between 8-11 yrs old, that were completely out of control. They were running around the entire restaurant, screaming, and banging on the few arcade games the restaurant has. They ended up breaking 2 of the machines. During all of this, not one parent said anything to the kids.

Totally don't get this either. Ever since dh and I started dating we have talked about this -- it wasn't an OPTION for us to do that when we were kids. Not saying we were perfect children but our parents wouldn't let us get away with it!

ChicagoBroad26

This is long and part UO/part confession/part vent. 

So when we had Ava, we decided that my parents would be guardians in the event that H and I were to pass away. They're still in their 50's, good shape, stable, lived centrally in the US so as to be convenient to all family, etc. Well over the past year, the wheels fell off with my dad's midlife crisis, them separating, then getting back together, then making the insanely rash decision to move to their condo in Florida and sell his business in the course of the past few months…

Throughout all of this it has become apparent that they are NOT stable enough to be the guardians of my kids if something were to happen. So H and I had to chose other guardians…which ended up being his cousins that live in Vermont. H's sister and my brother are not capable of caring for our kids for various reasons, H's parents are in their 70's and poor health, and so this was just the best fit. 

I'm BEYOND angry at my parents that their actions made us have to make this decision. Yes, I pray that nothing will ever happen that makes it necessary, but I feel as though my kids won't know my family if they ever had to move to Vermont- just due to geography, not that H's cousins wouldn't make an effort. 

In tandem with this, I'm pretty sure my brother and his fiancee are going to ask H and I to be the guardians for their baby. Irrationally, I'm a little salty because I can't ask my brother to be the guardian for my kids (I love him, but he's immature, makes rash life decisions and has an on/off drinking problem). 

ETA- We have NOT told my parents that we changed our will so that they're not the guardians anymore. I'm 50/50 on whether we should. 

ChicagoBroad26

And a lighter one…

These ice bucket challenges. That's great that you're (the collective "you") raising awareness. But please include the link of where to donate to the cause…which is the reason for the whole thing in the first place. Otherwise you're just dumping ice water on your head. 

ChicagoBroad26

clgsquared said:

ETA- We have NOT told my parents that we changed our will so that they're not the guardians anymore. I'm 50/50 on whether we should. 

The likelihood of them ever knowing (unless you tell them or die) is slim.

That's kind of where I'm at, too. 

JSS1002

clgsquared said:

ChicagoBroad26 said:

clgsquared said:

ETA- We have NOT told my parents that we changed our will so that they're not the guardians anymore. I'm 50/50 on whether we should. 

The likelihood of them ever knowing (unless you tell them or die) is slim.

That's kind of where I'm at, too. 

and if you do die...you won't be around to know if they were pissed or not 

ANd if you do die, I hardly think that custody will be the thing they're upset about... 

JSS1002

ChicagoBroad26 said:

And a lighter one…

These ice bucket challenges. That's great that you're (the collective "you") raising awareness. But please include the link of where to donate to the cause…which is the reason for the whole thing in the first place. Otherwise you're just dumping ice water on your head. 

Yeah, I hate what I call "Facebook slacktivism."  So stupid.  In addition to a link to where to donate, maybe a link to some actual information about the disease... which might actually raise awareness (not just money).

pinottoparenthood

I personally don't understand people who don't care either way what the sex of their baby is! I don't have a PROBLEM with it... it's just hard for me to comprehend. I wanted a girl SO BADLY that I cried when I found out R was a boy. And now I am so glad and just love him to pieces. So I know it all works out and consider myself so blessed, but it's just hard for me to imagine going through it without a strong opinion!

Actually, for my second I will be a little less one-sided about it... because now that I have a boy, I know how AWESOME it is to have a son. At the same time, I do think I will be a bit disappointed if I never get to have a daughter. What can ya do?!

pinottoparenthood

UO: Unless you have Celiac disease, going gluten-free is stupid. 

pinottoparenthood

Also, the Oxford comma should be mandatory.

skidderdo

pinottoparenthood said:

UO: Unless you have Celiac disease, going gluten-free is stupid. 

THANK you!!!

elbou

knitfaced said:

UO: Unless you have Celiac disease, going gluten-free is stupid. 

THANK you!!!

It's used by a certain set of women I know as an excuse for their disordered eating -Gluten free vegans also avoiding sugars so no fruit.

Diets like that make my brain hurt. My in-laws are on a diet that basically has them eating meat and salad with no dressing (except oil and vinegar). There is a whole pile of veggies that they're not supposed to eat, and I just don't get why a medical professional would tell them not to eat veggies. :-/

JSS1002

pinottoparenthood said:

I personally don't understand people who don't care either way what the sex of their baby is! I don't have a PROBLEM with it... it's just hard for me to comprehend. I wanted a girl SO BADLY that I cried when I found out R was a boy. And now I am so glad and just love him to pieces. So I know it all works out and consider myself so blessed, but it's just hard for me to imagine going through it without a strong opinion!

Actually, for my second I will be a little less one-sided about it... because now that I have a boy, I know how AWESOME it is to have a son. At the same time, I do think I will be a bit disappointed if I never get to have a daughter. What can ya do?!

And I'm the opposite where I can't imagine caring or crying! No judgment it just doesn't compute to me!

JSS1002

melandjames14 said:

JSS1002 said:

ChicagoBroad26 said:

And a lighter one…

These ice bucket challenges. That's great that you're (the collective "you") raising awareness. But please include the link of where to donate to the cause…which is the reason for the whole thing in the first place. Otherwise you're just dumping ice water on your head. 

Yeah, I hate what I call "Facebook slacktivism."  So stupid.  In addition to a link to where to donate, maybe a link to some actual information about the disease... which might actually raise awareness (not just money).

I agree that most people are participating pretty haphazardly, and no one is talking about what it is..... But it actually has raised a lot of money!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-intersect/wp/2014/08/12/stop-hating-on-the-ice-bucket-challenge-its-raised-millions-of-dollars-for-charity/

I stand corrected then and that's pretty awesome.

skidderdo

Trendy diets are a waste of money and time. Just learn how to eat healthy, for cryin' out loud (and I say this with the caveat: no, not all people know what a "healthy" diet means...)

Kate_C

Also, the Oxford comma should be mandatory.

ETA yes, I recognize this isn't an Oxford comma example. But the only meme I found for that was lame. So let's just recognize the importance of proper comma usage generally.

pinottoparenthood

pinottoparenthood

Erin10408

pinottoparenthood said:

UO: Unless you have Celiac disease, going gluten-free is stupid. 

^:)^

Jenn5412

Erin10408 said:

pinottoparenthood said:

UO: Unless you have Celiac disease, going gluten-free is stupid. 

^:)^

I TOTALLY agree with you!  I have a friend is always pushing GF eating and it drives me nuts.  She doesn't have a gluten intolerance and will turn around and eat foods full of gluten.

kgs0505

ChicagoBroad26 said:

This is long and part UO/part confession/part vent. 

So when we had Ava, we decided that my parents would be guardians in the event that H and I were to pass away. They're still in their 50's, good shape, stable, lived centrally in the US so as to be convenient to all family, etc. Well over the past year, the wheels fell off with my dad's midlife crisis, them separating, then getting back together, then making the insanely rash decision to move to their condo in Florida and sell his business in the course of the past few months…

Throughout all of this it has become apparent that they are NOT stable enough to be the guardians of my kids if something were to happen. So H and I had to chose other guardians…which ended up being his cousins that live in Vermont. H's sister and my brother are not capable of caring for our kids for various reasons, H's parents are in their 70's and poor health, and so this was just the best fit. 

I'm BEYOND angry at my parents that their actions made us have to make this decision. Yes, I pray that nothing will ever happen that makes it necessary, but I feel as though my kids won't know my family if they ever had to move to Vermont- just due to geography, not that H's cousins wouldn't make an effort. 

In tandem with this, I'm pretty sure my brother and his fiancee are going to ask H and I to be the guardians for their baby. Irrationally, I'm a little salty because I can't ask my brother to be the guardian for my kids (I love him, but he's immature, makes rash life decisions and has an on/off drinking problem). 

ETA- We have NOT told my parents that we changed our will so that they're not the guardians anymore. I'm 50/50 on whether we should. 

ChicagoBroad26 said:

This is long and part UO/part confession/part vent. 

So when we had Ava, we decided that my parents would be guardians in the event that H and I were to pass away. They're still in their 50's, good shape, stable, lived centrally in the US so as to be convenient to all family, etc. Well over the past year, the wheels fell off with my dad's midlife crisis, them separating, then getting back together, then making the insanely rash decision to move to their condo in Florida and sell his business in the course of the past few months…

Throughout all of this it has become apparent that they are NOT stable enough to be the guardians of my kids if something were to happen. So H and I had to chose other guardians…which ended up being his cousins that live in Vermont. H's sister and my brother are not capable of caring for our kids for various reasons, H's parents are in their 70's and poor health, and so this was just the best fit. 

I'm BEYOND angry at my parents that their actions made us have to make this decision. Yes, I pray that nothing will ever happen that makes it necessary, but I feel as though my kids won't know my family if they ever had to move to Vermont- just due to geography, not that H's cousins wouldn't make an effort. 

In tandem with this, I'm pretty sure my brother and his fiancee are going to ask H and I to be the guardians for their baby. Irrationally, I'm a little salty because I can't ask my brother to be the guardian for my kids (I love him, but he's immature, makes rash life decisions and has an on/off drinking problem). 

ETA- We have NOT told my parents that we changed our will so that they're not the guardians anymore. I'm 50/50 on whether we should. 

kgs0505

@ChicagoBroad26  Sorry about the above post.  I can't edit it!  I was trying to say that we didn't pick family members to be our kids guardians.  We chose close family friends instead.  Too many issues with most family.  I'd love my mom to have them, but she's already raising my brother's kid because his parents (my nephew's) both suck.  His parents are fine, but not financially stable, so there we are...

ChicagoBroad26

kgs0505 said:

@ChicagoBroad26  Sorry about the above post.  I can't edit it!  I was trying to say that we didn't pick family members to be our kids guardians.  We chose close family friends instead.  Too many issues with most family.  I'd love my mom to have them, but she's already raising my brother's kid because his parents (my nephew's) both suck.  His parents are fine, but not financially stable, so there we are…

Yeah, one of our choices were close friends, but they already have 3 kids and, even though we've provided for our kids financially in our estate, the reality of having 5 kids would be a little kooky. Tough stuff, this parenting