Take a break?

Katherine1203

Well, here we come cycle 8 & 1.5 years later... ( As I said in my intro, this round I took 75iu hmg for 5 days, 5mg femara and ovidrel, and still nothing. I'm thinking about taking a break for a month or two. Good idea or not a good idea? I just think sometimes well hey my body is used to it so why stop for a month?

BethKate2

iPutKetchupOnKetchup said:

Maybe the break would be good, give you time to lurk more and decide on a new avatar.

...and maybe offer some support to other members of the community rather than just posting your own threads.

BFNs suck. If there's anyone who understands that, it's the ladies on this board, but we can't tell you if it's time to take a break or not.

Katherine1203

Oh wow ok thanks for all of your help. I was just asking for advice, maybe you guys knew something I didn't about it.

BunnyBerry

If your RE is comfortable with continuing with treatment without a break, then there's no medical reason not to. It would really be your call if you feel okay with the process or if you're ready for a break for personal reasons.

Looking at your stats, in the last couple weeks you posted 3 discussions related to your own questions, and then a reply on each one. That's not the way that community members on 3T really participate - there are so many people here needing each other, so we can feel used if someone wants to get advice or sympathy but hasn't even read or replied to other people's concerns with advice or, if they don't really have advice, then support. I think that's why you got the kind of comments you did this time.

If you click on the usernames of a few members here you can get a glimpse of the typical ratios of comments to discussions started. We're here first and foremost to be a part of a wider community, and it feels good to get to know and care about each other.

Also, as far as the break, it sounds like the long wait of IF is frustrating to you (as it has been to me!) and maybe you'd feel better at this time doing all you can to get that BFP each month? Good luck whatever you choose. And I do warmly welcome you to continue to be a part of this community.

Katherine1203

Yes very well said! No one helps when it comes to getting to know the board. These are things that I didn't really know. And 99.9% of the time, people attack you instead of telling you what you can do. I've seen it multiple times. Thanks for the advice!

BethKate2

Katherine1203 said:

Yes very well said! No one helps when it comes to getting to know the board. These are things that I didn't really know. And 99.9% of the time, people attack you instead of telling you what you can do. I've seen it multiple times. Thanks for the advice!

I didn't attack you. I told you that you should offer support to others on the board rather than just posting your own threads. Give support to get support.

BethKate2

This is from one of the mods' signatures: The Bump is not your personal Google. It's a community. Communities have rules and cultures. Get to know ours before you tell us how mean we are, how you feel sorry for our husbands, and how our infertility is caused by snark

Spend some time getting to know us.

BunnyBerry

@katherine1203 I do not agree that anyone attacked you.

The permanent thread at the top of 3T called something like "Newbies - Read Before Posting" is a great starting place is you feel like it's hard to get to know the board. 

Katherine1203

No I just wanted help and to have someone help me out. I am so not drama anywhere, so I especially don't want to be here. I truly wasn't mocking anyone, I was serious, she was truly a big help. I didn't know literally anything about this at all with posting. As you had seen I only posted three things, because idk what to do, but I do know that I need help. And if that means posting on other peoples discussions, I would love to. Sorry about all of the confusion, and I hope that you all understand and didn't think that I was mocking anyone!

Katherine1203

I didn't think you BunnyBerry or BethKate were attacking me at all, you guys were leading me in the right direction

Katherine1203

Bahaha dying laughing. Ya so that's another thing I don't know about...

Katherine1203

I swear I read the newbie post!! Haha

Katherine1203

NariaDreaming, the more I look around, I can totally see how supportive everyone is. I wasn't giving any support to anyone, so I understand why I wasn't getting any back.

Katherine1203

But no really, my little picture needs to be changed.. One minute I'm a teddy bear and the next a man holding a baby and so on

Katherine1203

Oh ya know it happens!

Katherine1203

Rumbera28 Thanks! I'm on the app, that's probably why I couldn't see any of that. I'll take a look

Katherine1203

I totally understand Ketchup! Thanks for putting me in line, I need that sometimes haha