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Two miscarriages in one pregnancy
GSUDavis
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Not really a discussion. Just my story.
Today we heard for the second time in my pregnancy that we were having a miscarriage. Today it was for real.
Early in my pregnancy (3 weeks) my beta levels were not doubling like they should and the doctor's nurse called me at 9 am on a Tuesday morning and said your beta levels aren't climbing. You're going to have a miscarriage. Better luck next time. Needless to say I was shocked by the news. Horrified by the way she delivers the news and completely overwhelmed with emotions I didn't even know I could feel. After 3 hours of trying to pull myself together, I left work and set out to find a new doctor. With the help of a friend I found a great new doctor that re-did all of the blood tests and talked to me me through the confusion and answered every question I could possibly think of.
Fast forward to three weeks ago. We see for the first time the heartbeat of our sweet baby to be (6 weeks). Two weeks later we come back to find there is no longer a heartbeat. One week later and more blood tests later, the awful news again. I had had a miscarriage. Again I was completely racked with emotion. My husband doesn't know what to do or say to make it better and I'm crying all the time. Every little thing starts me up again. I know it will pass and it will take time. And we can try again but hurts SO bad to even think about that right now.
One miscarriage in a pregnancy is painful but two in one pregnancy seems cosmically unfair.
Today we heard for the second time in my pregnancy that we were having a miscarriage. Today it was for real.
Early in my pregnancy (3 weeks) my beta levels were not doubling like they should and the doctor's nurse called me at 9 am on a Tuesday morning and said your beta levels aren't climbing. You're going to have a miscarriage. Better luck next time. Needless to say I was shocked by the news. Horrified by the way she delivers the news and completely overwhelmed with emotions I didn't even know I could feel. After 3 hours of trying to pull myself together, I left work and set out to find a new doctor. With the help of a friend I found a great new doctor that re-did all of the blood tests and talked to me me through the confusion and answered every question I could possibly think of.
Fast forward to three weeks ago. We see for the first time the heartbeat of our sweet baby to be (6 weeks). Two weeks later we come back to find there is no longer a heartbeat. One week later and more blood tests later, the awful news again. I had had a miscarriage. Again I was completely racked with emotion. My husband doesn't know what to do or say to make it better and I'm crying all the time. Every little thing starts me up again. I know it will pass and it will take time. And we can try again but hurts SO bad to even think about that right now.
One miscarriage in a pregnancy is painful but two in one pregnancy seems cosmically unfair.
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Re: Two miscarriages in one pregnancy
DD#1 born June '09
DD#2 born April '11
TTC #3 as of July '14
~Santa Claus is Coming to Town~
Me: 31 DH: 29
DX (me): Inborn error of metabolism - protein restriction, metabolic formula & weekly blood tests
DNA Results (7/1): DH is NOT a carrier for my genetic disorder!
7/3: Metabolic clinic gave the green light to TTC - holy crap!
To be honest with you, nothing your husband can do or say will take the pain away. I learned that as long as my DH was there to listen and hold me it made it easier but didn't take the pain and heartbreak I felt away. The loss board was a lifesaver! Being able to talk with women who were going through the very same thing was a big help.
Once again I'm sorry for your loss.
Proudly on the dark side
Married 7/21/12
Off bcp and ttc 9/1/13
bfp 7/20/14, m/c 7/23
will ttc again 8/14
TTC#1 Jan 14
BFP! 17 Aug 2014 | EDD 26 April 15
DS born Oct. '11
TTC #2 with PCOS since Nov. '13
Dx: Low Progesterone (3.3) on 8/12/14
Waiting for RE appointment on 10/28/14
Surprise BFP on cycle 12 -- 10/19/14!
EDD July 1, 2015
I'm so sorry for your loss.
DD#1 born June '09
DD#2 born April '11
TTC #3 as of July '14
TTC #1 8/2012~Chronic Pelvic Pain Condition began 10/2012~Told I was crazy by many doctors until a good specialist DXed a labral tear and bone impingement in left hip 4/2013~Surgery on left hip: 5/31/13 SUCCESS!!! Pain flares to continue indefinitely (but mostly gone).
Resumed TTC 6/2013~Chronic stomach pain and distension: 8/2013~TTA 1/2014 Until Resolved ~7/2014: Trip to the Mayo Clinic--SUCCESS!! Finally on the road to getting better.
Resumed TTC 7/2014! Third time's the charm....8/2014 Visited the RE~DX: MFI/low morph~Straight to IVF with ICSI! 9/2014~Transferred 1 perfect beautiful 6AA blast with 10 to freeze!!!~10/8/2014: BFP!!!! EDD: 6/17/15 STICK LITTLE BEAN!!! IT'S A BOY!!!!!
As far as a complaint I am not sure what your steps would be. Perhaps the doctors at that practice are not aware at how rough the nurse was with a patients emotions.
I have no idea where something like their misdiagnosis could be reported at a higher level, or if it would even make a difference honestly.
Baby Girl Lennon born sleeping 6-18-11 Baby Boy Anderson born healthy and happy 8-17-12
I also had a miscarriage a little over 2 weeks ago now. I would have been 12 weeks. It's heartbreaking I know. Mine was a blighted ovum so I never even got to see our little fairy. Life seems unfair at times and although it's difficult you will pull through this. For me mindfulness is helping as well as keeping myself busy. Busy nourishing my body with the goods foods it needs to pull through this and recover and busy in terms of planning exciting activities. It's a good distraction. May God Bless you on your journey. Your little star is looking down on you now from the heavens above. I like to think of the stars as souls waiting to be recarnated. Ours will come back soon. I promise you. Lots of healing love and light xxxx :-?? :x
Good luck hunny big hugssssss xxx