Ours are private unlesss they get busy and then get doubled up. We are less than 5 minutes from the hospital, so depending on the time, I'm guessing DH will go home to shower and sleep.
Our hospital recently remodeled basically the entire hospital. The OB department is huge and the rooms are massive. The delivery/triage rooms are bigger than the biggest hotel room I've ever been in, and the private postpartum rooms are still probably 3 times bigger than our bedroom at home.
DH is definitely staying with me because we'll be far more comfortable there than at home, anyway!
Our hospital has suites (all rooms are private) but we are not planning on getting a suite. They are first-come-first-served so I don't feel like we can plan on it but the reality of it is H's bed is in my room regardless and it's the tiniest bed ever. He fully intends on staying, isn't a complainer,.and is crazy excited to meet this little one so I'm cool with it.
I'm in Canada. Our private rooms are $220/day and my husbands insurance covers it. During my last labor I began in a semi private before my private room was ready and it was disgusting. Sorry, but I would never share a bathroom with another labouring woman if I could prevent it. I would pay out of pocket if need be. The private rooms here have a chair/futon thingy that turns into a pull out bed for spouses.
My husband stayed the last 2 times but he may not this time. It really all depends on when I deliver, etc. I don't need him overnight at the hospital and he may need to be home with the kids. I'm not worried about it either way.
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Ugh, I pray I get a private room. It sounds terrible to share a bathroom & I'll probably be freaking out during the actual delivery. I don't think a stranger wants to be hearing that!
With two other kids we want to keep things normal for them. I also find my husband to be very useless after baby is born since he doesn't wake up and he snores so loud.
My H went home to feed the dog and be there with her for awhile overnight. He left fairly late and came back pretty early in the AM. We'll do the same thing this time (only it will be nighttime with the dog + DS).
We have decent size rooms with a fake bed (it's supposed to be a pull out couch, but they're smaller and shorter than a twin). DH will stay the first night with me then go home the other night (s), depending on our stay.
As a FTM I think I would pay for a private room, although it would depend on how long I was gonna be there, if it's a day or two yes, but if it's more then maybe not. Hard to plan but I know I would want the privacy and DH to b there with me comfortably!
I don't think there are any hospitals where I live that have all private rooms. We are paying $300 for a private room. DH will not be sleeping over since the hospital doesn't have anywhere for him to sleep and I want him to get all the rest he can before the baby comes home. Plus, we have a dog.
Ugh, I pray I get a private room. It sounds terrible to share a bathroom & I'll probably be freaking out during the actual delivery. I don't think a stranger wants to be hearing that!
Haha, its not a shared labor room, just post-delivery. But I still am worried about how the other person will be. And I dont want to have to monitor myself and my guests so I am thinking we may bit the bullet.
Most likely. Previous births we were out of state from family, so i liked having him nearby. This time I'm ok with him going home, but he's the one who wants to stay. We'll see.
Our hospital has private rooms only and DH is staying with me. If I go in to labor early and our kennel can't take our dog at the last minute, though, he'll need to go home a lot to take care of him. Fortunately the hospital is only 8 minutes away.
There are two types of rooms, though. So his level of comfort could vary drastically. The L&D rooms are huge with a window seat that pulls out in to a bed. The postpartum rooms are smaller with just a chair that reclines.
They only move people from the L&D room to a postpartum room if they need to. If there aren't a lot of babies being born then we can stay in the L&D room the entire time. This was the case when we took our tour - the postpartum wing was empty and everyone was staying in L&D. I really hope this is the case when I deliver but if not, DH will manage.
I'd probably pay for a private room. I'd dislike having to spend $650 because that seems outrageous, but I'd do it. My thought is I don't give birth every day and I have no idea how miserable I'll feel... I'll spend the extra money to guarantee a little extra comfort.
Thanks so much for all your feedback!!! I think what we decided to do is play it by ear. Its not like we can reserve the room ahead of time. So I will start in a shared room (if I had a decent delivery) and see how it goes. If I don't like it, then we will get the private room. My husband will plan to stay the whole time, either sleep on the chair in the shared room or in the pullout bed in the private room, and if we are comfortable with him leaving, then he will. Luckily we are only 20 blocks away from the hospital so he can come and go, I just have no idea what I am in for so its hard to make the decision. We don't have any kids and have someone to watch our dog. I do want him to feel refreshed so he can be helpful, but he could sleep standing up if he had to so I'm not too worried about his accommodations. I think the thing the bugs me out the most is the thought of someone elses baby crying and waking me at times when mine is sleeping. I still cant get over that almost every single person that responded said their hospital only has private rooms. So lucky! I do like we don't have hospital visiting hours though since many of our visitors will be coming from out of town.
SS- he will sleep over until I deliver, then he will sleep at home with my daughters until I come home. Not like he can do anything in the middle of the night anyways.
Eta: all my hospital rooms are private
I had the potential for a roommate with my first but the bed stayed empty so DH was able to stay over with me. This time around it's all private rooms. If my mom is here then DH will stay with me but if baby comes before grandma gets here I'll send DH home to maintain some sort of normalcy or ds1.
Our hospital only has birthing suites/private rooms. This is our first child, so I would imagine my husband will stay with me the whole time. My family and brother in law will come into town for her birth and will stay at our house, so they can take care of our two dogs while they are there until we get released from hospital and go home.
Call me stupid, because I definitely feel stupid. What is the difference between a shared and private room? Shared as in sharing it with another mother who has given birth or what? We haven't done our hospital tour yet, I'm sure once we do that I will know.
ETA: I hate typing
. Two mothers to a room with a curtain between. Then you pay for a private room if you do not want to share.
Don't forget it's not just two mothers but two newborns!! It was really hard to sleep, I was so emotional, lonely, scared, tired... I would pay $650 in a heartbeat to avoid that again.
Also, yes there is a curtain between you and the other postpartum mom, but if you are in the bed closest to the hall/bathroom she will be walking by you, and any visitors she has, too. Also, I couldn't see the window. Felt trapped. And if she gets stinky take-out... Don't even get me started. Talking on her cell phone... Having the lactation consultant help her breastfeed for hours, babies crying. Ugh!
This is babe number three for me, and I know how fragile and emotional and tired I will be postpartum. It isn't just so that DH can sleep over, but also just for the privacy and quiet. Just chalk up the expense to the cost of living in your area and pay for the private room. I realllllly do not think you will regret it.
... DH wasn't allowed to stay, even if he had been willing to sit in a chair all night. They actually kicked him out after I had only been in my postpartum room 30 min bc it was after "family visiting hours." I started bawling. Sorry to the mom in the bed next to me! All these moms who say their husbands are going home to feed the dogs etc, it's just not the same as him being kicked out of your postpartum room and leaving you alone with a stranger who is also postpartum. I would make very very clear the terms and hours of visitors before I settled for a shared room.
Interesting that most of you have said it's only private rooms. So lucky!!
Yes I was in Manhattan when I had the shared room. The private rooms were $350 out of pocket but were all full anyway. Now in Virginia the rod are all private. Good luck! At least they will let your DH stay no matter the hour. Hopefully your roommate would be respectful about visitors.
Our hospital is all private rooms, with the pullout chaise lounger/bed for dad. I am planning on him staying with me, but if I had a C/S I might want him there 1-2 nights and send him home for better rest/to be with J after that.
If the standard was shared rooms, I'd probably pay for the upgrade to privacy, but it would also depend on the price, and how long I was there. $650 a night, I'd only pay if I was close to my deductible/OOP max
Our hospital is all private rooms, with the pullout chaise lounger/bed for dad. I am planning on him staying with me, but if I had a C/S I might want him there 1-2 nights and send him home for better rest/to be with J after that.
If the standard was shared rooms, I'd probably pay for the upgrade to privacy, but it would also depend on the price, and how long I was there. $650 a night, I'd only pay if I was close to my deductible/OOP max
The $650 doesn't go towards the deductible or out of pocket. Its purely a luxury. The shared room is covered 100%.
... DH wasn't allowed to stay, even if he had been willing to sit in a chair all night. They actually kicked him out after I had only been in my postpartum room 30 min bc it was after "family visiting hours." I started bawling. Sorry to the mom in the bed next to me! All these moms who say their husbands are going home to feed the dogs etc, it's just not the same as him being kicked out of your postpartum room and leaving you alone with a stranger who is also postpartum. I would make very very clear the terms and hours of visitors before I settled for a shared room.
I think your the only response I received that has experience with a shared room. Where did you deliver?
Ours too. A small pull out sofa deal that DH can sleep on. I like the idea of the smaller room; thinking guests won't stay as long or will wait until I am home and comfortable to come visit.
Ours is private and I was told all of them had to be or it was a HIPPA violation and illegal. Anyway, I was going to have DH stay, but now that I was reading these and remembering how badly he snores (which is why we sleep in separate rooms) and given the fact that this hospital is only five minutes from our house, he can stay at home. Good points!
Our hospital has all private rooms but being a STM, I think paying the extra for a private room is worth it. I cannot fathom sharing a bathroom after I give birth with another mom, plus her guests. That is a bigger selling point to me than having the ability to have DH stay over
Re: Is Husband/Partner staying at the hospital?
Our hospital recently remodeled basically the entire hospital. The OB department is huge and the rooms are massive. The delivery/triage rooms are bigger than the biggest hotel room I've ever been in, and the private postpartum rooms are still probably 3 times bigger than our bedroom at home.
DH is definitely staying with me because we'll be far more comfortable there than at home, anyway!
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He's not leaving me there by myself. Not sure why, but it would freak me out a bit. He brought clothes and shower stuff and was fine last time.
Grandparents will be keeping DD and the pets.
I could not ever in a million years imagine sharing a bathroom with a stranger after birth. No way.
Nope. Never.
Don't forget it's not just two mothers but two newborns!! It was really hard to sleep, I was so emotional, lonely, scared, tired... I would pay $650 in a heartbeat to avoid that again.
This is babe number three for me, and I know how fragile and emotional and tired I will be postpartum. It isn't just so that DH can sleep over, but also just for the privacy and quiet. Just chalk up the expense to the cost of living in your area and pay for the private room. I realllllly do not think you will regret it.
... DH wasn't allowed to stay, even if he had been willing to sit in a chair all night. They actually kicked him out after I had only been in my postpartum room 30 min bc it was after "family visiting hours." I started bawling. Sorry to the mom in the bed next to me! All these moms who say their husbands are going home to feed the dogs etc, it's just not the same as him being kicked out of your postpartum room and leaving you alone with a stranger who is also postpartum. I would make very very clear the terms and hours of visitors before I settled for a shared room.
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