I have a 3 yo and am 4.5 moths along with baby #2. I really need my rest because I'm expecting and need the energy to chase after my DD all day. I would sleep much better if it weren't for my husband tossing and turning all night and frequently getting up. I believe the problem would be better if he exercised. He blames his sleep problems on stress at work, but I told him that exercise is one of the best ways to reduce stress. His response is "yeah I know", but he does nothing about it.
I've tried to get him to exercise in the past, but it was no use. I hoped that maybe our toddler and DD-to-be would motivate him to get in shape. However, his problem is no now affecting me directly (he's not fat, but is tired all the time). I wish he would listen. Also, he knows I am speaking from experience. I have had stress problems myself and have addressed them through exercise. For the past five or so years I have done yoga 3 - 4 times a week, and, while pregnant, do yoga at least twice a week.
What can I do to get him to get in better shape? I feel like he is in denial about his condition. He has seen this problem in his family and still can't get motivated.
Both his parents were overweight and sedentary for a long time. His Dad finally lost weight and became active about 10 years ago. However, his Mom continues to gain weight and remain sedentary. The contrast in their health and energy levels is amazing. My husband often mentions this and even encourages his mother to be more active. He privately complains to me that he wishes his mother would be more active so she could better interact with our DD. Right now, she is rarely able to watch our DD, or participate in any family activities, because of her aches and pains and general "tiredness".
How do I keep him from following this pattern?
Re: sedentary husband, negative imapact on family life
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014
Sounds like you have said enough and need to let it go. He's aware of how you feel about the issue and repeating yourself won't help. He has to do it for himself, on his own timeline.
If sleep is the problem (and I hear you on that, my DH is a restless/short sleeper and it drives me insane) try a king size bed. If you have to, sleep in another room. Nagging him about working out is not a solution and may backfire by making him want to do it even less because he is annoyed.