I just wanted a few opinions and wasn't sure who to ask since I don't like posting my boyfriend's and my personal business in places like Facebook.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
My boyfriend has four children with his ex-wife. We have them every other weekend. Yesterday, she contacted us to say the kids have come down with Hand, Foot, and Mouth Disease. It is highly contagious and the CDC recommends that you stay home when you have it (you are contagious for a week) and also states that in some cases it can result and hospitalization and even death. To add to this, my son is a micro preemie who was born at 24 weeks and obviously has a compromised immune system.
Are we being unreasonable by not wanting to take the children when they have something like this? I understand that both parents should take care of the kids when they are sick and we do take them regardless and we normally do, but this isn't just any illness.
Re: Advice - Illness and Visitation
We don't usually skip time or change anything for illness. However, when DS was only a couple of weeks old, SD came down with some viral illness that caused such high temps that she ended up in the ER. We didn't know what it was, and I was scared that the baby would catch it. Ultimately, DH kept his visitation time, and I stayed at my parent's house with the baby for the weekend. DH sanitized a lot of things before we came back.
I wouldn't endanger the life of my child one way or another, so if the stakes are that high, I'd say you're cool to leave during the time, or cancel the visit. Otherwise, kids get sick, and while no one wants a sick baby, it happens eventually.
Thank you She has agreed to keep them this weekend, but of course not without guilt-tripping my boyfriend first. I just wanted some opinions about whether or not we were being unreasonable.
Thank you for your responses