Anyone TTC again?

TwinMom916

Hi ladies! I've been MIA for a while. My September B/G twins are now 10 months old and keeping Mommy and Daddy on their toes with crawling, trying to walk, talking and something new everyday!
As busy and exhausted as I am I LOVE being a mom and have the baby itch!!! We conceived our twins via IVF with nothing frozen, only 2 embryos to transfer and they are both here!
IVF is not and option financially and medically for me so it's all natural or medicated IUI's for us! I want to start TTC again in December.
I have a huge pageant in October and I want to enjoy the holidays with our amazing babies before possibly adding a new addition!
Are any of you TTC again yet?

smlowe9311

We haven't actively started yet but we are toying with the idea around the time dd turns one. We want our babies close in age so that they can hopefully be close growing up. We haven't decided anything yet though. We'll see how it all plays out.

smilingeyes2308

I always imagined having my kids close in age. Now that I've had DD, I'm more than okay with waiting at least a few years. I think I would now rather wait until she is maybe 3 at least to start TTC. If we have our second baby when DD is around 4, I'd be happy with that. I think I feel this way mainly because me & my SO are young (24) and I really want to give LO all of my time. I also want to be in a better position health wise and financially before thinking about expanding our family. 

olga1311

I have a bad baby itch but lately I have been changing my mind as to these gap I want between Los. I feel like if I got pregnant now I would miss all her first toddler moments and wouldn't be able to give her enough attention . Thinking we will wait until she is 1.5 to start trying

Meganbryn

smilingeyes2308 said:

I always imagined having my kids close in age. Now that I've had DD, I'm more than okay with waiting at least a few years. I think I would now rather wait until she is maybe 3 at least to start TTC. If we have our second baby when DD is around 4, I'd be happy with that. I think I feel this way mainly because me & my SO are young (24) and I really want to give LO all of my time. I also want to be in a better position health wise and financially before thinking about expanding our family. 

This is us too

Burrberrymum

mommabakes said:

We are NTNP. We are kind of on the fence about whether we are ready or not, but we would be happy if it happened. I am still BFing and haven't gotten my period back either, so I am not even sure if I am ovulating or not yet.

This is us exactly.

thedash

DD is 2.5 years younger than her brother and I did not like that age gap at all. I want to have a third either very soon or wait until DD is 3 to start TTC. We are waiting for DH to get some work related news before we decide.

olga1311

thedash said:

DD is 2.5 years younger than her brother and I did not like that age gap at all. I want to have a third either very soon or wait until DD is 3 to start TTC. We are waiting for DH to get some work related news before we decide.

Can you share what you didn't like about 2.5 year gap? We were shooting for that age gap so would be curious to know what are the drawbacks

munchkinsmama

Next month we are going to start TTC. I can't wait, he is about 11 months younger then the baby sitters son and I love their interaction. I know that it will be different as siblings, but I think it will be good a gap for our family and LO'S personality.

blond1230

mommabakes said:

We are NTNP. We are kind of on the fence about whether we are ready or not, but we would be happy if it happened. I am still BFing and haven't gotten my period back either, so I am not even sure if I am ovulating or not yet.

Exactly this!

sugarkissed

Another NTNP... Also still haven't got my period back so for all I know I could already be pregnant. Haha.

HeatherMc78

At 35 with three boys ages 6,3, and LO, I can honestly say we are done. I love the age gap and my boys always have each other to play with. However, I have been changing diapers for 7 years straight. Just when they were potty trained, a new baby was born.

thedash

olga1311 said:

thedash said:

DD is 2.5 years younger than her brother and I did not like that age gap at all. I want to have a third either very soon or wait until DD is 3 to start TTC. We are waiting for DH to get some work related news before we decide.

Can you share what you didn't like about 2.5 year gap? We were shooting for that age gap so would be curious to know what are the drawbacks

It seems to work well for lots of people but I thought it was really hard on DS and me. He was still my baby in a lot of ways and in a very (developmentally normal) selfish and needy phase. He and I had recently hit a good groove with our daily routines but the baby turned his world upside down in a day. He was also just a little too young to be interested in "helping" with the baby and he wasn't at a verbal level where I could explain complicated things to him and he could express himself well to me. That age was the high point for tantrums and needing mommy for us. He was slightly delayed verbally because he's bilingual so a more advanced kid, especially a girl, may do much better at 2.5 than he did.

Right now, at almost 3.5 I feel like he is 100 times more able to understand and explain things than last year. He's finally excited to help with his sister and likes to say he's a big boy. It also helps that he can now feed himself a lot better and play more independently than one year ago. He really needed me a lot at that age and because I EBF the baby there were huge periods of time each day I just couldn't help him. I'm sure in the long run it was good for him but there were lots of tantrums and we both cried many tears those first few months. He just happened to be in a very tough toddler stage when the baby came along and I couldn't give him my full focus to help him work through things. I'm actually a little traumatized and have tons of mommy guilt over it so I'm determined to do something different with the third.

Zoly1103

No no no! We've actually had a couple of nights where we weren't as careful (alcohol was involved) and I realized what an idiot I was the next day as the anxiety crept in about possibly adding another one into the mix.

UpsideDownFrown

Due in late February..

amy11401

UpsideDownFrown said:

Due in late February..

Congratulations!

michelle7482

Zoly1103 said:

No no no! We've actually had a couple of nights where we weren't as careful (alcohol was involved) and I realized what an idiot I was the next day as the anxiety crept in about possibly adding another one into the mix.

We have had a few of those nights and the next day I'm like what the fuck was I thinking?!? I absolutely do not want a third anytime soon, if at all!!!!!!

AlejandraN2

We're on the fence of when to start trying. We were originally thinking maybe start trying when she's a year but now think that's too soon. I kind of want to enjoy more alone time with my little girl to be honest instead of having a new pregnancy take time away from her. Plus she's followed by so many specialists so we need to focus on her right now. So maybe we'll start trying when she's 18 months-2 yrs. I may feel differently in a few months, but for now neither one of us is ready. We want 3 though and I'm 33 so can't space them out too much since we're just on #1. 

RedDDD

With DS at 27 months and LO at 10 months we are D-O-N-E DONE.  Good god I haven't slept in probably 2.5 years with maybe a short period in there like 3 months where DS was sleeping and I wasn't uncomfortable prego. and now LO is going through a horrible sleeping thing...........silent scream..............

NNGnome

We are two and done, for sure, I love the 21 month age gap between my kids, we are of the mindset of two parents/two kids, don't want to get tag teamed . Also, I have been pregnant or BFing since 2011, I want my body back, I am counting down the days until DS2 is 1 year and I can phase out BFing.

Having two under two means there is much less jealousy as the 2 yr old doesn't really remember a time before the baby, it's a lot of hard work, and they are really too young to help themselves, or understand that the baby can't do or cope with certain things. Right now for example,DS2 has started playing with DS1, and DS1 wants to play roughly with DS2 and ends up pushing him over, ending in tears and time out.

I wouldn't change it though, they are already such good friends

trinjamba

We want to wait a little before TTC again. If it were solely up to my dh we would be trying right now...he has baby fever big time. I too have baby fever but I would rather a 3-4 yr spacing between this LO and the next. There is a lot I would like to accomplish before the next baby comes along.

ZKLBM0618

Due in early February -- we knew we wanted our babies to be close together just not quite this close but we're really happy about it!

OliveMom3

We are ntnp. I've had two pp periods but since I'm still breastfeeding my chances are lower than of I were to stop BFing. We want to have our kids close in age.

lee1973

We started TTC in February when ds was 6 months old. I got my bfp in May and am due January 26th with a baby girl. Ideally, we would have waited till ds was 2, but I'm 40 years old and I had to take Clomid both times to get pregnant. So time was of the essence. I know it's going to be a challenge, ds will be 18 months when his sister is born. But this is what we wanted and are so excited!