A little background...DH and BM had SS13 when they were 18 and only stayed together until he was 3 months old. DH and I got together when SS was around 6 months old. In the beginning things were horrible as you can probably expect from two teenagers. DH and BM could not get along at all and things would get pretty hostile when they would try to exchange SS. DH being 18 years old new nothing about court orders and standard visitation, so they just worked it out on their own. BM would not always allow DH to see SS, everything was on her time. A court order was put in place when SS was 3 which allows DH EOW, holidays and summer time. He has been paying child support since they broke up.
The kids stayed with my mom last week and it got brought up in conversation about something that SS used to do when he was a baby that we thought was funny. SS said to my mom "You guys didn't know me when I was a baby, you didn't start seeing me until I was 3". My mom quickly told him that was not true and that she personally changed many of his diapers and can tell him many stories about him as a baby when he was with us. She told me just so I would know, but I have not said anything to DH as I know it would really hurt his feelings. I just don't know where to go from here. My first reaction was to talk to SS and let him know that we most definitely did not start seeing him when he was 3. It just kills me that he thinks that for the first 3 years of his life, we were not around. Clearly that is what he's been told by BM during one of the times when she was probably mad at DH but it still hurts. I don't know if we should just leave it alone since my mom did take the opportunity to try to clear that up when it came up, or if we should still talk to SS about it. What do you guys think?
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