I used to judge ___, but now I don't.

Maebb

This could be interesting. Hopefully everyone will be nice, but I was just thinking that there are certain parenting things I used to judge, but now I don't.

I used to judge parents of screaming kids in restaurants (before I had kids), but now I'm more sympathetic because I know most of the time the parents are trying hard, and it's not always easy to get a babysitter, keep the child quiet, or take him/her outside.

What about you? What did you used to judge, but maybe being a parent has changed your perspective?

PeanutButterFox

Nope.

Helenahhandbasket

Def the screaming kids in public thing.

I still cringe when I hear it, but now I don't judge.

Also-- the toddler harness thing.  We have one.  DD loves it (it looks like a mini backpack.)

Arngbride330

I don't usually judge. Sometimes I get annoyed though. I got so freaking mad at my aunt once because we went to a restaurant when we were in Texas. I wanted to eat there because I don't get there offer (every 5 years or so) and she got so pissed because a kid was screaming and made us leave. I wanted to stay, but NOOOO. My mom said she left where she was if we started screaming and crying. I try to adapt that and I think it's the nice thing to do.

NeneCakies

Oh look, a 10 ft pole. How convenient.

Arngbride330

I judge parents who use a harness "leash" is what I call it. I think it's lazy and very humiliating. I would never say anything to a mom or dad using one, but I think it's a terrible parenting decision. Sorry if I offended anyone.

Arngbride330

I guess I didn't understand the point of this post. Sorry! I thought we were saying whether we judge or don't.

PeanutButterFox

Arngbride330 said:

I judge parents who use a harness "leash" is what I call it. I think it's lazy and very humiliating. I would never say anything to a mom or dad using one, but I think it's a terrible parenting decision. Sorry if I offended anyone.

No you're not.

angelashly

The screaming in,public was one for me. Now it barley phases me. My DD will say we don't yell in the store right mama as if she never does.

Arngbride330

Not sure if that's sarcasm or not.. Lol. If you use a harness, so be it. I judge, yes. But my opinion doesn't matter because I'm not your kids parent. Rock that harness if you want. I opt not to. I don't agree with many parenting tactics, but no one is as open minded and accepting as they say they are. I choose to be honest, but I respect every parent that is doing their best.

PeanutButterFox

So @arngbride330 tell us a little about yourself. I see you joined 2 years ago, but just posted for the first time today. Way to jump in and get your feet wet!

bcbuzzafsu

I never wanted to leash my kid, but now that I have a runner, I love his leash.

Arngbride330

I joined the wedding page, and then started using this one because I'm now a mom. I try to make my son a very independent baby and I have caught crap for my parenting decisions. I wasn't trying to stir up crap, I thought we were telling about whether we judge or not.

thebanich

:::scours FB for a pic of DD on her "leash" :::

angelashly

Kids are fast yo. I would rather be called lazy for using a harness then to lose my kid in a sea of people.

Oh wise pp what is the correct way?

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thebanich

AH HA



Leash and a pacifier. #winning

FalconCrest

I used to judge know-it-all sanctimommies... oh wait, I still do.

PeanutButterFox

"I used to judge____. But now I don't."

Yea, I can see how that would be confusing.

No, no I can't.

RondackHiker

My son took the spare dog leash and snapped it on this jeans last night and made me hold the other end.

Sucks I didn't make him independent.

Smootchy

MrsBadKat said:

Arngbride330 said:

I judge parents who use a harness "leash" is what I call it. I think it's lazy and very humiliating. I would never say anything to a mom or dad using one, but I think it's a terrible parenting decision. Sorry if I offended anyone.

lol

+1

thebanich

My way too independent 3 year old loves her harness. She plays with it all the time.


And she doesn't run out into the road in front of cars.

angelashly

Oh the independent kid. Mine is independent. I still make her sit in a cart when we are at the store or stroller at the mall. Sorrynotsorry DD for ruining your life.

Arngbride330

Okay, bash me if y'all want. Idc. I will always think harnesses are shitty, but I don't give a flying f**k if you use them. I thought the whole point of this forum was to be able to be completely honest. Why do you care that I think it's a bad thing? Rock the damn harness if you think it's a good thing. I do what I think what's best for my son. I don't care if you think I'm a bitch or whatever. I'm just saying what I think.

thebanich

mbenit4 said:

Banich4eva said:

My way too independent 3 year old loves her harness. She plays with it all the time.


And she doesn't run out into the road in front of cars.

Are you saying that this is because of the leash?

Yes? 

thebanich

Sorry if that wasn't clear. The girl will run away at any given chance.

thebanich

LOL:

https://www.freetheleashkids.webs.com/

Arngbride330

4 months old... I know I don't have a toddler, so I don't get an opinion.

Smootchy

FTWR said:

Well when MIL would cross a busy road with DH, she would attach him to her with a pair of handcuffs...so there's that.

wait. was she a cop? were they fuzzy sex handcuffs? Who has handcuffs just laying around?! 

Arngbride330

I'm not wrong, my opinion is different than yours. Just because I don't agree with you, doesn't mean I'm wrong.

PeanutButterFox

Arngbride330 said:

Okay, bash me if y'all want. Idc. I will always think harnesses are shitty, but I don't give a flying f**k if you use them. I thought the whole point of this forum was to be able to be completely honest. Why do you care that I think it's a bad thing? Rock the damn harness if you think it's a good thing. I do what I think what's best for my son. I don't care if you think I'm a bitch or whatever. I'm just saying what I think.

Nobody here gives a flying fuck if you think they're a bad thing. Some of us are just able to give opinions about parenting choices without calling people lazy, and saying they make terrible choices. You smell troll-y.

Arngbride330

I want to raise him to be independent. Sorry if I didn't clarify that. I made a statement of how I felt about it. My parents never used harnesses, and we were fine. Because my parents could control us or they wouldn't take us out. We behaved and stayed with them, or we didnt get to go places. I don't see what's so wrong with making your kids act right.

Smootchy

FTWR said:

chapski said:

FTWR said:

Well when MIL would cross a busy road with DH, she would attach him to her with a pair of handcuffs...so there's that.

wait. was she a cop? were they fuzzy sex handcuffs? Who has handcuffs just laying around?! 

Lol. No, she wasn't a cop and I'm assuming they weren't fuzzy sexy cuffs. There really are so many questions about this that I don't ask. I just smile and nod.

what's fucked up is that I almost hope they were the fuzzy sex cuffs just for comfort on LO's wrist... but then wtf mom to putting sex cuffs on a kid? 

LOL 

this is really funny to me

EVA116

Arngbride330 said:

I want to raise him to be independent. Sorry if I didn't clarify that. I made a statement of how I felt about it. My parents never used harnesses, and we were fine. Because my parents could control us or they wouldn't take us out. We behaved and stayed with them, or we didnt get to go places. I don't see what's so wrong with making your kids act right.

oooh good luck with that. Also if you want them to eat vegetables, just tell them they have to.

angelashly

Just so you know you said you judge. There is a difference between something you don't like/use, but don't care if someone else does and judging those who do what you don't. And come back when your kid is running.

Fyi: I don't use a leash, but I know how toddlers are so when I see people use them it doesn't make me bat an eye. Glad they found something to make their life easier.

Codypup

I wanted to put a baby leash on our shower registry. Didn't go over so well with the H or the MIL.

Rach7170

My kid listens pretty well most of the time. Then about three weeks ago he decided that he doesn't want to hold by hand in parking lots and he is a 42 pound toddler that a thirty week pregnant woman CANNOT carry while he is thrashing around. He is now leashed. I guess I'm a lazy fuck for not wanting him to kick me in the uterus and hurt the baby.

Also LOL that a toddler would be humiliated by the backpack leash. Toddlers do not give a fuck.

thebanich

LOL @ "making your kids act right"


DAMN IT DD, ACT RIGHT!!!

Arngbride330

@CTGirl30‌ why? Because I don't have a toddler? So. I've babysat kids and taken them in public and I didn't have to use a harness to keep them near me. They held my hand or the cart in the stores. Most of my opinions have stayed the same since I had a baby.