Pregnant after a Loss

Can I join you ladies? :)

Hello ladies, my name is Melissa and I found out this week I'm pregnant with our first baby (currently 4+6, EDD 12/20).  We lost our first little Nugget in September 2013 at only 9+2 (but measuring 6 with no heartbeat).  It was a huge loss and shock to both DH and I, and really affected not only our mentality about trying again, but even our marriage.  We both blamed ourselves, even though there is truly nothing we could have done differently to keep LO growing. 

We knew we wanted to try again, preferably later this summer, so this PgAL has been a bit of a surprise.  We're both hesitant to get excited, but my husband much more so than I am - he never truly opened up about how much the miscarriage affected him, but it's clear it hit him extremely hard.  However, we are a family of faith and we're trying to trust God in all of this and that He's going to keep our little bear baby around the full term this time.  However, I can't help but get a little excited and think about having a Christmas baby ;)

So that's my PgAL story.  I'm about to be 28, a full-time grad student getting my master's in curriculum and teaching (I'm a high school English teacher), and I love to bake, knit, and have random dance parties while doing housework.  DH is an infantryman in the Army and we're stationed up in Northern New York at Fort Drum where we've been for almost 2 years now.  Glad to have some other ladies on this journey for support and encouragement!
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  • Welcome and congratulations! I'm sorry for your loss, and hope you have a H&H pregnancy!
    Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
    MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

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  • Congrats and welcome! I am sorry for your loss and I hope you have a healthy and boring 9months!

    A little bit about me...

    Married my awesome guy on 12/27/08

    DD Lucy Rae born on 11/16/2010

    Loss #1: November 29, 2012 at 8w1d

    Loss #2: June 9, 2013 at 13w (Amelia Grace)

    BFP #4: We are having a BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Peter Matthew was born on July 16, 2014!!! Welcome to our family!

     

     "If anyone asks me how many children I have, the answer is 4. Just two of them live in Heaven."

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    BFP 11/24/2012  MMC 1/21/2013 - BFP 3/29/2013  MC 4/8/2013 - BFP 4/25/2013 MC 5/6/2013 - 5/17/2013 Diagnosed with LPD - BFP 8/24/13  MC 9/6/2013
    BFP: 12/19/13  - Beta 1@11dpo: 26.8 - Beta 6@23dpo: 3,672
    Our Rainbow Son Born August 26, 2014
    Lilypie - (nueR)
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  • Welcome! I work in education and love to bake and knit as well!


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    BFP #1 : 3/20/13 | EDD: 12/1/13 | MC: 4/15/13 

    BFP #2: 1/9/14 | EDD: 9/21/14  

    Welcomed our rainbow bear on 8/31/14

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  • Congratulations and welcome!
    Began trying for a baby January 2012
    BFP 4.25.2013  EDD 1.3.2014  MMC 6.3.2013  D&C 6.19.2013
    BFP 11.3.2013  CP 11.6.2013
    BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014 
  • Congrats and welcome!! :)
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    BFP 4/17/13, MC began 5/2/13 @ 6 weeks
    EDD 12/27/13
    TTC since 2/2013
    BFP#2 9/23/13 EDD 6/8/14
     
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  • Congrats & welcome! I'm just outside of Syracuse so I'm only about an hour from you. :)
    BFP #2 3/19/14      EDD: 11/28/14
     Femara + Gonal F + Ovidrel  3/6/14  IUI #3 (plus 2x acupuncture)


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    BFP #1 7/22/13   EDD 3/29/14   MMC 8/13/13
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  • Congrats and welcome! I know it can be hard to led your guard down about this baby, I had the same issue. In fact I feel it come down just a little more each time I see it. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Good luck, and I can't wait to hear all about your journey.
    ******************** BFP Warning *******************
     
    I'm 29 and DH is 32 we have a MFI (low count) 
    IVF #1 starting in August. ER 9/5/13 23 eggs we are fertilizing 15. 9 frozen
    ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
    7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
    Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
    Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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    FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
    FET #2 - 3/3/14 - 5AB Blast -- Beta #1 3/12 - 152 -- Beta #2 3/14 - 358
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    FET #3 06/09/16 - 5AB Blast - Beta #1 6/18- 245 -- Beta #2 06/20 - 600
     PAIF/SAIF/PAL/SAL welcome!

  • Congratulations and welcome to the board!! I also teach English but eighth grade.
    Married my best friend 7/2/11 - Furbaby born 7/9/11 and brought into our home 9/1/11

    BFP#1:   2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14

    BFP#2:   2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed 

    Surprise BFP#3:  4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!

    John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz.  He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!


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  • Congrats and welcome!
  • @JustinsGirl2011 - We're in Syracuse often! Nice to have someone so close!

    @kountingsheep - Yay for English nerds! And can I say how much I love having someone who understands and appreciates the proper use of "affect"?! lol!

    @JCM285 - I'm actually certified to teach 7-12 grade English, but prefer the high school levels.  Middle schoolers scare me haha!

    @Birch113 - I totally learned to knit using Youtube videos! No one around me knows how to, and I really wanted to learn, so I asked a friend from back home for some good starter videos.  If you really are interested, I can send you some links :)

    Thanks for the warm welcome ladies! I'm praying that I'll be sticking around until "graduation" this time :D And praying the same for all of you!!
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  • Welcome and congratulations!

    DS born 10/22/2008
    DD born 12/23/2014

    m/c @10wks 12/2007
    m/c @4wks 3/2014


  • Welcome and congratulations! Love that we've got so many English nerds here. I'm not a teacher, but I majored in English and I write books. So I have much love for English teachers!

    I can totally relate to what you said about the loss affecting your marriage. DH told me the other day that I haven't been myself since November, when I had my first miscarriage. And he's probably right. How could it NOT affect us? 
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    Me (35) + DH (37) - Married Sept. 2007
    BFP #1 - DS born 7/11/11
    BFP#2 11/13/13 - EDD 7/29/14 - M/C at 5w3d
    BFP #3 12/28/13 - EDD 9/7/14 - M/C at 4w6d
    BFP#4 3/27/14 -  EDD 12/5/14 - Girl lost to 45X at 8w6d - D&C 
    BFP#5 10/15/14 - EDD 6/30/15 - M/C at 7w2d
    BFP #6 1/5/15 - EDD 9.16.14 [CLICKY for progress]
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  • @BookishMomma - I struggled with it, and I know to an extent it changed who I am, but the way it affected my husband was completely unexpected.  He blames himself for not being supportive enough at the beginning of the pregnancy (because he was in shock and didn't know how to handle the news at first, so he distanced himself until he could process it all which took about a week).  He was so overwhelmed by the stress of the miscarriage that he pulled away even more from me which was a really rough moment for our marriage.  We've worked through it all and we're okay now, but you're so right - how can we possibly be the same person after going through everything that comes along with a loss like that.
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    TTC since Sept 2011, Unexplained IF
    Oct 12 - Jan 14: 3 clomid/TI cycles, 2 hysteroscopies, 2 IUIs, 1 BFP (MMC @ 12w), 2 more IUIs
    Feb 14: Gonal-f + IUI #5 = BFP! (EDD 11/4/14)
    Baby boy arrived 11/13/14!

  • Congrats and welcome!

    Me (28) DH (27)
    Married June 2012
    Started TTC July 2013
         BFP #1          August 2013          EDD 4/29/14            natural MC at 6-7 week
    BFP #2         January 2014         EDD 9/24/14            MC at 8 weeks, D&C
    BFP #3         March 2014            EDD 12/4/14            MC at 8 weeks, D&C
    BFP #4         August 2014            EDD 4/20/15        Hoping for our rainbow
                                                It's a BOY!
     
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    Congrats and welcome!



    Mummy to 2 wonderful children
    Noah (2011) & Lily (2014)
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    @Birch113 This website has the videos that I used to get started.  It's actually got a lot of great information for getting started with knitting.  I recommend starting with size 8 needles and #4 yarn (the yarn will have a big 4 inside a box on the label) because those are the most common needle/yarn sizes and are easy to start with.  I made a scarf and a dishcloth as my first two projects, and I tend to find all my projects at Ravelry which has free knitting patterns.  The patterns can be kind of confusing, so feel free to PM me with any questions!! :)
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  • @Birch113 Michaels is absolutely going to be your best friend! The yarn there is cheaper than JoAnn's and the selection seems to be better (at least in our stores).  I don't know what the selection at Hobby Lobby is like, since we don't have one closer than an hour away, but they usually have wonderful sales too. 

    Also, these are seriously the best deal for needles.  I got them and they are great quality and a huge selection for such a cheap price (you get 18 different sized sets in this pack).  Plus I love bamboo more than metal or plastic.  However, the needles themselves aren't labeled so you'd want to buy a label set from Michaels if you get these needles.
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  • Congrats and welcome to the board!

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    Our 3 Precious Angels That Left Us Too Soon
    BFP #2-EDD 07/05/13 - Tater and Tot passed at 12w3d. D&C 1/17/13
    BFP #3-EDD 12/19/13 - Peanut passed at 9w1d. D&C 05/31/13

    Diagnosed with Hypothyroid 05/20/13 

    BFP #4 - 09/22/13 - DD#2 born 05/27/14

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  • COngratulations on your BFP! I hope you have a happy and healthy nine months.  Yay for a Christmas baby!
    Married 8/4/12
    BFP #1 EDD 12/5/13, MMC
    BFP #2 EDD 4/27/14- Our rainbow arrived 5/1/14!
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