How do you deal with meeting a newborn (newborn mentioned)

WA1215

So, our niece had her baby and it's time to go meet the baby (sometime this week or on Easter). I don't even know how to act, I'm so nervous to be around a baby...something we desperately want. I'm afraid I'm going to get emotional

Jetta83306

I don't have any advice, but I am in the same boat. My one and only (younger) sister is due any day now. I am excited but also sad/jealous/nervous. I know I am going to be crying when I hold my new nephew. She knows everything I've been through so I know she will be understanding. Prayers for you. Hope everything will be ok for you ((HUGS))

BeckyP005

I think you will surprise yourself.

I was a basket case before meeting my newborn nephew and 3 of my good friend's newborns. My stomach hurt so bad and the nerves oh my!! You know I did great. So hard to feel sad when holding them and never shed a tear BUT that did happen when in the car driving home. Lol.

Guess no advice but hoping your emotions hold off until you get home. Good luck So hard I know....

jaztastic

Thinking of you... Hopefully you find some joy in the situation.

Tea+

One of my best friends is due next month and I have the same fear. Specially since her baby sprinkle made me sad. (more so than I thought). I do try very hard to be happy for them and hopeful for myself. All of your feelings are understandable. I hope the day goes smoothly when you do see them. xo

babydreams13

I just try to tell myself it will be me one day.  I try to be positive.  Its definitely not easy.

gsancho

If I've been in a situation where I'm forced to interact with the baby, I've actually been suprised at how well I handled it.  Leading up to it and afterwards I'm a bit upset.  But at the time I'm ok - not great, but pleasant and polite.  

I usually just keep the meeting short and make up an excuse to head out early.  And I plan on things to say, questions to ask, etc., ahead of time - this way I feel much better having a game plan in place to seem normal and not all out of sorts or emotional.

WA1215

I don't mean to sound mean about this, but it's really hard to be happy for someone who dropped out of high school, has no job, chose to get pg by a convicted felon who smokes pot, and got pg bc of a pg pact with her friends. It makes me ill that I'm forced to be happy for her about the situation. It just sucks. Sorry for the vent.

Tea+

Well, that I say warrants those feelings even more. However, it is not about them but the baby who didn't ask for that mess. That's how I'd try to see it. Sorry for that suckass issue tho. Good luck either way.

pblge

I hadn't responded to this post, because I have thus far avoided this situation. However I just found out that there will be a newborn around for this entire family weekend (husband's extended family). To make matters worse, they named the wretched little tot Justinian. FFS. Don't know how I'll deal with this, but reading this post was helpful. Thanks, and hugs to all!

WA1215

Thanks everyone for the encouraging words and support. I have been pretty strong so far, I'm just afraid of getting emotional or crying in front of the ILs-especially since I'm in the IF closet. @pblge‌ - I will be thinking of you this weekend, let's hope we can both get through this!!!

justisonbarron

Hi! I'm new and this is my first post. I just went back home to visit my brother (12 yrs younger than me) and his new wife's baby in March. She (the baby not the wife) was a week old. They are both young and got pregnant "by accident" and are so blasé about it all and it is infuriating and endearing at the same time. However, it was very nice to meet the baby, and I think it taught me a lot about the acceptance that has to come with undiagnosed infertility: people are going to get pregnant around you like crazy, and it is going to suck. Anyway, it was not a big deal to be around the baby, but my husband especially was very sad afterward. So, be prepared to feel a lot of feelings, but this too shall pass

(Also I don't know if my signature/avatar works yet so if all that seems weird, sorry, I promise I'm not weird).

mrscsw

Well sad ladies.  I have been avoiding babies like the plague.  Last weekend a friend of ours (who were married a few months before us) announced they are expecting their 2nd child.  I felt like someone stabbed me in the heart.  Next week I have to attend a different friend's baby shower.  Thank goodness there will be alcohol! 

WA1215

Update! We met the baby on Easter. I held her, and although it felt sad at first...I tried ignoring my feelings and it worked. I was numb holding her, I didn't hold her long, then passed her onto DH. The worst part...SIL was complaining to me saying, "I guess you'll never make me an aunt...you guys need to get on that!" I ignored it. (We are in the IF closet) I seriously wanted to scream. SIL is a freak of nature. She has a 2 year old at the age of 45...and her boyfriend is 55. And yeah her 20 yr old daughter has made MIL a great grandmother already. I wanted to say not everyone can spread their legs and get knocked up as easily as you do. It's sickening.