Late missed miscarriage

purplehaze11

Morning ladies, New to the board. Found out on Wednesday (at 15 weeks pregnant) that the fetus was not viable, and had no been for some time- but my body had not processed. Apparently this is very rare (as they think the fetus stopped growing 6-8 weeks ago). Had a d&c yesterday. Just wondering if anyone has been through something similar? I'm sad, and very mad at my body- not for the m/c, but fort missing it for so long- thought I was past the point of worry Hugs to all

AggieBeth06

Oh no! I'm so sorry for your loss. I didn't go as long as you, but I felt betrayed or mislead by my body. I felt "led on" because I still felt pregnant when we found out!

(((Hugs))) to you. Hope you're recuperating well. The emotions take a bit longer.

KingLED

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mmc was discovered at the NT scan (stopped growing at 9 wks) and I had a D&C, no telling how long it would have taken my body to recognize it. It's really frustrating to not even be able to rely on your own body to recognize when something has gone wrong.

PS- If you could edit your siggy to remove your pregnancy ticker it would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Cocoasushi

First of all, sorry for your loss dear. ((hugs)) Mine was quite late like yours, at 19 weeks I gave birth to my son. He had died from the severity of his spina bifida and hydrocephaly, and had passed away about a week before I started to feel that something was wrong. I still had my pregnancy symptoms the whole time he was with me. I guess my body was trying to fix it instead of miscarry? I'm not sure. I had to be induced to give birth to him. My body was showing signs that it would eventually do it on its own, but the risk of infection made me decide to go ahead with induction.

meredithcarole

I'm so sorry for your loss. My missed miscarriage was discovered 3 or 4 weeks after the fetus had died. I never really felt angry at my body, I guess I looked at it a little differently. I was, of course, heartbroken, but if my body was holding on that tightly I knew that it didn't want to let go either. I can totally understand how you would feel angry that you didn't know for so long. I hope you find the support you need here.

Maxsmommy123112

I'm so sorry for your loss and from PPs you can see you are not alone. My second miscarriage was missed by 3 weeks. I had a viability scan, everything looked great so they stopped monitoring me so closely and that is when I miscarried.

I remember feeling so angry (along with all the other emotions of course) and "tricked" in a way because i thought I was pregnant the whole time. I was talking about the baby, holding my belly, thinking about his/her future. And all the while I had lost the baby. It's an awful feeling. Sometimes I wish there was some way we could just know instantly. Seems like the waiting period and having missed MCs just add to the emotional and physical pain.

((Hugs)) to you

stephy1221

I am so sorry for your loss. 

Yaz14

I'm so sorry for your loss  . You're not the only one. I just experienced a missed miscarriage. I had a D&C on Monday when I would have been 11 weeks to take out my baby who died at 6 weeks so my body hadn't recognised the miscarriage for 5 weeks. I'm sure it would have gone on a while more too of I hadn't had the D&C. Plenty of the women on this board have experienced missed miscarriages, we understand what you're going through unfortunately. 

purplehaze11

Thanks for the responses ladies, I have no IRL friends who have gone through a Mac more than a couple of weeks, or such a late loss. I told work on Monday, then had the u/s Wednesday. Thankfully we hadn't really announced yet, so I did not have to tell that many people. I'm feeling in a bit better of a place today, still needing my rest from the procedure, but starting to focus on the future as a means to cope.

ambmama

Ticker warning.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I have definitely had times through this process that I've been mad at my body (and everyone else). T&P to you. Hugs!

MAH1009

*ticker warning*

I found out at 13 weeks that I had a missed miscarriage. I had a dating ultrasound that showed a baby with a strong heartbeat at just over 8 weeks. Fast forward five weeks - we couldn't find the heartbeat with the Doppler so she had me do another ultrasound, the baby measured about 9 weeks and no heartbeat. I had zero signs prior to the ultrasound, after finding out my body seemed to respond a bit I've had on and off cramping and bleeding since then. I would be a little over 15 weeks now, I'm still hoping for a natural miscarriage. If it doesn't happen this week, I'll end up with a d&c next week.
I'm definitely frustrated that my body didn't make more progress once the miscarriage was confirmed. I feel like it's teasing me by dragging out the process for so long.
Very sorry for your loss.

purplehaze11

Thank you for the post, MAH1009. Seems like we are in a similar situation. I felt like I mentally couldn't wait for my body to naturally handle anything, knowing my uterus was empty but still growing (and had been for almost 2 months). I just feel like my body has betrayed me, plain and simple. Hugs to you, keep me posted. Feel free to message me if you need any support.

kreardon11

I am very sorry for your loss. At 9 weeks I found out I had a blighted ovum. Babe stopped growing at 6w6d. Unfortunately, the pregnancy symptoms continued for me which made it even worse. Love, prayers, and healing to you.

nohalo21

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a MMC discovered at 18 weeks. They are unsure as to when she had passed since she was measuring small already due to triploidy. They feel she could have been gone for 2 weeks. The emotions I have felt have been all over. I like to think that my body tried to hold onto her but she had to leave to protect me (chances are we would have had to TFMR had this not happened). I know it doesn't change things, just gives some comfort.

Take care of yourself. Know that the emotions you are feeling are all part of the process.