Am I over thinking this.

RitaLee

So I find my self thinking about babies all the time.  I think about having a family literally ALL day.   Am I doing more harm that good?  Does it make a difference.  Here is a little background on me.  My DH and I have been married for almost 3 years and been together for 8.  No kids yet but we both love them and are always talking about having a family.

I have been dealing with some emotional distress because of my unhealthy weight and poor self image.  But I am now trying to get my fitness on and become healthier.  I have PCOS and am dealing with those issues as well, I have had the doctors I have seen basically all tell me that conceiving is basically going to be a shit show for me.  Kind of disheartening.  I applaud all of you here who have been through so much more than me and are able to offer advice and keep moving forward.  You are all a testament to how amazing people can be! 

I digress in this post, I basically just wanted to say that I appreciate everyones comments and tough love on this site and I hope that I can count on some sound advice when I need it  

:-/

LadyXaverian

It is hard not to let it consume you when you first make that decision to TTC. I hope you and your doctors can come up with a plan that will work for you. Good luck.

RitaLee

SarahL77 said:

It is hard not to let it consume you when you first make that decision to TTC. I hope you and your doctors can come up with a plan that will work for you. Good luck.

Thank you, I hope so too.  Unfortunately I don't feel like my doctors and I have a firm plan in place.  My period was so out of whack last year that there was really no way that I could have actually TTC.  Thankfully my period came and went 'normally" this month so I am hopeful that this is the beginning of actively TTC.   

pippacricket

Are there any hobbies or projects you could do to take your mind off things? In the past, when I've had baby fever and it just wasn't the right time for DH and I to ttc, I tried redirect my "obsession" to something. Lately, it's been home improvement projects or planning weekend getaways for the summer. Having things to look forward to helps to keep me distracted while I wait to TTC this summer. Good luck!

GirlOnTheBeach

If you are really thinking about it ALL the time, you do need to find something else to focus on to break it up a little.

Also, are you temping? I have PCOS too and really crazy cycles but still got a +HPT back in January. It took a year of actively trying and it ended up being a loss but I never would have even known when to try if it hadn't been for temping.

ETA: words...

ktkoala

We just started TTC and honestly, I think about it a lot too. I find most down time on the internet searching for pregnancy things or reading this forum. Temping has made me a little more crazy because I find myself checking and looking at it a lot. I figure that for at least a little while, it's ok to be excited about it as long as it isn't impacting other areas of my life.

dreemkin84

It's always on my mind too. I don't have any advice but my H reminded me today as I was getting discouraged about negative OPKs that this is a positive, exciting thing and that made me feel better.

Welcome and good luck!

Pookieson

It is not impossible.  Temping has saved me.  I used to think every twinge was ovulation, or period coming, or implantation because I had no idea what was going on.  Good luck.

RogueZymosis

I was baby crazy for a few months, it has since evened out to the point where I wish I was more excited. I wouldn't worry about being excited, just try to not get too disappointed if it doesn't happen right away.
Good luck on your journey!

RitaLee

Thanks Ladies!  :-h